This sub and r-seduction literally changed my life to be 100x better like 6 years ago so I've been on both sides of the coin. Anyways:

'Becoming a Man' is no longer required to survive as a man in the western world. Infact, I don't think the rate of young males making a transition into becoming a traditional 'man' is even 50% these days. Some will honestly never make it. I define 'Becoming a Man' as the old adage of when a man starts to:

  • take responsibility for himself
  • take action to further his goals (whatever they may be)
  • become independent and provide for himself in preparation for providing for a family
  • be assertive and know when to say yes and when to put the foot down
  • advance their life in several different avenues
  • take care of his own body
  • be able to take emotional hits and not let it affect him
  • wake up every day with a drive and purpose, and even on the bad days just power through because he knows he has to
  • stop complaining and either take action, or grin and bear (whatever the man determines is the best course of action for any given situation)
  • etc (you all know the drill)

But at some point (my personal theory is around the time the internet blew up), the % of men who did not go through this personal transformation shot up. There was always a % of men who found a way around becoming a man, but it was a smaller %. They were children of sheltering rich parents, they lucked out, or they were just plain old beta. But today it is a huge %, and it is the root of the reason that this subreddit exists. Some betas have the capacity of thought to realize that what they are doing just isn't working and stumble upon this place in search of answers. But most don't. They are too absorbed in the absolutely ridiculous amount of:

  • information (by no means is this necessarily useful information)
  • content (youtube, netflix, REDDIT, etc)
  • social media annoyances

To ever have any reasonable amount of time to themselves. Time to sit in their own head an ponder and reflect. I think that is a difference between the youth of today and the youth of 3 decades ago that really separates us. Negligible amount of time pondering life, pondering what steps to take next, pondering what a man really wants with his life. Young men these day are, on average, awkward and meek. Unimposing. Some of them have even come to resent what a true man looks like. This often sounds like moral superiority coming from their mouths, but it spawns from a position of jealousy. They wish they could be like Mr. Moneybags, or Mr. Talented, or Mr. Strongman, or any other Mr.[Insert alpha trait], but they have never taken the required amount of time to consider and reflect on what exactly they want and what exactly they need to get what they want. They are too busy binging every single new series on Netflix. Too busy jerking off. Too busy scrolling through various social media feeds. Too busy glancing at headlines on Reddit and moving their eyes to the next post. They become grown men who watch cartoons and content for children. Make no mistake, these beta 'men' are completely pathetic. Nevermind that time spent online/gaming/etc is NOT a substitution for socializing, and I very much believe that socializing is required for human happiness. This ties into my personal hypothesis that humans have not evolved to even handle being able to access millions of people in an instant or being able to be contacted in an instant, but that is a different topic that I could write pages on.

It is a serious epidemic that makes me worry about the future. The lure of distraction is too enticing for many young men, and the distraction doesn't help them develop or reflect, and without reflection and personal development these young boys never make the personal transformation to become a Man (or at least the traditional definition of Man that has been used for thousands of years until about 10 years ago).

P.S. This is not really the worst thing IF you are so enlightened to become a man. The rising % of boys becoming manchildren instead of boys becoming men means that IF you do become a man, you have an advantage over the complaining betas that has never been so large.