Hi guys.

I just watched the Adam Lyons video that was linked and I realized we didn't have a great post regarding calibration. He went into great detail regarding the different personality types of women and what they find attractive and unattractive, based on actual psychological studies and not just pseudo-science.

Here are the four archetypes that women are most attracted to:

  • Nice guy (stereotypical strength: being nice, stereotypical weakness: being needy)
  • Leader (stereotypical strength: taking charge & being social, stereotypical weakness: being bossy)
  • Bad boy (stereotypical strength: being spontaneous, stereotypical weakness: being an asshole)
  • Provider (stereotypical strength: buying gifts, stereotypical weakness: being insecure)

Female personality types (based on PEN model):

  • Psychotic (crazy, risky, wild, promiscuous)
  • Extrovert (outgoing, friendly, not shy)
  • Neurotic (shy, not extroverted, can be pessimistic)
  • Psychotics respond mostly to Bad Boys (they enjoy risky behavior - stereotypical slutty, party girls)
  • Extroverts respond mostly to Leaders (they enjoy someone who can require them to be social)
  • Neurotics respond mostly to Nice Guys (it makes them feel good to have a nice guy in their lives) and to a lesser extent, Providers (safety, comfort)

The idea is to understand that you can develop and possess characteristics of all four attractive male archetypes. This will allow you to adapt your personality on the fly (read: calibrate) to be the type that will be most attractive to the woman you are talking to.

It's also entirely possible to display the positive traits of ALL the personality archetypes while DROPPING the negative traits (e.g. doing nice gestures but not being needy. Or taking charge and deciding where to go on dates but not doing things she won't find enjoyable.) This is fully in line with the Characteristics of a Modern Alpha Male that I wrote for our Inner Game series.

Understanding how to calibrate for the three different personality types will help take your game to the next level. Like anything else, this requires applied field research and practice.

It's also important to calibrate for a girl's energy level.

Related to the studies, they found the two most UNATTRACTIVE qualities of men are poor hygiene & lack of sense of humor. So brush your teeth, wash your hair, and smile! ;)

Lastly, understanding these personality types will help you as you qualify the women you meet. This should allow you to meet women you truly desire. E.g. if you know you don't like outgoing, extroverted girls and prefer quieter, introspective ones, you want to play up your nice guy side (but drop the neediness). I bet this is good news for a lot of you out there.

There you go, guys. This is the very core of calibration and it's backed by legitimate psychological studies.

EDIT: Thanks to maukka for the test link. I believe it'd be helpful to take the online PEN test (link here) and see what your breakdown is between the three personality types. You'll see that no one is 100% one type, however one will be more dominant. It'll help you get a deeper understanding of how calibration works.