A Nice Guy Lies

InChargeMan · 2018-02-28T07:25:31+00:00

Translation: "Of course that woman is attractive, I'm going to make you dance like a monkey to prove that I'm the alpha in our relationship."

Triadis3 · 2018-02-28T05:25:23+00:00

To her it's not a game (shit test)

Yes, yes it is.

I'm tired of lying to not hurt her feelings

TaDa!

Standard rules apply.

throwaways_18 · 2018-02-28T09:12:31+00:00

What’s wrong with just saying “yeah, she’s pretty.”

She’s trying to make you dance and I think A&A is part of that dance, in this situation, though it works as well.

She knows the woman is hot. So do you. So don’t fucking dance. Cut her stupid game off at the knees. If she tries to have faux anger over it or legitimately becomes jealous, laugh at her and don’t engage. She’ll apologize later.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-02-28T03:34:26+00:00

Hmm. I don't know if she's my type. <pause> You think she can suck dick like a pro? <strokes imaginary beard> Because that's definitely worth another 2 points. That would make her a solid 8.

Hehehe. My wife never asks me these questions, because she knows I'd answer them, graphically.

Reach180 · 2018-02-28T13:32:13+00:00

The take-away from No More Mr. Nice Guy should be that you don't fear her looking at you negatively, not that you need to blurt out the factual truth.

You don't need to be factually correct about something like this. She's not querying for information about your taste in women. She's pinging you to see if she's got your balls in her purse.

This is banter. Play the game.

TheGlassStone · 2018-02-28T11:27:36+00:00

Hey OP, my wife was going on and on one day about Aquaman and how sexy he looks. Then, she looks at me and says, “What superhero do you find attractive?” I smiled, stayed in the same universe, and said, “Who do I find attractive? Wonder Woman, because I’d make her my bitch in the bedroom. She’d like it, just like you like it.” She glared at me and I just grinned. She’s never brought it up again.

Edit: the sex was good that night too by the way.

fuckmrp · 2018-02-28T05:37:46+00:00

Her: Oh do you think that woman is attractive? You: Why did she say something about me?

Her: Oh do you think that woman is attractive? You: Do you? Should I ask her to come over?

Her: Oh do you think that woman is attractive? You: Can we take her home?

She'll probably get sick of it and stop asking but maybe, just maybe, you get to disappoint two women one night.

You can be honest, you can lie or you can do what servers your interests.

ReddJive · 2018-02-28T12:48:59+00:00

I am reading some of these comments and I wonder if OP has the Frame to pull off AA or even AM. Most guys run these tings like scripts the PUAs used to run.

Doesn't work as well. What the PUAs found is taht they have to have some depth to themselves. Over time PUAs realized that the process they were undergoing was improving themselves as men. Red Pill kind of developed from that.

/u/nastynickdr is the right answer. Being cocky funny isn't going to work if you can't handle whatever she's going to throw at you. It's a shit test, unless you've had that talk about a threesome. Handle it as such.

A simple look. Brush it off and say "Are you done?"

AA, AM, LMNOP is not going to help unless your frame is made of vibranium. And OP's isn't otherwise he wouldn't be wrapped around the axle about it.

Alpha_Engineer99 · 2018-02-28T13:06:50+00:00

“Of course she’s fucking hot...” smirk

My beta days, no way I could pull off a type of comment like this. Now, it’s so easy and fun. Self amused.

My wife actually points out hot chicks to me all the time now, it’s amazing how the dynamics (myself) have changed.

Stop worrying what she thinks.

Alphaphux · 2018-02-28T06:01:25+00:00

Say "which one?" Really get her to point her out. Then when she has just stare at the other woman and get a real eye full, bonus points if you can catch her eye and get a little smile

The_Litz · 2018-02-28T07:00:49+00:00

What is your answer going to be if she asks you if you think she is fat?

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-02-28T13:30:38+00:00

There is no freedom like complete honesty. Shrug and tell her the truth. She’s not stupid. She knows the answer already so why pretend otherwise? If you can’t be honest with something easy like that then how many other aspects of yourself are you to cowardly to show? Will it always be roses by being truthful? Of course not, but you’ll be respected as a man. Will she leave you because she asked a stupid question and the answer pissed her off? No. Will she leave you because you have no backbone, are afraid to make waves and bow to which ever way the wind is blowing? Yep. Boring as fuck and not respectable.

RuleZeroDAD · 2018-02-28T14:08:33+00:00

"I wouldn't kick her out of bed for eating crackers."

Ex_Swm_Lfw · 2018-03-01T20:51:09+00:00

In the few times that has been brought up by my wife. “She’s an X out of 10, she has nice Y, thumbs up/down”

More often though if I find a woman exceptionally attractive I volunteer that information, and specify why she’s a standout.

A woman has a choice. She can become irrationally jealous of a woman you’re likely never going to even meet, over something you can’t really control. Or she can take that information on board, about what you find sexually attractive, and do something useful with it.

I wouldn’t participate in a competitive comparison (Is she prettier than me?) that’s non-productive, and sort of a back handed insult (as if my affection is somehow completely hinging on looks). And by wouldn’t participate I mean give her a dissatisfying answer such that she never wanted to ask the question again.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-03-03T17:34:58+00:00

Oh do you think that woman is attractive

The answer is "yes" or "no." You can also compare her specific features to your wife. You can easily neg the shit out of this Shit Test and get her pissed off. Soon she will stop doing it.

yesbuthereswhy · 2018-02-28T11:10:34+00:00

I’ve never thought about it that way but yeah it is like a dance. I feel like most guys, including myself go through it, so I’ll take the advice and just answer honestly. I have no problem telling her when her ugly friends that she thinks are pretty are ugly so I should have no problem when they actually are pretty.

Rian_Stone · 2018-02-28T14:28:28+00:00

Walk me through the consequences of being 100% honest with your answer.

Yes, the AM/AA responses deflect this and have her think you're socially adept, but think about why you feel the need to do so

rocknrollchuck · 2018-02-28T16:28:40+00:00

"Yeah, she's sexy! Do you think she'd give me her number if I asked?"

broneilbro · 2018-02-28T17:14:22+00:00

When I was in my frame years ago my wife asked me what I thought about so and so. Girl was cute and I went up and struck up a convo and got her number...walked back and she was shocked I did it...

Years later, I'm a recovering BEta bitch.

InChargeMan · 2018-02-28T04:34:07+00:00

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Title	A Nice Guy Lies
Author	yesbuthereswhy
Upvotes	9
Comments	108
Date	February 28, 2018 3:23 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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