Hello, It's Me...

UrsusG · 2016-01-08T03:10:52+00:00

It turns out girls are responsive to guys calling them.

Next up: Millenials Rediscover the Wheel!

NightwingTRP · 2016-01-07T22:35:40+00:00

Absolutely love your style man. I think one of the things we sometimes undervalue on here is novelty. Taking a chick to a novel place can work wonders. Appearing to be novel in your choice of cheap gift works well too. Anything which separates you from the crowd. Women need to look normal to be attractive, men need to seem abnormal (but in the good way, obviously, for those who are desperate to try and twist that.) We need to stand out from the other men. Whether that's in your style, or your method of contact... novelty is a good thing to experiment with.

Being called by a guy she was interested in is very different to being texted by him. It's in the novelty... and you've got to remember that those bitches hitting the fuck you button or quickly killing the conversation could have their boyfriend in the room, or another chad. Or maybe they were on the rag, or maybe they were feeling angry at the world... whatever, responses like that are mostly because of the chick's feelings at the time.

DaBaulz · 2016-01-08T00:33:28+00:00

You need to inject callback humour that you can refer to on the first text. When you meet her. Bust her balls about something and then when you write her number down, put the joke in the title. Saying 'hey I'm that guy you talked to on sat' reeks of amateur, she probably talked to 10 guys that night and it just isn't interesting.

For example, one girl I met at a bar was talking about how she used to play volleyball, and I told her that I am a volleyball highschool coach, and that she looked like a girl I would bench if I was her coach. I then bugged about this 1-2 more times that night. Well when it came time to text, we had an inside joke so I texted 'hey xxx, coach here its time to get off the bench and prove yourself'. She immediately is reminded about the night and the fun we had. The way you first chat with a girl you should nonchalantly look for some reason to be playful with them. I wrote her name in my phone as "jenny benched volleyball" to remind myself of it.

there are GREAT pua resources that handle this stuff, from people that I consider experts in the field. Specifically regarding texting I would get 'the ultimate phone and text guide' by love systems, magic bullets is also phenomenal too. These are paid guides but worthtotally it. And you can find them free if you know how. They also have good forums for free. I read them a few years ago and my pick up game is phenomenally better ever since.

PS I highly recommend callback humour, it has helped me bed many women. But you have to know when its too far. Never be a one trick woman with a girl.

complex21 · 2016-01-07T23:16:18+00:00

I always prefer calling and let women know upfront that I'm not a big texter.

This does a couple of things.

It means your time is precious and you are not there to validate her, when she is bored. If I call you it means it's important and my time is fucking important.
It creates a more personal relationship when you speak with them over the phone. I make it a point to say their name over the phone and believe subconsciously they are turned on by this and builds attraction. Works even better If you have a deep voice.

Dr_D1amond · 2016-01-07T22:56:18+00:00

I'm pretty new to TRP after leaving a LTR, but recently when setting things up with women I figured it was always better to either call or arrange a date face to face in person. you get Instant indications as to how interested they are. If they are interested then you get a yes immediately. If they make an excuse then chances are they arent.

leaving it to a text message gives them time to decide whether or not to bother with you or gives them time to come up with an excuse, which is harder to do when put on the spot. Asking out by text is pretty lame as it is anyway.

Will remember this for the future.

throwaway-aa2 · 2016-01-08T00:04:14+00:00

this is a good point. why the fuck do I text all these girls? They don't get to really be in my presence, and as such they usually end up blowing me off because there is no pressure with a text... but if I call them, I get to charm them, improvise, and put them on the spot in a way I can't do with text.

It's so funny how women respond most positively to being put in a compromising position. I'd rather be easy and text... but I have to get in her personal space, call her and bug her, whatever she may be doing...

Valentinus9171 · 2016-01-08T00:44:27+00:00

"My offer is good for three days" I'm adding that to standard operating procedure. If you have a can of tomato sauce that will last for 20 years before going bad, and an actual tomato, you put move value in the tomato because it expires.

Sdom1 · 2016-01-08T15:12:27+00:00

Another weird aspect of text vs phone: I was listening to a talk by an ER doc who said that when nonverbal stroke victims would come in (stroke victims generally think they're talking to you but gibberish is coming out), he can give them their phone and text them and they can communicate with him.

In other words, communicating by text uses a different part of your brain. He claimed that this is why people are so much colder, impersonal and mean online.

I tend to think that it's more because there's less accountability, but whatever.

Suravira · 2016-01-07T22:19:15+00:00

Great FR OP, it's always interesting to see an out of the box one.

Calling girls instead of texting them is a lot more frustrating than it seems.

This is because it carries the risk of rejection which is the major cause approach anxiety, once you got past the anxiety "Oh it's lame to call women." "She'll never respond." "This seems like a dumb idea.", what you find is that women are perfectly reasonable, if they're not interested they're not interested, if they are they are.

Ultimately what gets you laid gets you laid, looking down on a perfectly viable method is a mug's game, and it's usually because of approach anxiety, calling them out of the blue is no worse than dolling up and going out to a club or daygaming cold approaches to try get a number, of the two it's likely closer to the latter, and we know which one is definitely more respectable.

Just make sure you aren't doing this to women whose encounter went horribly wrong, it's fine if you didn't close, but not if an event happened that got you put into the beta category, because she'll only remember you as one or the other, and you haven't got time to orbit women.

In addition to this, becoming more prominent on your social media in a way that broadcasts your high SMV is a good way to get these sort of missed connections.

darkstar505 · 2016-01-07T22:49:48+00:00

Shit, I just deleted all numbers from girls that stopped messaging me back or did not even messaged me at all yesterday. Great post. Sounds like a fun thing to do while being bored on a holiday afternoon, just too see what results I can get.

redpillavatar · 2016-01-07T23:25:22+00:00

I propose that you have a different type of abundance issue: in trying to juggle so many women you have less time for knocking out home runs?

cnile_ · 2016-01-07T23:52:26+00:00

As far as I'm concerned, texting is a woman's screening phase before she decides whether she wants to actually interact with you or not. I don't care to use it other than as a means of getting to the in-person shit.

Avicenna1 · 2016-01-08T00:28:59+00:00

This titleist guy, i keep seeing ur frs, are they all actually real, all from one guy?

Muddpup64 · 2016-01-09T19:34:11+00:00

Okay, this is what get's me every time fuckers.

Cherry – “I haven’t seen you in three weeks, though! We’ve only spoken for like an hour.” Shit test identified

TT – “All I remember is making out before your friend tore you away from me.” Respond with agree and amplify

You aren't agreeing and amplifying. You're actually doing quite the opposite. She's coming up with an excuse not to see you. You don't agree with that shit (fuck that!) and you obviously didn't.

Can somebody please get out their big chief crayon and draw me a picture?

The_Titleist · 2016-01-08T00:40:20+00:00

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pcadrian · 2016-01-08T03:20:53+00:00

I'm loving this. All these extravangant field reports... It's just not that pretty out there in the field. I used to think RP would turn me into a pussy magician. But this is a very accurate representation of what it's like, and the amount of work it takes.

_Insidious_ · 2016-01-08T04:14:03+00:00

Well done, I have hundreds of numbers. Wonder if I should call them all up, even though I've never cleaned out my phone. Wouldn't know what to say to each chick though.

FaustoRMD · 2016-01-08T06:01:53+00:00

If you use whatsapp, send audio messages.

Squeezymypenisy · 2016-01-08T06:02:14+00:00

Did you get this idea from the Adele song?

random_1135 · 2016-01-08T09:58:28+00:00

I almost ignored the thread when I saw the title (She has to be the most famous Alpha Widow out there).

Entertaining read. Goes back to being different than everyone else.

GingersInParis · 2016-01-08T13:32:01+00:00

It's a great thing too see some alternative game methods, great post!

theultmatecad · 2016-01-08T13:40:21+00:00

Looks like Dana the lush who pounded back 5 Martinis and responded so warmly is as DTF as one could expect.

If I were OP, id escalate hard and look to close on first night

killxorxbexkilled · 2016-01-08T15:22:36+00:00

Calling was once the only way to communicate ha ha I'm 38 so I know how to talk! I've found that several young girls I've carried on text conversations with, once I called them, were totally fucking retarded and couldn't carry a half decent conversation worth shit. These types are good for eye candy and pussy.

Your_Small_dick · 2016-01-08T15:37:57+00:00

What time were these calls going out? Im usually busy as fuck and running across the room the phone only to find out its a number i dont recognize gets the fuck you button for sure. Honestly I get annoyed at calls. but thats just me i guess

The_Titleist · 2016-01-08T16:58:50+00:00

Would you mind hinting at you're geographical area? Downtown east coast metro? Do you think girls in that area are so tech hooked they'd be afraid to talk on the phone, or are they mostly flakes with dishonest excuses.

RedDeadlift · 2016-01-09T06:51:31+00:00

Great write up man. It's always good to hear the failures too and proof that it really is a numbers game and don't let failure get you down, as a massive success could be just around the corner.

"Fail often to succeed sooner."

Edit: I also like the time limit pressure flip response when you didn't know if she was throwing you a shit test or not. Since it turns out she wasn't, it played in your favor.

1Maverick1 · 2016-01-08T00:10:46+00:00

Didn't you learn anything from the Boondocks?

Bitches love smiley faces -Ed Wuncler III

craneat · 2016-01-08T15:47:02+00:00

As someone in sales, this process directly applies. There's a lot of times when I'll reach out to somebody and they'll give objections or reasons as to why they can't move forward with our product.

So usually without their request, I'll reach back out to that same person about 60 days down the road, and sometimes it's a better time for them to move forward (more budget available, new strategy being implemented, etc.).

I can easily see this working with women. Perhaps that first night you weren't that right guy at the right time. But a couple weeks/months down the road, there's a good shot that you are.

Lashlarue123 · 2016-01-08T22:58:43+00:00

Arent those whiny shittests so fucking annoying? I literally have to check my frustration with their stupidity when they occur and remember the girl's retarded logic brain is trying to convince her to ignore her retarded emotional one. I like the response, "that's true, it's your fault I can barely remember what you look like"

Title	Hello, It's Me...
Author	The_Titleist
Upvotes	241
Comments	57
Date	January 7, 2016 9:58 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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