[FR] Lesson learned = fuck her ASAP.

AdonisLives · 2016-09-25T01:58:35+00:00

If she's showing signs, you have to fuck her. Simple. It's 2016 and western women have plenty of dick to go run to.

Baylien2 · 2016-09-25T02:06:14+00:00

Let me get this straight, you got her at yo crib, making out and petting...then you dont fuck her? Wtf is "leaving her wanting more"? You already had her on the hook. Dafuq is wrong with you OP?

dr_warlock · 2016-09-25T07:48:37+00:00

Two things:

1) This tactic is often employed when you think you'll encounter impenetrable LMR. Rather than experience the rejection, you try to play mind games that women are fond of in hopes the next time you encounter her, sex is guranteed. Which brings me to my next point.

2) Men's sexuality is constant. By that I mean, once you think a woman isarousing, she remains arousing regardless of what happens after the last time you saw her. Women aren't like that. They are fickle, easily distracted, and live in the moment. In this moment, she is aroused. However, when that moment ends, for whatever reason, her tingles are up for grabs. Her feelings fluctuate for no reason. You could be hitting it off at the club, then her girlfriends grab her for a second, she has fun elsewhere and another guy enters the picture. Chad's back... with tingles. She'll forget about you and the progress you made. Next time you see her, hoping to finish off your saved game, you'll be ignored or receive some bullshit excuse as to why she no longer feels that way. It doesnt have to be a guy, it could be any distraction.

Any time in between the courting stage and the bang not focused on you is more time for her feelings to warp. To get a bit off topic, this why guys get roudy and territorial and use clown game. Men instinctively know women are fickle, so they compete for her attention in a sea of sexual ad exposure and distraction. The guys 10ft away, a band on stage, guys texting her, guys on social media, guys calling her, a bad smell, getting bored, hormonal changes, not feeling 'comfy', her girlfriends trying to convince her to leave... The slightest thing can distract her and it's game over. Females of almost every animal species are like that.

Conclusion

The lesson here isn't chad. The lesson is to go for the no, strike the iron while it's hot.

favours_of_the_moon · 2016-09-25T04:00:34+00:00

Chad was the backup. He was already in play.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-25T07:05:26+00:00

"Strike while the woman is hot!"

Words to live, and score, by.

TRPBackpacker · 2016-09-26T00:03:34+00:00

LOL happened to me too.

I had a meeting the next morning and need to go to bed early so I kicked her out from my bedroom. Never get a response again.

Thing is. The "hard to get"/"I have a life and isn't desperate for sex " dialogue only works for women who are not that into you at first. If she's ready to fuck. Fuck her first. Then play the game of chase later. Women know you are playing the game. But the game doesn't work when she has a men lined up everyday of the week. You missed your appointment to fuck on that day and the doctor has too many patients to reschedule you.

michael_wilkins · 2016-09-25T03:38:36+00:00

There is a fresh section of concrete in the footpath near my place and someone has, I shit you not, written in the wet concrete "I Heart Chad"

mwandazimu · 2016-09-25T03:07:16+00:00

Are you me? Jesus I just went through something incredibly similar but the only difference was that we were fooling around in a secluded part of the mountain near a waterfall.

Looking back I was knuckle deep inside her but hesitated to go any further thinking "I'll get it done the next time I see her". Bitch disappeared off that face of the planet after I dropped her off.

The next week I see her at the bar I bounce at getting dick thrown her way like it was running out of fashion.

writemeoffgiveuponme · 2016-09-25T15:18:07+00:00

Fuck yeah op. I took my neighbor out to the fair awhile back. We made out all over the fair and kissed and groped in my truck afterwards. I should have fucked her right there but I made the 30 minute drive home and by the time we got back she was going to go home and change and come right over. Well, she texted me that she was tired and would make it up to me another night.

Haven't seen her since :(

JJMcgray · 2016-09-25T06:14:33+00:00

"leave her wanting more" game

That's a thing?

I ask because I thought the point was to close as soon as possible. I see no reason at all to ever not fuck when she is open to it.

Perhaps if you are married or in a LTR, but the first time? Who does that?

redditatt · 2016-09-25T06:45:59+00:00

Strike while the iron is hot. These women today have zero attention span.

enkae7317 · 2016-09-25T07:54:32+00:00

Don't play any games. Just fuck her.

fuu969 · 2016-09-25T09:44:37+00:00

Well done, you did all the foreplay for chad

newName543456 · 2016-09-25T11:45:13+00:00

Attraction is fickle. You can't bank on having it carried over to the next month, week, even day. Rush from all those hormones/neurotransmitters passes, and we're back to square one. Or someone else banks the rush you created, while it's still there.

clavabot · 2016-09-25T15:59:26+00:00

I can relate so hard to this. There is this girl in my uni, we hit it off, made out for a bit then I pulled the leave her asking for more bit, now she won't ever respond to my fb messages. Lesson: Always be Closing, escalate fast and hard.

Hakametal · 2016-09-25T14:36:03+00:00

Masculinity is about taking what YOU want, when YOU want. The beta lies in your consciousness, the alpha is buried in your subconsciousness.

Start listening to your gut (your masculinity), take what you want, and do not give a fuck.

revengeofthecrazy · 2016-09-26T16:08:20+00:00

Moral of your story: Close on a high.

Sometimes, we are Chad. I went to an office and a cute looking girl sits there, typing. I said "I'm so glad to see you." as if I knew her. Jackpot. She had insta-twinkly eyes. Then I teased hard. We hang out for a day or two, I escalate and give her feelings. She breaks up with her boyfriend of 7 years. Poor guy, probably wondering "Why is she not texting back??". I tell her to come over and not be late. We take a walk and I tease her. She explains the things that are going wrong in her relationship. I let her rationalize it off, say nothing and try to categorize her face. She was something like a 7 or 9 niche girl. Decent or epic, depending on the angle. Very interesting. I'm taking her blouse off on my couch while she's smiling and breathing and telling me "You are too fast, I'm not like this." (I think she was telling the truth, she was shaking a bit... My god, she was a cute one.) Anyway, we fuck for a week, we kiss, we hug, we laugh. She's high on emotions. SUDDENLY, her replies fade out within a day. She ejects, probably feeling horrible about herself. Boom on. Boom off.

Moral of my story: AWALT. Be Chad.

grrrallnamestakengrr · 2016-09-25T07:31:01+00:00

Made similar mistake several times. Still living it down. Thought they were into me I like I was some alpha chad and they'd be there for me when and where I wanted. Dumb mistake.

melxer · 2016-09-25T08:57:24+00:00

She's looking to fuck, not to fuck around.

ElectricDruid · 2016-09-25T10:43:03+00:00

I learned this earlier this year. Got to the point of and the backed off so hat I wouldn't ruin it and she wouldn't just think of me as a ONS. Got a text the next day that she 'just wants to be friends'. It was counterintuitive at the time but ive learned you have to sleep with them first and think about building a relationship or plating them second

_Tactleneck_ · 2016-09-26T17:05:55+00:00

Yep, I did something similar over the summer. I simply overplayed my hand with the teasing that we couldn't hook up that night. Part of it came from a place that enjoyed watching her get sexually frustrated - as girls have made me feel, and part of it came from pure curiosity to push it as far as I could. We didn't fuck.

Learn from the mistake and go forward.

rob_bass · 2016-09-25T04:40:04+00:00

I had this happen before but I got lucky I suppose. Hung out with this chick late night one time. Fingered her in my car she squirted all over my seat. She went home. I didn't fuck her because she had to be to work 2 hours later. She may or may not have fucked chad that night or another night. But I totally expected her to. Then I went out of town for a few weeks on business. Hooked back up with her when I got back. Hung out but still didn't fuck. I had hurt my hamstring the night before in BJJ. Finally, fucked her a few weeks after that. Now she's a consistent plate. During all that she was still responsive via text and calls. So I figured either she really liked me, she didn't have any better irons in the fire, or maybe she was on a dry spell of some sort. I had this attitude of "if I fuck cool, if I don't oh well"

Any other time something like that happened with any other chick.....she was a ghost. I suppose "leaving her wanting more" can work. Just depends on timing and how many plates she has herself. But I'd say more often than not, you have to strike while the iron is hot. Women are like crock pots.

Mckallidon · 2016-09-25T13:01:24+00:00

She may have already been fucking that guy anyways lol. Sluts.

thelaptopliquidator · 2016-09-25T13:57:54+00:00

"leave her wanting more"

Which you did, I guess you just failed to realize that more doesn't mean more of you

Try to examine things based on the objective and the best/quickest/easiest way to get the objective you want.

Sometimes the quickest/easiest way has negative side effects, so it's not the best course of action. This was not one of those times.

The Objective? Plow this skank. The quickest and easiest route? First night lay. The negative side effects/consequences?

None.

Don't overthink.

Eclipsedv1 · 2016-09-25T17:40:23+00:00

Even if you did have sex, there's a good chance she would find another Chad, but at least you would have gotten laid.

ecosci · 2016-09-25T19:38:46+00:00

Chad this and chad that why cant women just a be a straight out whore for once this is what blue pill society wants is to blame yourself or men for her actions its bs always keep options for these same reasons she will pull this on her beta husband after some alphas have turned her vag into roast beef.

wearnocrowns · 2016-09-25T20:13:41+00:00

Made a similar mistake a couple times in the past in a delusional assumption that I might gain her respect by such a 'restrained behavior'. It's part of our Beta conditioning. We think we can show some strength when not pressing too eagerly and that they might like it.

As with everything we make the mistake in that we presume that women think in a similar way as we do. They don't give two shits about that. This 'nice' card is never rewarding and is always counterproductive. What we might regard as a sort of cultivated or matured approach is completely beyond their comprehension. The only thing she can figure is either that she feels like she was basically 'rejected' on a biological level or that something is wrong with you.

Sex is what she is after. It's the basic validation for her you refused to give. It doesn't make any sense to her. To her it's over, things simply didn't work out. No reason to dwell on in this affair. All reasons to next you and go looking for validation somewhere else.

Sex is all they have to offer and they know it.

On the other hand, regardless of the above, when we fuck up like this, it REALLY doesn't make much sense and is quite unnatural, especially if you've gotten so far as you did. 'Leave her wanting more' is a nonsensical construct. Once you arrive at that stage of 'heavy petting/making out' you gotta finish the job. Nature was calling and it was your turn. You dropped the ball and someone else just finished what you had started.

At least, it doesn't feel like a big failure. You managed to turn on a 9 which is not that bad. You've taken a lesson and next time you'll do better. I guess that next time you will let nature speak for itself and not interrupt it with any 'special' ideas.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-09-27T22:14:20+00:00

Yeah the calls did you in man. Women are fucking flakey, don't count on them. Which is ironic for women because they sort of expect a man to commit to them eventually. So now they have an entire population of men conditioned to give less than two shits about them. Women eventually get the men they deserve.

On another note, I want to bet that this 'plate' of yours was using you to make Chad jealous. I've had something similar happen where this girl hit me up at a party. She was an HB8 at the time and actually tried to charm me. I thought I was the king for having her attention.

Eventually we exchanged numbers after fooling around a little, we never followed up on a meetup though because surprise surprise, she had been dating this guy for a while and she finally got him to commit.

Something tells me he was plating her and figured he liked it that way. Then she introduced me into the mix and this broke the 'Chad' with some counter-dread. Making him commit to her, great tactic.

It still cracks me up whenever a girl burst out in tears over me wondering why I don't seem to care about them. Now I understand the guys I looked up to when I was a kid. They were once like me but women beat it out of them. All I can do is laugh while I emotionally traumatize another dumb entitled girl.

Zero fucks are left to be given after a while

victor_knight · 2016-09-25T07:07:53+00:00

What a waste. Opportunities like that don't come every day. That's what you get for trying to be the nice guy.

aanarchist · 2016-09-25T07:00:04+00:00

idk dude this is like the gayest thing i've ever read. i'm not saying this to be mean but it's like yea well played red pill you got me, what the fuck dude.

your leave her wanting game was bad. i've had women that i've never put my dick into them and they'll never forget me. you weren't authentic because you both wanted to fuck in the moment and you chose to play some beta pua game with her. it wasn't you leaving her wanting more or decent guy game, it was you rationalizing being a bitch. decent guy leave her wanting more game, sexually denying her, is the strongest sensation she will ever experience in her life, done properly.

this is just you using confirmation bias to justify your fuckup. she doesn't want a faggot to play games with her to prove his worth, she wants a man to bend her over and pull her hair and call her a bitch, cuz that's how she feels beautiful.

clarkdanie1 · 2016-09-25T16:02:56+00:00

Lol, OP that smile wasn't a smile of wanting and sexual tension. It was a smile to say you're a dumb mofo for not fucking me when you had the chance. Now I'll find an alpha who will pound me properly.

squidracer · 2016-09-25T19:51:31+00:00

Yea, you fucked up.. You probably still would've lost her to chad, bit you would've gotten a good night out of it

IGoYouStayTwoAutumns · 2016-09-25T23:26:29+00:00

Every time I've had the option to hook up with a girl but didn't, she ghosted me and I never heard from her again.

From her POV it makes sense: the guy had a chance to fuck her, he didn't (push hard enough), guess he's a BETA... NEXT!!

Kryptic_Knight · 2016-09-26T21:10:27+00:00

TLDR; It wasn't the chad, she's just hot, when she's hot, any kind of dick is easy to grab onto and or a hold of.

logicalthinker1 · 2016-09-27T03:29:09+00:00

women like sex!!!! they look at hot guys the same way you look at them. They want to fuck them.

langmesser · 2016-09-27T04:44:57+00:00

You are irreplaceable until she finds someone better. After that, you're old news.

cashmoney_x · 2016-09-25T11:09:35+00:00

Was this just to let us know you almost bagged a 9?

Title	[FR] Lesson learned = fuck her ASAP.
Author	redditatt
Upvotes	311
Comments	213
Date	September 25, 2016 1:41 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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