Man Goes Redpill, wife asks if shes being petty about about it. (xpost from r/relationships)

redpillexplainsit · 2014-10-15T16:52:46+00:00

somebody should flip the genders and repost. see different responses.

MomoUnchained · 2014-10-15T17:35:43+00:00

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Invalidity · 2014-10-15T17:19:13+00:00

Whether this story is true or not doesn't matter. What is key is how people are responding to it:

"It's affecting your sex life. You should send him to a therapist."

It's a one-way thought process. No one gives a shit if your wife denies you sex, because you were a bitch for being entitled to it. But when you deny your wife sex, oh my God, you fucking monster.

The responses are genuine and very indicative of what modern day society encourages.

SillyAmerican · 2014-10-15T18:16:17+00:00

Yeah the main take away is this: Men withholding sex from women is depriving her. lol fuckin a. A women with holds sex its her choice and shouldnt be questioned. Shit's a joke.

TRPsubmitter · 2014-10-15T18:49:59+00:00

Then somewhere somehow he got really hooked on the notion of "self-control". Its difficult to point out how it happened, but it did. Its all he talked about. I never figured out what the source of this was. Maybe he read something, maybe someone told him something.

Alright buddy, we know you're lurking here. What's your username?

Beer_Me_A_Beer · 2014-10-15T17:10:05+00:00

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the_number_2 · 2014-10-15T17:50:06+00:00

So, how do I tell him to stop doing the best thing that ever happened to him ?

This bitch will stop at nothing to ruin this guy's happiness. He found a light at the end of the tunnel and stopped at nothing to get there and now she wants to ruin all of his progress because she's not getting what she wants. This bitch is left overs.

SomebodyCool · 2014-10-15T17:09:57+00:00

Now he's addicted to self control?! Wow dude. So as long as it affects her negatively its an "addiction". Some fucking geniuses over there.

thepolicy · 2014-10-15T23:50:33+00:00

Quote from comments: "He is an addict, he's just now pushed his addiction to self control. Now it completely effects your life, and my suggestion is that he sees a therapist immediately."

HAHAHAHA

Addicted to self control. That's a new one. Like being so happy you're depressed?

Lt_Muffintoes · 2014-10-15T18:11:42+00:00

To be fair, denying her sex is pretty shitty. You marry the person who meets your needs. One of her needs is sex, and he is doing a disservice to the marriage by not fulfilling that need.

Edit: it's clear she has a dishonest relationship with him, since she doesn't appear to have spoken with him about her needs, and hasn't asked him about his needs. I f they had that conversation, perhaps she'd be able to put up with it.

I'm sensing that this is a trollpost though, designed to bait people into saying "Well it's his right to deny her sex" so that some femnazi cunt can use it to justify riding the CC while in marriage.

BellatorCordis · 2014-10-15T19:54:05+00:00

I guarantee she has never been more turned on by her husband in her life.

Gold_Mouth · 2014-10-15T19:21:25+00:00

I could understand her problem. She wants some dick and he's depriving her of it for a month. Maybe fingers and a mouth aren't as satisfying for her. I mean, I wouldn't want handjobs with no sex for a month.

topspeedj · 2014-10-15T20:05:50+00:00

Holy shit, that hamster wheel is about to fall off the wall.

"Honey you need to improve yourself. Honey, stop improving yourself! Why is he improving himself? Should I continue to stop him from improving himself? What's wrong with ME because CLEARLY, there is something wrong with him."

2014-10-16T06:49:02+00:00

"SEE A THERAPIST IMMEDIATELY"

Husband: "I'm full of energy. I enjoy my job now, I have a work life balance. I work out and am very healthy, and I relieve my stress - which is much less now - in the gym not by drinking."

Therapist: "So... So what's the problem here."

Husband: "I'm an addict."

Therapist: Ah, you've been abusing drugs to achieve these things. Understandable."

Husband: "No. I've been abusing SELF-CONTROL! I'm just addicted to not being a lazy slob and I can't help it. I try to go to McD's and down a few beers after work while playing video games, but it's just too hard! I think about the sugary foods and booze lowering my testosterone and not even tasting that good. I think about becoming stupider, slower, and fatter as I age and I just can't make myself want it."

Therapist: "You're fine. That'll be $400. You've inspired me to start working out."

Fin.

RebootedMale · 2014-10-15T16:47:41+00:00

[Fixed] Man chooses MGTOW, wife asks if shes being petty about it.

666Evo · 2014-10-15T21:09:14+00:00

This is the one that gets me:

It's not the best thing that ever happened to him if it's causing problems.

It's not the best thing that ever happened to him because it's causing her problems. Nevermind the fact that he's lifted himself (with zero help from her) out of the depression that may have eventually killed him. Nevermind the fact he's the only one working at their marriage. She's not getting exactly what she wants 100% of the time so he clearly needs therapy.
Hamsters gonna hamst.

2014-10-15T17:50:18+00:00

I think this fast is a permissible practice taken probably no more than once a year (like lent, Ramadan, or Yom Kippur).

If she can't see her self in 20 years happy because he took a month to sexually fast then she doesn't have the consitition for other problems. He had so much success with his other changes.

Jessie_James · 2014-10-15T18:47:46+00:00

I want to know what book he is reading. Any ideas?

hur1n · 2014-10-15T21:49:38+00:00

How much you wanna bet this guy is reading this thread right now?

Because it looks to me like he probably stumbled upon TRP before making his change.

(That, or NoFap. lol.)

mercuryg · 2014-10-15T23:23:15+00:00

imagine your LTR telling you she won't have sex with you for a month and you reply with "absolutely fucking not"

theredman89 · 2014-10-15T21:07:39+00:00

I think the reaction of his wife has to be viewed with the same glasses you apply in other aspects. She is obviously being sexually fulfilled, and she admits as much. All she knows is that she desperately does not like this feeling. What is her husband doing but definitively proving that her constant ace, her sex, is something that he can now refrain from through his will. That is a dangerous concept for a 29 year old woman on the wrong side of the you know what.

rpsheepdog · 2014-10-15T22:00:41+00:00

I love it, dude decides to hold off on sex and she becomes so thirsty, tries to seduce him etc... holding frame works

goemon45 · 2014-10-15T22:20:57+00:00

addicted to self control

VarsitySlutTeamCpt · 2014-10-15T23:40:18+00:00

So women are entitled to sex but not men hmm-mm okayy

NotReallyEthicalLOL · 2014-10-16T00:21:59+00:00

"An addict to improving himself" ok...

Rougepellet · 2014-10-16T04:36:49+00:00

The top responses are shocking but not surprising. I'm familiar with the illogical view points and double standards of today. Even before discovering RP, i took one look at feminism and walked the opposite direction. The stench of irrationality and heavily biased opinions (not to mention outright bullshit) was too strong to handle. Fuck that noise.

flubberskin · 2014-10-16T05:22:31+00:00

"I'm suffering" That's her defence meanwhile she getting off on his fingers and mouth?

Yeah... imagine a guy saying "come on babe I am suffering" she would not care.

suloco · 2014-10-16T09:35:07+00:00

Yeah so the guy basically fixes heavy issues of his life (job, drinking, addictions) AND gets awesome body. Yet all of this is in his frame and the demand on sex break as well. THAT is what terrifies the wife. He raised his SMV immensely and reduced her in one setting. The wife is losing the one core value she brings in the marriage (sex).. that must be scary.

Imagine your girl telling you: I'd like to go for a month without cuddling and affection. You'd be bemused as hell.

BasedOnRules · 2014-10-16T14:13:47+00:00

If this is real it sounds like he's either trying to quit porn or masturbation. A lot of places will tell you that you have to quit everything for a certain period of time in order to "reboot". Whether or not it's necessary, or if it works - I don't know.

Obviously he isn't going to tell his wife this. It would be crippling to his frame to admit it - and godlike for him to just one day be completely free from porn and masturbation.

Actually nothing about this thread is surprising or confusing to me. If he's as good as he sounds she'll come to him with a comfort test - he'll comfort her without explaining himself, and everything will be great again soon.

Fzed600 · 2014-10-15T17:14:46+00:00

You'll need a beefier topic as the mods are really cracking down on hit and run posts. A good way to establish quality control.

Tarnsman4Life · 2014-10-15T18:35:04+00:00

Totally time for a flip and it is WORSE than some of you think. I dug deep and this guy actually offered to get her off by going down on her for the whole month; just no sexual release for him. What is this womans problem? She doesn't get her little dose of validation through "actual" sex for the month? This has nothing to do with actual sexual release and everything to do with a lack of validation. 99% of men wouldn't give a fuck if a woman only offered to blow them whenever they wanted for a month.

redpillschool · 2014-10-15T20:16:04+00:00

Some analysis would be better than a link and a sentence.

RebootedMale · 2014-10-15T19:53:48+00:00

He's probably been fapping too and is going hard mode for a month. Or maybe not.

But the bottom line is he's getting her off so she should be fine without the actual D for a period that short.

What is REALLY bothering her is that she knows as he becomes a better man his options are going to increase substantially and that he'll realize he can do better.

TDCRedPill · 2014-10-15T21:36:54+00:00

What am I missing here? Girl told me she was excited that she'd do anything I wanted but absolutely didn't want to cum for a month, and didn't want me to try to make her cum? I'd be a bit taken back and weird-ed out, too.

He's experimenting with NoFap. She sounds pretty smart. If he spelled out it properly so she actually had a clue WTF was going on, rather than having one of the better parts of sex removed from the table for a month without warning, provocation, or explanation.

She's clueless and he's handling it wrong by not cluing her in. He could be just upfront and explain the health reasons why, especially T levels, and explain why it's important. They're a serious LTR, so go for it. Then use the month to tease her every single last day as a D/s play. She's going to need SERIOUS sexual attention during the month.

razometer · 2014-10-15T20:36:24+00:00

Whenever someone is not "ordinary" they automatically have some sort of mental disease according to these "people". Nothing new to see here, the trend continues. I hope this guy keeps doing what he's doing.

2014-10-15T20:54:46+00:00

I read it, and I loved it.

I also liked the "self-control" thing, and such language should be adopted but the people in this sub who want to help others in need, if you must do so, but use the wording "self-control" instead of TRP, it satisfies TRP's #1 requirement, and softens the conversation.

Menadian · 2014-10-15T21:09:05+00:00

This is another example of some persons child-mentality. She want's sex, she thinks she is entiteled to sex. She cannot wait a month for it even though she knows he is not giving up on sex with her. Also she craves the validation sex ensures.

This guy is quite the good guy actually. He has no problem fulfilling her sexual needs as best as he can and only removes his own sexuall pleasure from the equation.

This is what happens when the male becomes the gatekeeper of sex - people get totally freaked and confused - and rightfully so because they have been taught otherwise.

Reich_Winger · 2014-10-15T21:18:17+00:00

Send him to a therapist

DAE Therapy?

He needs to see a therapist he is literally addicted to self control LOL

Therapy

Therapy

Therapy

How nobody in that sub fails to see how posting "therapy" is a non-answer, especially for these kinds of issues, baffles me...

2014-10-15T21:46:50+00:00

I don't get one thing ... what's the big fucking deal for her to go ONE MONTH without sex?!?

raceAround126 · 2014-10-15T23:03:54+00:00

The amount of times "see a therapist" gets mentioned on Reddit... If it was actually followed up on every time that suggestion was made, there would be some fucking rich-ass therapists around.

In fact... I'm in the wrong job by the sounds of it...

Transmigratory · 2014-10-15T23:09:01+00:00

r/relationships is essentially a place where the male party will get ripped off 99.9% of the time.

2014-10-16T00:28:19+00:00

Interesting how their answer to everything they perceive to be wrong is therapy.

WarmApfelPi · 2014-10-16T00:37:31+00:00

He realized he has control of his own life. Now he's testing his limits so he knows them. Poor wifey's losing control of her orbiting hubby.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-10-16T01:28:24+00:00

This is a troll post. TRP is not about stopping all the orgasms unless somebody went all Tantric without me noticing.

teeelo · 2014-10-16T01:44:11+00:00

Always with the fucking therapy!

sailorJery · 2014-10-16T02:16:18+00:00

lol @ he's an addict

yeah if you're gunna be addicted to something it might as well be self control

2014-10-16T02:21:47+00:00

What's funny is that she doesn't even know what hit her! She loves the control she has over him, and now that he has assumed control and shifted the power balance, she's extremely upset. Her hamster's seriously gone ape-shit crazy trying to figure out a reason for her being mad, but it's clueless! Haha

trpSenator · 2014-10-16T02:30:58+00:00

and my suggestion is that he sees a therapist immediately

What's with these people and throwing therapy at everything. I feel like if you do as much as disagree with someone, those fucking morons will recommend therapy.

I suspect just about 99% of the people that always recommend therapy, would not actually do it themselves if the same situation happened.

You're not being petty. It's affecting you, your sex life, your emotions.

Again, when it comes to women it's all about her her her... Everything is about her. If a girl tried to do the same thing the response would probably be something like, "Well these behaviors seem to have really turned her life around for the better. Part of being in a relationship is making compromises and helping your partner by making sacrifices every now and then. So instead of complaining about not having sex, how about you support her?"

Sordoe91 · 2014-10-16T02:39:57+00:00

According to her post, she did not agree to this. So if he's forcing this 30 day no sex challenge onto his wife (as opposed to letting her seek out other sources of sex), then her concerns are not petty. But, then again, I think it's unreasonable to expect sexual exclusivity while simultaneously withholding sex. When the spread-sheet guy was making the rounds on reddit someone (maybe here?) pointed out that "to have and to hold" is as important as "forsaking all others" and not having sex is parallel to cheating and I think that's a valid point that applies here.

changshuaidiao · 2014-10-16T02:53:18+00:00

After going through one of the hardest times of his life and having his wife (who made no mention of any effort she made to uplift him btw) threaten to leave him after only a month of showing weakness, he probably realized he was completely alone at the end of the day and needed to be able to stand completely on his own.

2014-10-16T04:36:25+00:00

Had a hardy laugh reading her post. Sounds like a fucking warrior, probably can see himself ending their marriage

hashtagpound2point2 · 2014-10-16T06:32:26+00:00

He's still servicing her whenever she wants and he's getting shit for it. She sounds nothing like a woman craving dick in her post.

She just subconsciously knows that if he's able to control his sex drive, she loses power in their relationship dynamic. She can no longer use it as a bargaining chip, it's no longer something that she contributes to the relationship.

sh1v · 2014-10-16T06:54:26+00:00

Her doubts are unfounded. The guy has accomplished everything he set out to do since his, what I think is fair to call redpill transformation. 30 days without PiV sex, with your partner taking care of your needs in other ways, is a small price to pay for continuing on his journey of self discipline.

The naysayers in that comments section are simply envious and threatened by the notion that someone could achieve that level of motivation, control and discipline. It's painfully transparent.

All that said, though, I think we have to admit that the wife's behavior has been pretty good overall. She stuck by her man while he was a slob for all those years, and supported all his efforts to change up til now. She also fucked him 4 times a week. Rare is the woman who would be able to watch her man raise his SMV to formerly unheard-of heights without feeling pangs of worry. I can forgive her hamster spinning a tad in light of all the rest.

SeekingTheWay · 2014-10-16T07:25:35+00:00

wow a month. she will probly die :D

Sfwonlynow · 2014-10-16T08:05:19+00:00

I always sort of feel tempted to tip off the links OP. "Would you want to read the unbiased opinions on your 'problem"?

OdinTheEnglightened · 2014-10-16T11:59:49+00:00

"He is an addict, he's just now pushed his addiction to self control. Now it completely effects your life, and my suggestion is that he sees a therapist immediately." Pure gold, a man get's control of his life and actually manages to improve it, he needs to see a therapist, because a man that has his shit together, there must be something wrong with him. Then we wonder why our younger generations are becoming more and more fucked up, it's because of this shit, we don't encourage them to achieve something, to actually work hard for something.

2014-10-16T13:31:27+00:00

hes an addict, he needs to see a therapist..

Hahaha so a man I proves his life on every single aspect, which coincidentally positively affects their relationship, but the moment the woman's needs aren't met the man is an addict and needs to see a therapist? It's not trp making me feel women are fucking insane beings, its reading shit like this that does it.

Tarnsman4Life · 2014-10-16T14:16:04+00:00

And someone flipped it.Look for the thread on purity.

2014-10-17T01:09:03+00:00

The comments on that post are so ridiculous it's almost comical

Keninishna · 2014-10-15T22:42:19+00:00

I've only had sex maybe a dozen times in my entire life... I'm 30 now. She can go fuck her self litterally and figuratively.

codm1 · 2014-10-15T21:13:32+00:00

May I ask what wrong with her post? She clearly just wants her husband back. He could be suffering from an addiction! Sex can be much more meaningful that foreplay. Why should she be questioned? If it was a guy who posted this, everyone would tell him to leave her. Am I wrong by saying this? It sounds like she just wants her husband back. And unlike most of the stuff posted here, they clearly aren't at the point anymore where /r/theredpill can really relate. She hasn't done anything wrong and he is struggling. Please tell me if I'm misunderstanding this post.

2014-10-15T19:19:50+00:00

Are you being petty? Kinda, but mostly because you're bragplaining like a mofo.

Title	Man Goes Redpill, wife asks if shes being petty about about it. (xpost from r/relationships)
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Upvotes	91
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Date	October 15, 2014 4:38 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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