I'm 27. Live i Europe. 5ft 6. Facially I drew the short straw a bit with a big nose and a tiny chin lol. Not much hair either. I have a decent body, though!
Started reading this sub about how to get laid and done the typical advice (such as learning a musical instrument. Piano and guitar in my case. I'm getting decent! Took up some new hobbies. Meditate. Go to the gym, although was already doing that to be fair)
I also 'learn game'. I don't think of it as 'learning game' though to be honest as I don't think I read anything that I didn't already know. (and as they say, 'what you say doesn't matter') - I already know about how to hold eye contact and to listen to what she says and then try to relate. I naturally tease people when the opportunity arises etc. I started with mysterymethod and read a few books, finishing with 'models' which was kind of the polar opposite of 'mysterymethod' in every possible way, which was quite amusing lol (having so many experts who disagree on literally every single nuance of game!)
Anyway, throughout that time I began approaching.
I'd estimate maybe 300 approaches? All at night in pubs and bars.
A mixture of indirect and direct. Since experts disagree and there's clearly no 'right' or 'wrong' way, I decided that both approaches 'work' and so I thought best to play with both and see which one gives me the best results
Of them 300 or so approaches, i'd say the 'split' was fairly even in terms of results
So 150 indirect approaches, resulted in like 90 'insta rejections' where she basically ignores me, and walks away, or just tells me 'sorry i'm not interested/you're not my type'' etc
The other 60 inidirect approaches were where girls were at least seemingly interested in having some sort of interaction. Possibly liked me or possibly too polite to tell me to go away. I tease, ask questions, make cold reads etc.
However, once it's clear that i'm interested in being more than friends and maybe try to ramp up the kino a little, or make a flirty comment or try to move her to isolation, that's when rejection happens.
Except in the case of one girl who was into me and I escalated too having sex with her that night. However, I feel like going 'direct' would have got me the same exact result in her case. She was 18 and had just broken up with her bf
The 150 direct approaches have a similar distribution although since i'm showing intent from the off, the insta rejections were probably a little bit higher.
I guess direct forces her to decide whether she thinks you're good looking enough for her or not?
Despite so much rejection, I feel it almost gave me a smalll confidence boost and I started trying to game girls at work, too
2 hot new girls started. Both 18.
With the first one, I decided to just be the fun, socialble guy and spoke to her a fair bit, teased her, showed that i'm sexual with DHV stories etc and she was very receptive etc and seemed to like me quite a lot, although once i showed some intent, she kind of basically said ''I like you as a friend. You're fun and popular bla bla but i'm just no into you in that way. Hope we can still be friends''
Someone told me that my mistake was not showing my intent straight away, so Once the other new girl started working here, I showed intent within a few days, but she told me that she wasn't really interested in guys/hooking up at the moment etc.
However, I found out from our mutual colleague that she spends lots of time in the office hitting up random(strangers) 'handsome' guys on instagram and meets up with some! ''Not looking for hookups!!??'' she says!! lol. Literally browses insta looking for good looking dudes who live close and then slides in their DM's!
So yeah, It seems maybe the 'girls don't care about looks' stuff isn't quite on the money, but whatever, it is what it is and I don't intent to give up.
Still continuing too approach.
Not sure there's much more I can do to improve my hit rate at this point, though. I think we just live in a very superficial world now! I'm not blaming the girls, though. Us guys are the same and just as bad lol. We're only interested in the hot girls, too!!
Will update in 8 months time lol
edit: Honestly have no idea why this thread is so heavily upvoted, lmao.
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