"Should I tell my partner how many lovers I've had?"

Mosin_999 · 2016-08-18T18:29:00+00:00

Banks do credit/background checks to check that you are reliable and can pay back the loan.

I check any womans cock account to ensure she's not been massively overdrawn.

To retarded people who say "the past is the past", enjoy finding out your princess cheated on you when she fucked some guy behind a dumpster.

the-capitan · 2016-08-18T17:36:16+00:00

You do not have to reveal this kind of information to anyone. ... Sometimes, a pointed “I prefer not to keep score” or “I’m just going to pretend you didn’t ask me that” will put an end to the inquiries.

that's fine. but this is a negotiation. if she doesn't want to play ball, she can stay in the fuck-zone forever. high n-count women are biologically unfit for commitment. at 16+ partners, the CDC data shows that their depression and divorce rates are sky high. and the #1 rule in the non-visuals of dating is that if someone hides something or refuses to disclose something, is that it's bad. so if she doesn't answer, or her answer doesn't make sense, she automatically goes in the slut bucket.

don't get me wrong, i'm not slut shaming at all. i like sluts. most of my plates are sluts. i like when they're slutty with me. but sluts are biologically unfit for commitment. i permanently fuck-zone them, and they will never be upgraded to girlfriend, and certainly never to wife.

TrumpRules2016 · 2016-08-18T17:13:26+00:00

Any Partner who requires this information is showing their own insecurities. Insecurity is ok, we all have moments, but all depends on the degree. You are allowed your areas of privacy, and this is one. I would suggest brushing off any such request with humour, and if that doesn't work dump him as it will show that there are more deep seated issues at work.

What an interesting comment left by MissMarmot. This person thinks a guy should be okay with a woman who decided to fuck over 300 people.

f0ster5 · 2016-08-18T17:49:50+00:00

"Honey, you mean he's judging you for having random casual sex with every guy that you've ever met? Wow what a dickhead! You better leave his immature ass baby girl!"

"Wait, you're telling me that man has had sex with how many people?! Girl you better dump that player, before he leaves you for some other pussy!"

But we're the ones with insatiable double standards. And this is assuming sex is even seen the same for men as it is for women. Which it isn't.

MattyAnon · 2016-08-18T18:02:39+00:00

The Guardian is a femi-rag.

Women have been successful in ending any questions about their sexual past. It's all part of their Alpha Fucks Beta Bucks sexual strategy - hide the Alpha Fucks part from Mr Beta Bucks Commitment Provider.

Fuknmods · 2016-08-18T17:50:33+00:00

Best way to put it:

"Oh the past is the past? Hi I'm a recently released pedophile serial child rapist. Dont worry, i did my time and my past is in the past. I heard you needed a babysitter while you're away for the weekend, when can i start? What do you mean you dont want me to babysit your kids? I thought my past doesnt matter or define me or my future behavior in any way?"

Works well because you put them in a corner, especially publicly, they either claim they're ok with a serial child rapist pedo babysitting kids (ruining their own reputation in front of the crowd) or they're forced to admit they're wrong. The child in danger of rape scenario also triggers a bad taste in peoples mouths because child and rape, ideologically its an amazing argument.

Rebikhan · 2016-08-18T19:16:34+00:00

It doesn't bother me that they want to hide their sexual past. They know a large tally is bad, and they want to hide it. It's dishonest, but I get that they became the town bicycle and the only way to recover from that romantically is to lie.

But the righteous indignation they have that a potential SO cares about their past is just obnoxious. You were a slut, live with it. He's not the one who fucked up. You are.

ThirdEyeSqueegeed · 2016-08-19T09:50:49+00:00

One of the comments in the thread:

My fiancee had a 25-guy gangbang organised for her 19th birthday.

One of the things I love about her is her proactive, unashamed attitude to sex, her body-confidence, and her love of oral sex.

I'm lost for words.

squidracer · 2016-08-18T19:15:26+00:00

The reason it's important is because the honeymoon phase is addicting..

We all know the feeling.. The rush of adrenaline that comes with a new partner.. After so many women assume that's how the entire relationship is supposed to be..

And to be completely honest, I find it addicting as well

WeedDaddy · 2016-08-18T17:48:58+00:00

Many men would not entertain a serious relationship with a woman if they knew the truth about her past. They want a man to marry a pig in a poke.

Women want to have their cake and eat it too: be a slut and then be treated like a lady.

RageLionRising · 2016-08-18T19:19:53+00:00

It pays to prioritize career and lifting weights above any sexual relationship. If you find out the chick you're dating has seen more glaze than a toaster strudel just quietly fade and ghost. That hurts them more than any anger fueled action you can take. Plus, as you get older it gets easier to separate the idea of sex from love and loyalty.

If you were dumb and didn't screen her before having a kid with her you can still support your kid, but put her on the back burner. Then find yourself a new girlfriend. But always take the approach of the reluctant but powerful man. Sure, you'll look after your girlfriend as a subordinate. If you find out she's a slut, no big deal. It's not like she was ever your equal partner or friend. She was a liability that you as a gentleman looked after. But now that you found out she's trash she becomes disposable. Be stoic and apathetic about it.

victor_knight · 2016-08-19T08:39:45+00:00

There was a time when men cringed at the thought of any other man even having seen his wife naked.

sergeantbbbbs · 2016-08-18T18:57:22+00:00

I was talking to a girl I knew in a casino one night. Her drunk friend comes in to meet new and within 30 seconds shed taken me into the disabled toilets and had my cock in her mouth.

I went back to hers at the end of the night, after sex she said "I've only slept with two people before you". MEGALOLS ROFL.

Anyway, protip: read the comments on that article in between sets at the gym, let that rage burn

Awake-Now · 2016-08-18T18:08:13+00:00

I'm not sure why you'd expect her to give you an honest answer regardless.

yomo86 · 2016-08-18T20:48:46+00:00

Do not get angry. If sex positivity would really be a thing all girls would tell you this just because they like to talk.

And on a side-note if you chadly tell her it is important to you she will give you a number which you then multiply by 3. Girls have given up their passcodes and other intimate stuff to their Chads, so this whole post is addressed to a really insecure beta.

If I ask a girl if there is a chance for anal and she says some BS like this article I leave and she knows it.

Overkillengine · 2016-08-19T00:17:27+00:00

If there really was no issue with women having high partner counts when it comes to relationships, then there would be no reason to worry about letting a guy know about it.

But there is. You know it, and they damn well know it. Which is why they will employ every damn lie, evasion, and social blackmail technique they can to keep you from asking about or paying attention to it.

inspiron3000 · 2016-08-19T09:43:16+00:00

I have been naive about my ex-partner's N-count.
In hindsight some of them rode the CC hard and often from age 15.

The larger their cup size, the greater the male interest / availability.

I don't need to know their N-count today. I do need to know if they carry STIs.
I'm sure that more than one of my ex's had HPV.
For me there will never be a future LTR without showing test results.

Michael Douglas did us all a favour by showing what happens when you don't care about women's promiscuity.

firmness · 2016-08-19T13:29:33+00:00

Men- There is no winning this one.

If you ask a woman for her number, she will either push you back (a huge red flag for several reasons), or she will lie. There is no way you can verify her number in the short run. These sorts of lies tend to come out later, after you are married and that lie conflicts with something you learn 10 years down the road.

TrumpRules2016 · 2016-08-18T20:22:32+00:00

Here is the difference:

Man who sleeps around

Woman Who Sleeps Around

Notice the man is well dressed, while the woman is trying to show off her assets

DongleNocker · 2016-08-19T08:53:49+00:00

Both partners must disclose a general number and summary of their sexual history if it turns into a long term relationship. People do talk, awkward situations can happen, and situations including alcohol can loosen mouths and make awkward situations into violent situations.

slothsenpai · 2016-08-19T20:36:36+00:00

It's not even just the staggering numbers that would bother me but it's the behaviour associated and the type of men she was previously with. If they were good, respectable dudes who made the effort to get to know her and it was a FwB type of thing, I wouldn't have a problem. If she gave it away easily to a couple of thug and drug-dealer types, then she isn't someone I'd want to be the mother of my children.

Lildoc_911 · 2016-08-18T22:11:24+00:00

Any objections to sleeping with them? I have a meet up planned this weekend and she seems super eager to have a good night (leg over my leg, touching, 21 questions every time I see her). I've seen her flirt withany people in the month I've known her.

Met her at a bar. No intention of relationship, just sex on my agenda. I should be good as long as I wrap it up right?

ozaku7 · 2016-08-19T15:44:09+00:00

This shit is why you either don't talk about your count, or you just make up several partners, because they can't check anyway. A one-night-stand there, a vacationfuck here, short term girlfriend that time, long term girlfriend this time. Easily go to 10-15, whatever is the above average n-count for a man in your region. Only then will she be comfortable to tell you she had 10 partners, when you said you had around the same. Tell her you had just 2, and she will screw it down to maybe 3 or max 4. Because she knows that the average guy would have a negative thought about her count.

Never say your n-count first, because that gives them a good number to work around so she can lie to you. And if you tell it first, say an above-average number. If she ever finds out you lied about your number, just make up something.

I've heard about this partner-consolidation that women do. If a man has alot less partners, she just makes 2 partners out of 6. So she had a date in some city with guy 1, she smashed guy 2 on the beach, and guy 3 she saw this movie with. What you will hear is, that she dated guy 1 in some city, smashed him on the beach and saw a movie with.

Women don't like slutshaming, but the world of sex is much like a buffet. They get to eat everything they want for free, and we need to work for it and pay for it. Noone likes a cunt that chops her plate full, eats half of it and throws half of it away, while the hungry men are looking in their empty wallets and stomachs.

rickception · 2016-08-19T16:11:40+00:00

Her being okay with it and her thinking others would be okay with it are two different things. And clearly from the replies, people would not be okay with it. Doesnt excuse lying though.

GoRedBad · 2016-08-19T01:31:31+00:00

This came up the other night in a post-coital conversation with a girl I've only fucked a couple of times. She wanted to know how many I've slept with, and I just refused to go into it. I told her I wasn't interested in her numbers either.

-contrarian- · 2016-08-18T18:05:39+00:00

So dumb. We want to have random sex, but we only want it with women who don't have random sex?

Fellas, you can't have it both ways. Well, I suppose you rarely can, but you'll never know for sure what her cock count is.

We should be more accepting of sluts. Hot sluts, that is... Just wrap your tool, and accept that you're going to get HPV or HSV (or both).

Lintmin · 2016-08-19T02:05:26+00:00

I'm sticking to titty fuckin. no sense in risking stds these days

Title	"Should I tell my partner how many lovers I've had?"
Author	rebeccabrixton
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Date	August 18, 2016 5:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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