Beta/Nice Guy does everything right for 17 years but then comes crashing to reality

rp_divorced · 2014-08-09T23:58:17+00:00

I could have written this story almost exactly the same, right down to the 17 years of marriage.

My wife never had to work or want for anything when married to me and the first guy she fucked two weeks after telling me it was over was a guy on probation who worked at a second hand store.

Nothing matters when the tingles take over.

holyshyeet · 2014-08-10T02:44:41+00:00

For me this quote really hit hard

"We're a good team," she admitted. "You do look after me, but you don't make me feel special."

The guy does everything and more and yet there is this intangible "make me feel special" quality that she never tells him about and then goes sleeps with another man and ends 17 years of marriage and a family.

Fucking brutal. I hope she got her due.

Reddthrown · 2014-08-09T22:13:49+00:00

"I don't want to feel sweaty before I get to the gym". Priceless.

redpillshadow · 2014-08-09T22:26:13+00:00

My wife began sleeping in the spare room on the basis that she was "seeing someone else" and it would be "inappropriate for me to see her naked".

Those cunts are brutal aren't they.

This is an edited extract from Single Father, Better Dad, out on August 21.

A book. So there will be chapters whether he learned from it.

SkorchZang · 2014-08-10T01:12:22+00:00

Heartbreaking story. It's heartbreaking how textbook everything the woman did was, and how ignorant men are about it.

This is why men in "happy relationships" need TRP especially badly.

johnnight · 2014-08-10T01:03:35+00:00

I know it's a cliché, but I genuinely hadn't seen it coming. I felt that something wasn't quite right, which was why I had trawled through her mobile phone. ... Seventeen years of marriage over, just like that.

That college guy with the $6k trip to Europe also did not see it coming, but something was fishy for the last 3 weeks.

I'd say it can come for EVERYONE. Especially for guys who can not keep up the excitement. Your beta provisioning and niceguying means nothing:

I simply didn't understand it. I drove myself mad as I ran mental laps through my head. What had I done wrong? I thought I was a good husband and father. I had a good job, I was helpful, I did the washing-up, mowed the lawns, ironed my shirts, took the bread out of the freezer – more than a lot of men did – and, most importantly, I did my bit with the children.

Excitement, excitement, excitement. Envy by other women. It's explicitly said here:

Although I was useful around the house I had not, it was pointed out to me, been a good husband for some time [bullshit]. I had become the marital equivalent of a high-end vacuum cleaner. I was reliable and rarely broke down, I was capable and did what was expected of me, but I wasn't fun to use. Practical, but not exciting or inspiring. My wife didn't want a vacuum cleaner ... She wanted something special, an up-market espresso machine with aesthetic appeal to be an object of desire among her friends.

Also lol at this carousel reference:

The world had become one huge out-of-control fairground ride.

let_terror_reign · 2014-08-10T04:29:20+00:00

Heartbreaking. I hope he raises his daughters to be better than his ex wife. I LOLed at the irony of him wanting to save his daughter's 'hamster'. No, brah, ALWAYS let the hamster burn

Wheatspin · 2014-08-10T01:19:40+00:00

I like how his wife vehemently denies that she could ever be cheating and then days later demands a divorce because she's found someone else (sooooul mate). And to top it all off, he says he genuinely didn't see it coming? I imagine that's what it must be like to put on a blindfold and trying to cross a highway - willfully oblivious to impending disaster.

YaBoiTibzz · 2014-08-10T07:47:07+00:00

And this right here is why I'm not having children. No matter how promising it may look at first there's just no way you can guarantee that your woman won't get tired of you at some point down the road; and your kids don't deserve to go through a divorce like that.

toofantastic · 2014-08-09T22:41:01+00:00

This guy was clearly deep in the blue pill beta zone and by any standard his wife was astonishingly selfish. This is a good read, but I cringed when he talked about how they "made love for the last time." There is no "making love," only having sex.

whitey_male · 2014-08-10T02:27:34+00:00

He's a management consultant. You have to be basically a genius to do that job, and it pays probably 300k+ per year. Not alpha enough for her. His wife is a cunt. Her excuse merely that she's bored.

This is reverse AF/BB. She will divorce him and he will be effectively paying for her to live in a house and fuck the gym guy. BB/AF.

ceo_of_apple · 2014-08-10T06:47:36+00:00

This was so painful to read. I usually am not emotionally affected by stories other people tell, but this really hurt- I genuinely felt bad for the guy. He thought he didn't everything perfectly- and got royally fucked over in the worst way imaginable.

WeAreGlidingNow · 2014-08-10T12:03:41+00:00

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

Wow, I thought girls stopped saying that line once they reached 13 or 14. I never understood this weasely phrase. It's like: "I'm hungry, but I don't feel hunger."

So, this was a UK story, but if told in the USA, it would end with: I am now working two extra jobs to keep up with the huge alimony payments, she got half my 401k, so I can never retire, and I had to pay her legal fees as well.

JP_Whoregan · 2014-08-10T19:11:45+00:00

I've been trained to solve problems through analysis of facts, logic and carefully constructed arguments.

Facts and logic do not apply to women. This guy stopped giving her the gina tingles, and she even pretty much openly admits just that. You can never stop running game, no matter how long the relationship or how secure and stable you might think things are.

TheWindyCity · 2014-08-09T23:08:32+00:00

Even if you're redpill, marriage by default puts you in beta territory to an extent, which is why if you ask me, a LTR relationship is the real test of how redpill you are because you're always fighting a progressive uphill battle

nefuratios · 2014-08-10T11:50:32+00:00

I wonder if the daughters are really his.

the99percent1 · 2014-08-10T15:00:07+00:00

When I was in my mid 20s, I slept with a 38 year old married woman.

Her husband was rich, handsome, fit and ran a gym. It still baffled me how easy it was for me to ravage this lady..

Why did I fuck her? simple. she was in great shape for a woman her age. There were clear dtf and indicators of interest. She kept making snide remarks at my frame. So one day during work, I couldn't take it anymore and fucked her good in the office toilet. When I saw her enter, I followed in, pinned her against the sink and said 'is this what you want.' and proceeded to fuck her.

We fucked a couple more times till I had enough. Old pussy is quite a let down...

She slept with a few more men before initiating divorce proceedings with her husband. She of course took the house and 50% of his net worth. And since they had three young kids, she receives alimony and child care.

I almost feel sorry for the husband.

Pdr_vzlr · 2014-08-10T14:40:47+00:00

Kinda feel sorry for the guy

variableLt · 2014-08-10T18:16:44+00:00

So, to all those guys that still think that they have a control of their women in marriage, remember only this: "Seventeen years of marriage over, just like that."

17 years of marriage - over, when his dad has cancer, throwing everything away just like that. They don't strike when you are on the top of the hill, they strike on your way down.

They don't think about consequences. They don't think about children. They are wicked creatures.

If you need to get married, for the love of God, stay on the top of your game, hide your resources, get a second passport, 'cause when shit hits the fan, it will be too late and you will find yourself on a ghostship without any fuel left.

kindlebluemoon · 2014-08-10T20:29:46+00:00

It's pointless to be angry at the wife. You can't force yourself to love somebody. Anything is better than keeping a loveless marriage together just to keep it together.

It's easy to blame divorce laws, feminism, and "modern society" for the state of the world, but I think it goes deeper than that. Modern divorce makes it easier for women to exit out of marriage when they become unhappy, but what would the alternative be? You both stay chained together, both miserable, and "try to work it out." Working it out doesn't mean your marriage becomes happy again, it means you get accustomed to unhappiness.

Let's face it: marriage and monogamy are not natural and never were. Marriage helps a lot for social stability, yes. But fuck that. You don't owe society shit. Don't get married.

I can't think of a single couple in their 40s whose lives I'm jealous of. I just don't want that at all. You only live once, why be fucking miserable?

BluepillProfessor · 2014-08-11T04:29:43+00:00

Again I ask: Is there a macro for these stories.

Right down to the ILYBINILWY because you don't make me ~~feel special~~ Tingle any more speech.

HeadingRed · 2014-08-11T19:52:38+00:00

Watching a guy in the office head down this path right now. Buddy from another place I worked at had this happen to him.

No amount of little league games, lawn work and nice birthday parties will save you if you don't get her turned on. At the end of the day she still wants a guy that makes her need to change her panties if she thinks about him too much.

Great father and husband? Good for you and that helps. Not lover material? No you have a problem.

LoudHydraulics · 2014-08-10T11:22:14+00:00

All of you pill popping redpillers out there: what would have been a more red pill approach to this marriage? Would working out more, not caring about her too much and fucking her harder have saved their marriage? Would that necessarily make her feel more special?

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watersign · 2014-08-10T03:03:46+00:00

dude is a mgmt consulting..prob spends more time in front of the spreadsheets than he does smashing his wifes gutss

Title	Beta/Nice Guy does everything right for 17 years but then comes crashing to reality
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Date	August 9, 2014 9:45 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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