Lose libido completely after masturbating. Don't even feel like meeting up with girls

TheRedPike · 2020-03-04T20:39:59+00:00

Well, this is a shitshow.

First off, choosing not to mastubate or suggesting that masturbation might be the cause of a specific problem IS NOT the same as NOFAP. Sometimes indeed bad habits can cause bad results. The almost religious nofap world is very much not in line with a man that can hold frame and guide his life on his terms.

I think most guys experience what OP experienced at some point. Jerking off isn't the same as fucking, unless you are doing the latter wrong. They affect us differently. That is not to say that jerking off is inherently wrong. Its just to say that you should make decisions based on your situation with as much data as possible.

This is not the place for zealotry on the topic. Nofap participants are welcome here. Dogmatic responses are not and will be dealt with accordingly.

Second, incels. I'm convinced that the vast majority of incels are not. They are volcels. They simply don't want to put in the work to build a better them. And this is where I personally have a problem with nofap. Abstinance is not action. It's passive. Passive choices yield passive results. Ask any alcoholic that has given up the bottle if all they had to do was give up the bottle to succeed.

Finally, in my experience there is a strong correlation between semenretention and people I eventually have to ban. I'm not going to speculate as to why, but know that if that's your foot in the door in a conversation, I'm already eyeing you with great suspicion. And frankly, it just sounds all nuts. But that's just my opinion.

imahoaxandacoach · 2020-03-04T15:29:31+00:00

Stop masturbating.

fernandoarauj · 2020-03-04T15:59:09+00:00

At least for me, fucking is way more fun than masturbating.

Like, miles apart. Just thinking of smacking some ass while pulling her hair is more fun than jacking off.

Also, initial dates are fun. Bantering, learning new shit, talking about yourself.

It's appealing process.

What happens to me usually is that my insecurity (taking a risk on someone not liking me / having a shit date) would make the certain option look more appealing. You just need to overcome that.

redditsince2011 · 2020-03-04T16:29:38+00:00

I’ve struggled with this also. Other people in this thread are saying “just don’t masturbate, go have sex it’s way better” but it’s really not that simple. Even after I have sex sometimes I think “wow, I did all that just to cum. What a waste of time.”

It’s hard to relate this problem without abundance. When getting laid is rare for you then of course that’s the big prize that motivates all your actions. But when getting pussy can happen anytime you want, then it becomes less valuable and your decisions are based less around having sex. So I believe it really comes down to what your big picture goals are. What can the woman offer you more than sex? If the answer is nothing besides an orgasm, then why not just masturbate?

So in the end it all comes down to what do you want, in the big picture. Do you want the experience of hanging out with a girl, going on a date, having an adventure, and having an experience greater than sex? Or do you just want to cum and make that urge go away so you can do other things with your time?

That’s my 2 cents.

AuberyBitoni · 2020-03-04T17:41:03+00:00

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rangat42 · 2020-03-04T16:53:14+00:00

Some women are great, but most are a waste of time and full of drama and manipulation. You risk getting stds, false rape allegations, pregnancy. You have to spend money on them and waste your valuable time trying to impress them and chase them as if they are some valuable princess. After you cum you realize how ridiculous it all is and its not worth it. Unless you meet a great women (very rare), might as well just jerk off and avoid the headache.

DigitalDragonSlayer · 2020-03-04T15:50:13+00:00

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Jitters67 · 2020-03-04T16:29:11+00:00

Go check out semen retention subreddit and do that. Day 38 here

OverSentient · 2020-03-04T16:07:00+00:00

You may have masturbation addiction. I suggest you quit cold turkey and there are several subs here like pornfree or nofap that could help you. Masturbation requires lesser effort than taking a girl out and both have the same pay off.

So you might think its better to just fap, but because its so easily accesible your brain gets worn out due to the excessive dopamine releases (if theres any left).

Just know that being with a woman is a much stronger sexual experience and masturbation leads to the degradation of the experience i.e. erectile dysfunction

btrpb · 2020-03-04T15:39:16+00:00

Cumming into a sock aint "fulfilling" anything.

alphakari · 2020-03-04T17:09:47+00:00

If you want to have a libido, don't masturbate.

If you need to get some shit done and you've got your head in the clouds day dreaming bout hoes, masturbate.

LethalShade · 2020-03-04T16:18:43+00:00

That's what happens. Put biology on your side. Or be a porn wizard, up to you.

Soundnipple · 2020-03-04T16:56:35+00:00

If I stop masturbating the need for a woman is really strong for me. The easy answer is to stop masturbating.

GameOfBimbos420 · 2020-03-04T17:08:40+00:00

Same, just don’t wack it before you’re meeting a girl or going out... if I do I literally don’t want to move or go out.

Keep the fapping down. If not you literally are taking the “venom” out of yourself...

xX_bullitt_Xx · 2020-03-04T19:35:11+00:00

If you masturbate with no external visual stimulation you'll eventually lose interest in jerking off. The problem with porn (or nudes) is that it's effectively a sedative. You're killing part of your evolutionary driving system when you satiate desire with porn. Try masturbating with no porn and you'll see what I mean.

DTron2332 · 2020-03-04T16:20:46+00:00

Stop masterbating. If you really feel as porn or cumming on yourself is more appealing than cumming on a women’s nice ass then you’ve fooled yourself.

You think that stroking your cock to another guy fucking the girl you would love to fuck makes you a winner? No. It makes you the guy in the corner.

bumbuff · 2020-03-04T18:04:53+00:00

Masturbating is mostly habit. I think it's worse than than video games for the endorphin addiction.

Why is it worse? Your T levels take a dip for a bit after you spunk. And your T levels play a role in your confidence and attitude.

When you haven't been laid in a bit and don't masturbate you should be feeling more lustful. 3 or 4 days without any sexual release and the wind could get me off and women feed off of it. I am in there like a tiger playing with its prey before the kill.

That being said, a lot of people new to RP that are trying to get laid really do need to follow a no-fap disciplined lifestyle. Your T-levels rise, you gain some confidence to develop your social skills so that when you do get laid you are confident in your skills that lower T-levels won't affect your game.

But until you have those skills you really need all the T in your system. It's why a lot of people that were able to get out of the habit of masturbating mostly saw positive results.

I also have a personal theory that incels and betas generally masturbate too much. They don't masturbate BECAUSE they are betas, they are betas because they masturbate too much. You create a false sense of abundance in your young 20's by jerking off all the time. Then you end up with a bad habit. Fast forward a few years and you've been laid once in your life, you don't care anymore and your appearance and attitude falls to shit. Summed up and paraphrased a it.

Contrary to popular belief I think not masturbating has made me more clear on my goals, where most people think masturbating gives them clarity.

Masturbating, fundamentally, is a participation award for living. I don't want that shit.

EvelynnSpoiler · 2020-03-04T16:25:32+00:00

Prolactin mate

think_9090909 · 2020-03-04T16:59:13+00:00

Okay let's clear up a few things. Whether you decide to fuck a girl or masturbate whenever you feel the urge to get some sexual release, you are feeding your appetite for sex. It might seem like you are simply getting rid of the urge when you are fapping (or having sex), but in fact the exact opposite thing is happening. The urge does go away at first but then it comes back even stronger and, overall, you end up desiring sex more.

Sexual release is like any other drug. The more you take it, the more you want it. Masturbating is just a shorter and easier path to get to that sexual release than real sex with real women. It doesn't feel as good as real sex but it does take a lot less effort, so it makes sense that so many men resort to it.

Feeding that desire for sex can quickly take over your life and it can become the only that matters if you're not careful, just like crack is the only thing that matters for crack addicts. That's why if you want to be more productive in life, it helps a lot to learn how to resist those urges so that you can focus on others things like your career, your skills, your fitness, your health, your knowledge, etc. Sex is a very strong desire but it is not a basic need. Try going without food for a week if you don't believe me.

pebblefromwell · 2020-03-04T17:53:28+00:00

Then stop yanking your crank

JohnnyOmm · 2020-03-04T18:15:26+00:00

Holy shit just stop jacking off you already know this

JaevonTheDon · 2020-03-04T22:26:29+00:00

I stopped having sex and stopped masturbation for 60 days. Pure semen retention. It's the greatest i've ever felt in my life your lazer focused on everything and it's like all the red pill stuff just instantly sticks with you after a few weeks. It's the semen. I'm not in the very religious world of nofap i just tried new things and set off to see what works and what doesn't. Semen retention and nofap works. Sr plus red pill will give you everything you've ever wanted

Redditorsheaven · 2020-03-05T00:43:47+00:00

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tightsleeves · 2020-03-04T20:17:39+00:00

Wow this is stupid; After you release your libido drops... that's not rocket science and is general "being a man 101" shit. If your libido drops to levels this low you need to determine if masturbating is your path to glory.

If you somehow think jerking off to porn is more exciting than having a girl hanging off your dick then I don't know what to say; Quit porn for 90 days and re-align your sexual mind into a healthy state.

unamedasha · 2020-03-04T16:10:36+00:00

You dont enjoy her company. If you don't enjoy a girls company drop her.

hamagiclamp · 2020-03-04T17:15:14+00:00

I like how any time anyone on this sub mentions they masturbate the no fappers come out to project there own issues on the poster.

You're probably not addicted to masturbating. You probably have just reached a point of abundance that sex means very little. Start looking for something else to fullfil you. Your dick needs to get off but don't forget your mind and heart need to get off as well.

catsdontsmile · 2020-03-04T16:31:26+00:00

I have this exact same problem. It's gotten to the point that I will get on tinder, get some girl to send me some audios and nudes begging for it, jerk off and lose all interest in meeting her. It seems like such a waste of time and energy when I'm not REALLY interested in her. I've actually gone ahead and uninstalled dating apps. I think its a matter of interest. If jerking off is better, then you aren't really into those girls, so better spend your time elsewhere. Ideally stop masturbating and just be hyper-focused in yourself.

jammyjam50 · 2020-03-04T15:59:00+00:00

Saved yourself wasted energy, Potential STDs. Nagging. Endless texting. Smelly used Tinder generation vagina juices on you. Female manipulations. Should i go on?

You doing it right buddy. Pussy ain't worth it really. Focus your energy and resources on yourself.

Unbiased101 · 2020-03-04T17:21:43+00:00

Post Nut Clarity. Look it up

Domebeers · 2020-03-04T17:31:01+00:00

theres an old mark walberg movie where he is like an assassin, I can't remember the name, but one of the supporting characters is a guy who gave up women to just masturbate, and he has this scene where he explains the rational. It's funny, check it out.

Anyway if you are going out with girls who are dtf but you flake because you jacked instead, yeah dawg don't do that.

" If sex is a basic need like feeling thirsty, why not take the shortest route to fulfill it? "

You wouldn't drink out of a sewer if you were thirsty, you'd still try to find clean water. Think of pussy as clean water. You go for that first.

madfrombrad · 2020-03-04T17:56:41+00:00

Do leg excercise for a quick hit of testosterone. It will boost your confidence and you won’t need to jack off

Siyuen_Tea · 2020-03-04T20:29:45+00:00

If you're satisfied with that, why not?

The reason you won't want to do that is because your game will rust and it'll be hard to get when you do want it.

L2diy · 2020-03-04T20:46:36+00:00

Quit being a little bitch, stop masturbating, and hit the gym

boy_named_su · 2020-03-04T20:48:39+00:00

LOWFAP

nexther · 2020-03-04T21:50:10+00:00

Having a girl submit to me... while I use her body aggressively in any way I want, gets me off. Spanking her, tying her up and choking her gets me all hot.

Jerking only gets me off in dry spells... which for a guy like me: doesn’t exist.

Sorry but nothing is going to get me off as much as the real deal: HB9’s.

Redditorsheaven · 2020-03-05T00:58:27+00:00

Doing at least 10 days nofap. Nothing has changed really. Instead, I don’t want to feel sexual and feels like I forgot what sexuality and physical connection are. Before that (when I mastrubated 1-2 times a week) felt much better and wanted to search sex and someone who would do with. However, now I completely lost my will on approaching girls. I will continue doing this for more but I am more suspicious than enthusiastic now. That is my opinion on nofap. We’ll see where it goes.

bsutansalt · 2020-03-05T01:02:53+00:00

Lose libido completely after masturbating. Don't even feel like meeting up with girls

THEN STOP JERKING OFF! /u/TheRedPike already answered it so /thread

Terminal-Psychosis · 2020-03-04T19:20:42+00:00

Oh god, the freaks over at /nofap are brigading again.

Take the pseudo-science bullshit elsewhere.

Title	Lose libido completely after masturbating. Don't even feel like meeting up with girls
Author	mksu911
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Date	March 4, 2020 3:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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