What value does your wife bring?

Nec_sorte_Nec_fato · 2017-09-04T09:59:21+00:00

You are 100% responsible for this. You've let it get to this point. Why would you expect it to be different with a new wife? If you're honest about things you will be so fucking frustrated with yourself instead.

My wife brings a good amount of value to my life. She cooks nice meals, keeps a reasonably clean house, washes and puts away my clothes, understands and agrees to a household budget, is agreeable companionship when I'm not being a retard Rambo, and has helped immensely with my children - both looking after them and guiding the feminine aspect to my relationship with them.

screechhater · 2017-09-04T11:18:50+00:00

Honestly ?

Sit down, write out what you bring.

Leave out the paycheck, washing of the cars, cleaning of the house, etc.

What do "you" bring ? If you picked her up at work, does a stud walk through the door she can show off ?

What kind of "prize" are you ?

Once answered, you will know

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-09-04T15:32:37+00:00

It's not about my wife now, is it? How does finding someone else's wife here more attractive help you?

This is more, much more about you being ~5 weeks into MRP, covert contracts, and a lack of frame built on a minimum amount of reading and digesting the pill.

Your posts have great opsec, we know almost nothing about you except you have been married at least 5 years, your wife is typically awalt, and you are sexually frustrated.

Wow.

Welcome to meeting all of the membership requirements for the club.

Your posts reek of weakness and impatience.

5 weeks?

Your expectations are way too high, your amount of effort over time way too low, and your frame is for shit as a result.

By the numbers:

1) READ THE SIDEBAR. ALL of it. Have you read the wiki? The beginner tab? The posting guidelines?

2) LIFT. 3-4 days a week. 1 hour. No talking. No fucking around. Get in, get out. Because you have reading to do.

3) STFU. You talk too much. You post too much. You read too little and lift too little.

Get to operating at dread level 5, and a total of one month of operating in MRP for every month of your relationshit.

i.e. Married 9 years means working through the dread levels for 9 months and being at level 5 by the time you get to 9 months.

THIS is when you write the above post, AND 2 of your previous posts.

The pill takes time AND work to digest, and results are not immediate, or even soon.

At the end of dread level 5 and one month of WORK for every year of your relationshit, You pause and evaluate.

If you do not have the marriage you want, then start active dread at level 6 and push through to the marriage you want, or the relationship you deserve afterward.

If you decide at level 5 that you are going to settle for what you have, then own it, don't fucking bitch and whine about it, and don't post here about it.

I've come to the conclusion that 90%+ posts here are all about someone whining because they honestly, really, deep down inside in a place they don't talk about at parties, do not want to actually DO all this work AND put in all the TIME it takes to be successful.

This sub should be full of FRs about what's working and why. We should never see anyone whining about their shit unless they are posting about a potential flaw in the process, whereupon I imagine a couple dozen EC and red beret can point out their flaw in application or understanding.

MRP is guaranteed.

The praxeology is rock solid.

You engage the process, DO the fucking work, DO the fucking time, and by the time you get to dread level 12, SOMEBODY will be fucking you every day AND making you happy.

So...

LIFT

READ

STFU

Next post, in four months, make it an FR about how well you're doing at dread level 3/4.

Not a word about her, unless the sex is often.

Seriously dude, could you even write a post about JUST you?

Until you can, you've got a LOT of fucking WORK to do.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2017-09-06T14:44:28+00:00

Relevant: My Wife, the balance to my masculine

Her Value

Awesome Sex Frequently
Great Cook
Interesting Person
Feminine Youthful Balance to my sometimes serious demeanor
Great Cook
Someone who knows when I'm giving my all or not
A person I trust to Raise my kids
Someone who keeps my castle clean while I run the kingdom
Awesome Blowjobs
Another motivated individual who I take pride in leading as well as observing her achieve her own personal and professional goals.
A reliable person to help me get the top on/off my Jeep with ease
No worry of STDs during sex
A person who educates my kids & holds them to the same standard I do
Someone who helps show my daughter how a woman should be as opposed to the shit examples provided by society.
A pair of tits and an ass that I can touch whenever, wherever
Someone who needs me and adds to my sense of purpose
A chick who doesn't annoy me and makes me laugh

Should I keep going?

My wife compliments my life, she doesn't make it more difficult.

Just the other day she bought me a planner and filled the entire thing out, color coordinating and everything so I knew when we had practices, meetings, etc all the things I have a hard time keeping order of.

She also bought a 100 year old desk and refurbished the entire thing on her own (not her normal project) for me for father's day as a writing desk.

Why is she like that?

Because I would accept nothing less.

If we end up divorced, I'm still going to have a smile on my face and look back on this with fondness.

88Will88 · 2017-09-04T08:32:19+00:00

There are several ways to look at this. I think a list of positive things that add value would include (but not be limited) to the following:

good company
intimacy/ sex
has your back
domestic or work duties
support (emotional or financial)
conversation
raising kids
nurturing

If she is doing many of the above well, then that is good value. If she does none, or a few badly, then she is probably leeching value.

stonewall1979 · 2017-09-04T15:48:54+00:00

Wow. You might as well start planning for the divorce now. I wish I would have planned mine better. She is going to rape you in court if she files for divorce. Or she will just continue to leech benefits and an easy life off of you untill she has a new higher value man to swing up to, then file and rape you.

Reread NMMNG. Then read WISNIFG again. Start enforcing boundaries and cutting out disrespect from her. Believe me, I'm learning this the hard way right now. My son to be ex flat out told me that her affair partner doesn't take any shit from her, and while she doesn't like it, she respects him for it. That hurt. It hurt a lot to hear and understand it that I fucked up years ago. Which is why those two books are so important.

Kick her ass in gear and make her do something. If you have a nanny, she needs to be working. Part time at a minimum. This will also help you in a divorce since she'll have some income and job skills.

Hit the gym, take out the anger and frustration on the iron.

Drop the contracts. Stop worrying about her value, and increased your own value. Listen to Blue Pill Professor's YouTube series on dread.

Understand that your SMV, isn't what you think it is. It's what she thinks it is. You are not an 8. To her, you're a 4. She walks all over you, spend your money, naps daily while you pay another person to raise your kids on her time. And you allowed, and continue to allow this to happen in your home.

If you lost 90% of your wealth tomorrow, are you high enough value that she would happily stay with you? Or begrudgingly stay while finding a new man to support her lazy ass?

Money and assets aside, are you worth her time and energy? Do you engage her emotions? Smack down shit test? Pass comfort tests? Are you fun to be around? If all of these are not 'yes', get to work owning your shit, or owning the impending divorce.

Good luck, from some one who's been in your shoes and failed.

223552 · 2017-09-04T08:18:54+00:00

I am gradually seeing less, and less value my wife brings... It may have been like this for a long time ( I chose to ignore it...), this may change with time, or I may reach a point, where its no longer worth my time...

OR

Maybe its our job to lead our wives, and help/direct them to bring more value (sex, better company, things that are important)

The truth is probably somewhere in between. If you expect someone to walk into your life, and be perfect, then you are chasing a unicorn. At the same time, you don't want some one that needs constant work...

The_Litz · 2017-09-04T09:07:08+00:00

I found it is very much a case of the grass is greener on the other side.

In general, if she complies with Human 101 she should be adding value if provided with good leadership.

You may find women with better qualities in certain departments, but lacking in other areas.

With some ~~luck~~ good vetting you will have someone adding value in many areas of your life and only leeching value in certain areas. The dealbreakers are in which areas she is not adding value.

No person will be 100% what you want, it is always a compromise.

alwaysdoubledown82 · 2017-09-04T09:59:29+00:00

/u/88Will88 Nope she doesn't work. Always too tired to work blah blah even though we BOTH get up to our 2 year old during the night plus she's sleeping through most nights.

Plus my wife naps EVERY day. I'm talking 7 days a fucking week. And I'm meant to work my shit around her nap. I feel like I'm running a day care center.

Almost at the point of wondering why I bother. I worked my ASS off for 10 years to create wealth (started well before her), provide for her, love her, look after our kids as much as she does (maybe more), etc.

I'm hoping the red pill stuff makes a difference but I'm starting to doubt that upping my SMV from 8 to 9 and all that shit will magically transform how she feels, acts, sees life, etc. She's negative about EVERYTHING and I'm the opposite. Backing the wrong horse unfortunately sounds like the probable case here.

Sigh.

Scurvemuch · 2017-09-04T12:53:02+00:00

what value did she add in order for you to marry her?

what value do you add to your life?

The_Litz · 2017-09-04T12:13:05+00:00

Because you worked so hard she must appreciate you is a covert contract. NMMNG basics.

sh0ckley · 2017-09-04T12:23:05+00:00

Companionship. Good company (most of the time.) Hot sex. A pretty face. Laughter. Great looking legs in heels.

When I ~~need~~ could use a little help running our life then she (now) can see that, offers and helps get shit done if I remind her (most of the time.)

Most of what she brings is "just physical" and "superficial" (blue pill programming), but I'm not ashamed of my dick anymore and am happy as a masculine man who fucks her relentlessly and regularly.

Rian_Stone · 2017-09-04T12:43:18+00:00

Whatever answer you get, nothing changes your life. All you get is the comfort in knowing you don't have to take responsability for your life and it's concequences

Rian_Stone · 2017-09-04T16:51:42+00:00

Why so worried about what everyone else has?

Title	What value does your wife bring?
Author	alwaysdoubledown82
Upvotes	3
Comments	79
Date	September 4, 2017 7:39 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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