Approaching

Loose_Profession_630 · 2024-02-24T14:03:04+00:00

You have to hit rock bottom and FEEL the desperation and disappointment..

Once you get tired of losing, you start trying and SLOWLY stop giving a fuck...

You have to get tired of the bully taking your lunch money...

No_Plan8250 · 2024-02-24T14:35:33+00:00

First step - work out, don't be ghetto, and be educated. Match what you want.

i fear i will just get rejected and or be awkward and fuck it up.

So what? If that's the worst that can happen, suck it up and find out. If you have no source of reference you're just making things up. Why play against yourself?

We have three options to fix our problems: use money, use time, use effort. If you don't want to use one (money), then be prepared to put in the time and effort, and a lot of it, to get over it.

How much do you want it? Answer that honestly and then align your actions to meet that level of desire.

JazzleRazzle · 2024-02-24T17:14:18+00:00

You need to develop confidence and confidence comes from having receipts that speak about your courage and deeds. No one talks about a hero who sits on his ass. You need to go do shit. Lift weights, fight a mfer, jump out a plane, etc. Do stuff that you can take pride in and gives you a taste of conquering fear. After that…just go to them and don’t over think it. It’s a numbers game and fortunately there are a lot of women in the world.

Factsonreddit · 2024-02-25T05:51:37+00:00

You need to accept yourself for who you are and change what you can that you don’t like. You can never rely on others to decide your mood or value for you. You might need therapy or a lot of self-help. You’re not going to magically get over this.

Pedro_Moona · 2024-02-25T09:13:48+00:00

Level up the best you can as a person and adjust you expectations to realistic.

TRTGymBro · 2024-02-24T13:23:45+00:00

Sure. Let me fix your life in a couple of paragraphs on a Reddit post.

SeaPiccolo6717 · 2024-02-24T13:31:19+00:00

Do you have social friends? Getting along with social people with boost your social skills, and you'll have wingmen too, who can teach you the attitude needed for the game

burtmacklin-9 · 2024-02-24T14:50:19+00:00

First of all, loose the fear of getting rejected. Even if you get rejected, its not the end of the world, nobody is gonna put in jail for approaching a woman decently.

Just go and talk.

ddrj · 2024-02-24T14:51:20+00:00

Other than quitting, what other option do you have?

epimpstyle · 2024-02-24T23:08:16+00:00

The good thing is that you won't be rejected until you tell her why you're talking to her.

Any woman, and I repeat, any woman, will talk to you for 1-2 minutes if you approach her indirectly by asking her a question - "Is there a Chinese restaurant around here? I heard it opened recently blah blah blah".

Starting indirectly means that you have to make a transition to let her know your real intention, otherwise if you keep talking about the chinese restaurant, she will really think that you are looking for the restaurant - you don't want that to happen, so you need a transition.

Before using the transition you should use a trick called IOI (Indicator of Interest) - if a woman starts talking to you by saying more things than necessary, she touches her hair, giggles, looks at you .... well, in this case it is worth talking to her and you can make a transition to let her know that you find her cute. I bet that you can tell when a woman likes to talk to you or not, everyone is able to say that. See this video filmed in Ukraine VIDEO - after a few seconds, I think you can see if she likes talking to me or not.

You will say "there is no seduction in the video" and you are right, in the beginning there is no seduction because in the beginning my goal is to get her phone number and the seduction ("the game") starts on the first date.... but until then, focus on getting her number, be patient.

Maybe you think that it is easier to use a "direct opener" and let her know that you like her from the beginning, well... if you look on youtube, you will see that usually those who use this direct method, they are physically attractive, they are above an average looking person and since you said that you are unattractive, I strongly suggest that you go indirect.

dacution · 2024-02-24T15:44:28+00:00

Most women will be happy that you approached, whether they reject you or not. Some will be rude, but you can’t let that impact you. Also remember that women aren’t rejecting you, they’re rejecting their perception of you at the time.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-02-24T17:13:04+00:00

Self hypnosis will help you with your anxiety. I don't have anxiety anymore.

Title	Approaching
Author	Throwaway1244588
Upvotes	10
Comments	39
Date	February 24, 2024 1:13 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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