"I [23F] have always had intense, toxic relationships mostly built around sex. Finally in a healthy relationship with a smart funny and super nice guy that actually likes me and I don't feel like I like him as much as I should... feels boring in comparison." Your diagnosis: Trashed pair-bonding

where_muh_good_mens · 2019-08-01T18:56:16+00:00

Is this because he's not right for me?

No, you aren't right for him. He's great, you're trash.

where_muh_good_mens · 2019-08-01T19:14:38+00:00

Not much juicy there, but that last line:

Turns out I just needed to adjust to a healthy relationship. Boyfriend is great and we love each other a lot. Everything is awesome, basically.

... basically....

Que deadbedrooms post in 3..2...1

WiseMonkeyGoodMonkey · 2019-08-01T19:19:11+00:00

He's literally everything you're supposed to want for an LTR and you're so broken it's not (and never will be) enough. Worst part is that she was on the cusp of realization that I'm sure most of the commentary she got annihilated.

anyoneinamerica · 2019-08-01T19:27:54+00:00

Dual mating as explained by a woman:

I love me some bad boys, they give me the tingles. I found this great guy, he is boring. Why can't I have both?????

This chick has been alpha widowed by 23. The rest of her existence will be a colossal goat fuck and she will take down a few good men in the process.

This guy is probably just a good guy, but is a little normal and milk toast for a cock carousel rider who has been worked over by a TRP swilling Chad. He needs to go back to the search and find himself a nice girl (not the ones from r /nicegirls), she needs to get an IUD and never procreate, the rest of use need to pray that she doesn't reproduce.

SeaFoam82 · 2019-08-01T19:00:27+00:00

Oh look it's a clone of my ex.

Edit: I finally figured out she was a awful person after I had a five year old patient die on me in front of their parents. You know what she responded with when I told her? "Sorry to hear that." That's it. Fucking animal.

Roninizer · 2019-08-01T19:59:28+00:00

Notice how she says the guys were using her for sex, but then when it comes to her, she was just using them to "validate" herself. Oh you mean you were using them for sex?!?!

baiboosar · 2019-08-01T19:28:11+00:00

Sounds like damaged goods to me. Nuff said.

JihadNinjaCowboy · 2019-08-01T20:17:41+00:00

Its been studied and shown that the more sexual partners a woman has had, the less able she is able to pair-bond.

askmrcia · 2019-08-01T20:59:52+00:00

When I think of the term "nice guy" this is what it really means.

The guy wasn't a pussy and just overall a good dude. This is the complete opposite of what the typical redditor describe as a nice guy.

And because of that, she don't want him. He's either not as challenging as her past dbag exs or the relationship is going too well that she has no juicy stories to share with her friends so they can all sympathize with her thus giving her lots of attention.

No one is asking op how her relationship is going because she now has no juicy stories to tell about how some guy is treating her like shit.

Hell her reddit post screams that she wants to be a victim in some way or another, but nah.

Saw the update and I can bet that the relationship will shortly because she will ruin it. I mean she was damn near ready to end it when she had no ammo on the guy so just wait until he "slips" up one time. She'll find something to fight him about.

She already explained how she don't find him attractive so yea

Cavannah · 2019-08-01T21:23:47+00:00

"I've been Alpha-Widowed. I tried to overcompensate for this by throwing myself at random partners, but nothing worked. I met a guy who's objectively 'marriage material', but I'm so broken that I'm incapable of finding him attractive even though I just know I'm supposed to. He's consistent, he's steady, he's caring, and he's just boring. Please validate me."

paco321 · 2019-08-01T21:37:49+00:00

I fucking hate the word "genuinely" being repeated 100 fucking times in posts like this.

I genuinely like him.

He genuinely listens to me.

He's genuinely interested in me.

He's genuinely genuine.

Fhaze1117 · 2019-08-01T21:06:58+00:00

Started dating a "friend".

That about sums it up.

Bad boy: 🥰😍🤩♥️💕 Nice guy who treats you right: "friendzone".

Mreeder16 · 2019-08-01T20:19:54+00:00

You are awful. I hope this dude wakes up.

anyoneinamerica · 2019-08-01T19:34:39+00:00

You might be going through the "I like bad boys phase" where you make bad decisions. If I were you, and if you don't think this is going to work right now, I'd break it off. He deserves better.

smallSackBigShaft · 2019-08-01T22:01:09+00:00

Summary: chick used to get slammed in her shitpipe no-strings-attached by Greg and Fernando, and now the IT guy makes her cunt dry. Also lol at 23 thinking you’ve experienced life. One text from the guy who jizzed on her face and ghosted her from the past, and she’ll be getting throatfucked in an alley somewhere while her Billy writes in his journal about her. Sad.

Darth_Horseman · 2019-08-01T23:01:49+00:00

She should break up with him because:

1) This guy deserves better

And...

2) I wanna see this dumb bitch regret breaking up with that one nice guy from college when she's old and alone.

krusecontrol91 · 2019-08-01T20:55:38+00:00

They’re all spoiled and passé at this point, let them have their (wanna-be superior) “equality” and leave them alone. No more chivalry or favors. Bye felicia

Edit: if you want to Destroy yourself, just hold the door open for one of them. Get yourself a sexual harassment lawsuit and get put on the sex offender registrar because you tried to be polite and gracious, apparently that’s rape nowadays. good luck in court cause these days men are guilty until proven innocent.

“I’m a butthurt chick who wishes she was a man, proud feminist, one of the 56 (mental disorder) genders. I’m going to downvote cause you’re a racist and a bigot and a xenophobe and a (insert any -phobe, -ism, -ist here.) so I’m going to DOWNVOTE YOU. “

Maybe come up with an argument that opposes the former statements if you disagree

Go discover fire with that intellect of yours.

Also the downvote upvote war on this comment is so fuckin entertaining. It has been SO volatile and I love it. Keep it up libs. Show us your pride for late term abortions and no healthcare for us citizens but full coverage for “undocumented immigrants”. You people go hand in hand.

Non serviam

GR122LYB3AR · 2019-08-01T22:30:29+00:00

Another perfectly acceptable man about to be discarded for “tingles”. May we all take a moment of silence for our brothers soon to be broken heart.

deane-barker · 2019-08-01T21:28:39+00:00

I am worried for that guy. There's a very, very big chance this is not going to end well for him.

5shad · 2019-08-02T02:03:19+00:00

I bet she wants to be treated like shit, some women are just like that. This is why I feel like I had to treat women like shit to keep them, even when it wasn't my intent to begin with. The funny thing is, it works every time. I honestly want to be the nice guy but I've never met a woman that was ever satisfied with my personality. I had no choice but to switch the way I treat women. It may be a little of topic but this is the kind of vibe I got from this.

hideout78 · 2019-08-01T22:35:44+00:00

Trashed pair bonding for sure.

But....this is why the “game” part of red pill theory is so important.

With that being said, I’m not going to do it and I don’t care what it costs me. I don’t have time, nor the desire, to be “good time Charlie” 24/7 and think of different ways to play with my wife emotionally.

The leadership and being in charge part of redpill? Absolutely. Doing what the fuck I want? Absolutely. Lifting/looksmax? Fuck yeah bitch.

But not game. A little game maybe. But I’m not revolving my life around that.

baddogkelervra1 · 2019-08-02T02:21:49+00:00

This sums up why you should never take relationship advice from women. Guys are easy; we want a hot girl who doesn’t annoy us, is faithful, and gives us sex often. Women want a mystical alpha who exhibits only nice guy traits, and even then they leave for greener pastures. If you do what they want, they get bored and leave. If you don’t do what they want, they get angry and pout. TRP is the way forward.

Champ_Slice · 2019-08-01T21:31:13+00:00

Can’t really knock her because all she knows is “toxicity”. Dude needs to gtfo before he regrets ever dealing with this chick. I hope for his sake he doesn’t knock her up.

kyledontcare · 2019-08-01T23:59:13+00:00

She answered her own question at the end of the second paragraph: She has no idea what a healthy relationship is.

TomatoPoodle · 2019-08-02T00:39:52+00:00

Broken person.

666sdk666 · 2019-08-01T22:35:24+00:00

Do him a favor, dump him, get back on the CC and ride it into the wall.

Tracergold · 2019-08-02T01:15:15+00:00

She's 23.

Within a year or so, she'll be back to getting railed by "bad boys", who just want to use her for her pussy. Make no mistake, THAT is what makes a "bad boy": just wanting the girl for her pussy and then tossing her aside, not caring about her fucking feelings.

So yeah, she'll hop back on the carousel like a madwoman, and she'll rack up like another 50-75 guys in a few short years.

Then, as she approaches The Wall, she might repent, but it'll be too late for her: she's already fucked herself (and half an army) out of ever finding a Good Man (TM).

Another cautionary tale, female lurkers. Hail Feminism!

DunboyCastleInTheSky · 2019-08-02T03:00:11+00:00

How can someone be that emotionally damaged that young?

SuperVeryDumbPerson · 2019-08-02T06:33:22+00:00

These whores deserve the worst. Us men should have more respect for us and be more selective about girls. It's time to put an end on the age where men are the ones running after every single woman

Lejias · 2019-08-01T20:08:33+00:00

Bruh this is truly sad...

hozarkmoca · 2019-08-02T01:16:46+00:00

“Longing, intensity, wild passion, deep passion” in the previous relationships. I’m sure the previous Chads weren’t actively/intentionally being anymore “passionate” then the new bf. She (possibly, women in general) created some concoction in her head about some low life, bad boy being someone she has to change or save in this lifetime. Well, it never happened. Those guys didn’t give a shit about her. Now she meets arguably a normal, intelligent guy with a direction in life and deems him boring, nice, sweet. It won’t last. This guy won’t be enough because of her skewed perspective. Her emotional “me, me, me” attitude. “I don’t feel passion and it’s his fault.” She either needs to keep looking for her “intense passion”, which means being used by Chads, or she needs to grow up and understand life isn’t pure “wild passion” 24/7.

Aldabruzzo · 2019-08-02T01:05:57+00:00

Classic settling for beta buck$ after getting plowed with alpha fux.

I'm just gonna leave this here.

Proteus_XXX_III · 2019-08-01T19:13:11+00:00

Your dad sucked probably abused you, emotionally or physically, to you abuse == love

Maybe &= not

TriggeringEveryone · 2019-08-01T23:21:03+00:00

until recently, I'd been happily single for about a year.

Wow, she went a whole year without sex?

SilverGryphon · 2019-08-02T08:29:11+00:00

Ah yes the classic textbook case of AF BB.

OmegaSirius · 2019-08-02T09:44:47+00:00

Seems like she's not "wife" material.

tysonsmithshootname · 2019-08-02T14:19:08+00:00

Oh lawd, another one of these cunts that measures her relationship in tingles, butterflies and fireworks. Once again, a decent dude gets eliminated by MYSTICAL COSMIC FORCES

houseoftolstoy · 2019-08-02T14:27:19+00:00

A perfect example of the failure to shift gears from lust guided decisions to long term relationship-minded guided decisions. This sort of thing is very difficult to do, if not impossible. It is like trying to compete in a 5k after spending weeks eating junk food all day and being sedentary. It is not just a switch that can be turned on and off.

She will still crave those lust filled days, even if she understands that they were bad for her. She made it so that she has less appreciation for her current boyfriend because thanks to hypergamy, she wants to have both the excitement in that the bad boys gave her and the stability that her boyfriend gives her. She is upset that she cannot have everything be better rather be happy with the overall positives that the current guy brings.

This is the result of living in a society that condones "free love" and hedonism, as well as place little priority in long term thinking. I suspect that she lacked a strong father figure growing up, since she cannot fully appreciate a good man when she is with him. And she knows he is a good man, but cannot force herself to appreciate him for who he is.

dialecticwizard · 2019-08-02T00:19:26+00:00

Don't be smart. Don't be entertaining. Focus on yourself. If she cannot hack that. 3.5 billion of them out there. If you have the balls. You can have your cake and eat it.

eofree2be · 2019-08-01T21:31:44+00:00

Don’t worry. He’s using you for sex too.

Unfigured · 2019-08-02T08:27:31+00:00

Posts like this show why you need women to be honest with you and absolutely can't trust them to do so. I'm sure if he read this post he would know what to do. I'm also sure that the only version of this post he's actually received from her is "All the other men I've dated were toxic and awful; you're so much better than them!"

oirectine00 · 2019-08-02T15:14:40+00:00

"Remembers things I told him"

I can't believe women set the bar THIS FUCKING LOW for themselves by dating troglodyte Chad cavespawn.

Devilsgun · 2019-08-03T00:43:21+00:00

You could have chosen to start a happy, stable life on an even keel and work up towards some real success and lifestyle highs with a decent, hard-working fellow, but you chose instead to go the easy (slut) route and ride dat thug dicc carousel and act like a typical entitled modern Feminist sassy smartmouth gangsta bitch retard. spike your pair-bonding receptors to 11 with McThuggin and his crew every weekend until they burned the fuck out, and ruin yourself for life.

I don't want a hoebag restoration project that's missing half her soul. No real man does.

Cristoff13 · 2019-08-03T05:24:50+00:00

We need to understand how female sexuality works. Women may believe, consciously, they want a nice honest respectful guy. It seems though the average female sex drive is normally at a much lower level than the average man's. Only in response to novelty, excitement, unpredictability does it rise up briefly to a level similar to the average male sex drive.

Blogginginvicecity · 2019-08-02T08:24:55+00:00

In this scene we see how a retired, cheap whore accustomed to the fast life now finds her gentle, stable new John to be agonizingly boring. Where are all the good men? Is this 'queen, yaaass, slayy' goddess destined to be bored or alone? Oh, why God, why!? She DESERVES better!!!

washingtonpanther · 2019-08-02T08:27:18+00:00

I hope this guy discovers booze.

It helps me sleep a hell of a lot better than women ever did.

RF111164 · 2019-08-02T14:45:37+00:00

eww loser alert

PS he should leave you

FalsePositiveRethink · 2019-08-03T16:03:12+00:00

Poor guy is doomed.

Time to run.

TomahawkSuppository · 2019-08-05T12:57:50+00:00

Alpha widow

civcinco · 2019-08-05T19:58:03+00:00

Actually this is classic female behavior. They want to work for kisses. They want you to ignore their text for hours on end. This means you're a high value male with other options. They love that. They want to be on pins and needles around you because they don't want to mess it up and not see you for another week.

She just described everything to a T her comment about that should be stickied somewhere.

BenHartwig · 2019-08-06T12:15:25+00:00

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Put yourself first, understand what you want from this life and then move forward to take small steps to it together with your partner.

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blackcomb-pc · 2019-08-07T04:46:03+00:00

The overarching theme here is that she doesn’t understand her own nature. She likes that type of guy and will never like anything else. Her current guy is just a concious decision, but she craves that primal (most simple) way of building a relationship, which is based on “chemistry”. Poor fellow, I hope this ends quickly so he can get on with his life, because here jaded feelings will only grow. Just a matter of time.

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