Maintaining frame when plate complains (declined plans)

Rexile · 2020-04-28T09:49:30+00:00

You did the right thing OP, one text to get your intentions across, enough. You had work to do and get healthy sleep, you placed yourself first and I'm sure this made you higher status because you literally turned down fucking. This made you look like you're not some dog running light-speed straight for the bone when someone throws you one.

I don't think texting her at morning is a good idea, she's gonna have a hangover and probably have regrets about texting you while drunk.

IMO hit her up when you wanna meet her and that's it.

buttgoogler · 2020-04-28T11:48:03+00:00

She lives an hour away

Fuck that, I'm not driving for an hour no matter how good that pussy is.

Plus sleep is more important in 99% for me.

breakdatass · 2020-04-28T09:28:46+00:00

I would have either;

a) not replied

b) "busy, next time" and then not replied

c) not have posted here and also a.

omega_dawg93 · 2020-04-28T12:52:08+00:00

do NOT fuck drunk a/o high females. in today's social climate, i would highly suggest ONLY having sex with sober women... and in some cases, only have sex with them after i have a text msg or vm where she's talking about having sex with me, a nude pic, etc.
getting older will make chasing pussy a 2nd priority behind work and your health. at 23, i'd drive an hour in a thunderstorm to fuck. at 35, that ain't happening because i have shit to do and i need my sleep. at 42, "you want this dick... come get it bc i'm in bed."
you should view these types of requests from women as two things: they are both a proactive statement for sex, and they're also a shit test wrapped in disguise. if she offers and you change-up everything you're doing just for sex, she's gonna wonder if you have your priorities straight. girls hate rejection, and telling them, "no," is a slap in the face of their "pussy power." removing that pussy power from her arsenal every now and then makes her hunt for your validation in other ways... including making herself more available for sex, kinkier during sex, etc.

wtfdoiaskfor1 · 2020-04-28T09:58:31+00:00

You were busy, that's that. If she complains, do not flake, insist that you were busy. If she asks - it's none of her business.

That sets a clear boundary, and she has to respect it. You'll maintain frame like that.

cglehosit · 2020-04-28T14:16:13+00:00

Sounds like a fun chick. Is your question “what do I do now to keep the plate spinning”? The answer to that is what you’ve been doing: stay your course and keep busy until you want to meet up. Don’t be like one of the 6 orbiters she was texting too and send shit like “oh babe I’m sorry I couldn’t last night”, keep your Chad persona going. That looks like waiting till Friday or Saturday (so she learns you are a genuinely busy guy), and invite her to something fun you want to do: “Dinner at my place, bring wine.” Or “I’m going biking, you should come.” or whatever your thing is that you want to do. I know it’s tough with all the “stay at home” crap going on (probably part of the reason she drunk texted you).Keep it up!

bobthesnob71 · 2020-04-28T09:23:16+00:00

H: Duck me until my bill turns blue I subconsciously read that as until my balls turn blue and was going to say her being a tranny is definitely a red flag. Btw You are busy. So fuck what she wants. You need to show her that you fuck her when you want it and you're not at her disposal whenever she needs some dick. Soft next if continues the drama

Poopybuttholeman1 · 2020-04-28T12:28:52+00:00

You should have teased her, but still made it clear that you were busy with work and given her the strong hint that you couldn’t break whatever flow you had.

Just saying ‘sorry I’m busy, can’t tonight’ and then leaving it will make that plate break eventually.

If you want to retain a plate, then you need to strike a balance (otherwise that plate will fall and break).

This is too ‘red pill’ even for this stage in the relationship.

It will peak and plummet fast if you’re too harsh.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2020-04-28T12:47:32+00:00

Seems like a fun plate but man tread carefully with that one. Loose cannons are fun for a short while but have a tendency to blow themselves up.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-04-28T17:22:19+00:00

Ignore her if she’s drunk

spartanblood1 · 2020-04-28T12:20:24+00:00

Just be cautious if she's drunk, next thing u know shes going crazy the next morning. rip lmao have fun

axiscontra · 2020-04-28T12:46:54+00:00

You don't have to be so forth putting. I would have just said dang I wish I knew earlier so I could have planned, and then but the burden on her to visit me. Definitely keep the tease.

2020-04-28T14:24:51+00:00

Iv already had sex with her a few times and I’m not into it. I’m not in a position when I was younger and sex is so important to me. It has to be appealing to my tastes not hers. Or at least be standard so like you said, I can learn. But her masculine energy makes my dick go turtle mode

The1ndex · 2020-04-28T14:32:07+00:00

I would have ignored.

She would see what she wrote the next day and be embarrassed.

I would have invited her over another time like nothing happened.

You responded via text, and now she has that for reference forever.

VojvodaSrpski · 2020-04-28T15:51:47+00:00

And hour away is way too far for any kind of pussy, if it was 5 minutes might have gone and do something real fast then get back to doing what you were originally doing.

SpiderAlpha33 · 2020-04-28T16:18:29+00:00

Just do what you want, brute force yourself to hold frame and be prepared for whatever happens.

ProFriendZoner · 2020-04-28T18:39:40+00:00

I don't think you need to do anything. You told her you were working.

2020-04-28T21:38:18+00:00

I'm done with this website. FUCK what are these questions?

PhaedrusHunt · 2020-04-28T22:47:25+00:00

She's a hot mess. Some plates fall, some get dropped. Put her in the latter column.

alphakari · 2020-04-29T04:16:24+00:00

Sounds like you don't have a problem yet. If you assume there will be a problem, you put that into the world.

When it comes down to it, problems in a relationship arrive from the woman. You have to let them arrive from her, or else your frame will be too liquid.

cglehosit · 2020-04-28T13:32:53+00:00

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Title	Maintaining frame when plate complains (declined plans)
Author	hashashin710
Upvotes	84
Comments	51
Date	April 28, 2020 9:10 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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