Did I pass my shit test?

cholomite · 2018-07-14T18:58:12+00:00

"So....you don't want any?"

Don't address the questions directly or give a straight answer. You were right to identify this as a shit test, but you deer'd too much when she started asking questions. Overall, not terrible, but did you get to enjoy your food? Letting her scare you away from the meal you got would have been pretty weak.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-07-14T18:48:05+00:00

You did just fine. But realize that this is only the beginning of the shit tests.

Just continue to improve.

RedPillCoach · 2018-07-14T19:47:47+00:00

"My" shit test.

You write as if this is the one Shit Test that you have to pass. Women don't use Shit Tests like snipers, waiting for a shot. They fire them like a machine gun with a seemingly unending belt of bullets.

More are coming.

Snapchat contact of an old boyfriend of hers

This is a very, very hard and loud boundary that was violated.

Ive been a dick for the last few days

How is that working for you?

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-07-14T18:40:55+00:00

Great - up until you walked out the door like a little faggot.

You have a long history with her of being a beta pussy and a long track record of showing no leadership. Would you trust you now?

Now you make one little decision and she freaks out - it’s normal. For a second you showed your dick, now it’s hiding again. She doesn’t trust you to lead shit. It will get worse before it gets better. Keep it up. At least you have a jump start on your SMV.

Next time when she freaks out, just AA it or shut the fuck up since you’re new at this. Show her nothing she says affects you. When you do finally not hide your dick, make a funny and cocky joke, laugh and pick up the nearest phone and act like you’re calling the president for his approval to pay for the delivery. laugh, smack her ass and walk away or continue doing whatever you fucking want to. Who gives a fuck what she thinks.

All these years, she owned the frame and you operated in it, you need to read and implement sidebar to operate in your own frame ===>

ChokingDownRP · 2018-07-14T18:45:28+00:00

You'll get to the point where you don't even hear the harping because you're focused on your mission, and not her BS. Just don't engage that nonsense at all. Keep making decisions. Be unaffected by her criticism of you handling your shit.

BobbyPeru · 2018-07-14T20:18:16+00:00

Fucking own it without apology or defending. STFU or A&A it if you’re ready for A&A. AM with a little mixed comfort would work well also.

She doesn’t like that her little beta boy is doing stuff on his own. Keep doing it because her way overblown reaction is a sign she’s seeing changes. Don’t go too Rambo though - mix in a little comfort...

Rian_Stone · 2018-07-14T22:05:34+00:00

Why are you focusing on pizza?

Fritz_Frauenraub · 2018-07-15T11:12:30+00:00

There's going to be a whole hell of a lot more of this kind of thing...months and months of it...as she starts digging in her heels on your attempt to extricate.

Also you'll begin noticing her frequent use of powertalk which was there all along.

Make sure you read NMMNG and WISNIFG right away.

Calistyle033 · 2018-07-15T23:13:44+00:00

To add to this, wouldn't a good leader ask their FO if she wants any pizza? Don't ask her what she wants to eat or what she thinks about it

Just broken record if she doesnt want pizza for lunch and asks for something else..and if she continues to shit test order it regardless for your kids and move on like you did

This would help maintain a positive frame and keep it light in the house

Lion-Slicer · 2018-07-16T17:10:13+00:00

Again, I have no way to prove anything, but I made her delete his contact and I am monitoring her phone as best as I can

is it cozy there in her frame?

wkndatbernardus · 2018-07-15T02:02:35+00:00

Which is deeper; your D in her V or you in your wife's frame? My money's on the latter.

redesquire · 2018-07-14T23:17:35+00:00

No. You did not pass. This wasn’t even a shit test. Shit testing is hypergamous in nature and is a tool used in female sexual strategy. She’s already determined that you’re not worth fucking so shit testing you served no purpose. On the other hand, she’s probably shit testing Chad, or the pizza delivery guy (or both). She’s just being shitty to you. And if you’re being honest with yourself, you probably deserve it because you’re a piece of shit.

Since you didn’t give us any information about yourself I skimmed through your post history. You have a lot of red flags, my friend, most notably your unhealthy preoccupation with drugs. You have a serious amount of personal improvement ahead of you and right now you should only be focused on building yourself into a better man. Once you make some real improvements, you can expect to be shit tested. Hopefully you’ll have read and internalized the sidebar materials by then and you’ll have some tools at your disposal for responding to shit tests. But until then ... STFU when she’s being shitty. You earned it.

rocknrollchuck · 2018-07-14T22:10:40+00:00

“Why didn’t you tell me you ordered out??” “What do you mean?” “ You didn’t tell me you were ordering out? Now you’re making decisions, without me??”

Women will often tell their husbands something like "Why didn't you tell me before you did that?" So when she says stuff like this, address it in person . Be calm, and ask, "Oh so I need to understand, are you saying I need permission?"

Of course she'll balk, because she doesn't want permission from you for sure.

"So help me understand, I don't need permission but I need to consult with you? If you ask me not to, I still have a choice? Is that correct?"

She'll either double down and try to push it as her being consulted (so you go broken record), "But I'm an adult capable of making decisions?"; or she'll say "No it's my decision.", but I doubt she'd say that.

Your next step will be learning how to take advice from the First Officer.

CalvinRichland · 2018-07-15T03:53:34+00:00

"I don't need to ask your permission to provide food for this family" smirking and cocky as fuck thats how you roll this

Title	Did I pass my shit test?
Author	Lion-Slicer
Upvotes	7
Comments	59
Date	July 14, 2018 6:33 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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