This is something I see EVERYONE overlook.

Sure you might be assertive or are really good at setting boundaries. But you know who can also be good at that?? Women.

And when they do it, they most likely have a feminine way about themselves.

So imagine yourself as a man being good at assertiveness and setting boundaries, but you have this feminine way of carrying yourself. Or another energy that is NOT dominant.

Girls probably still won’t be attracted to you.

a ‘feminine way of carrying yourself’ could mean:

Your kinda talk gay. Your tonality is way too high. You finish sentences off higher than you started them

Feminine body language(a lot of stuff)

Not holding eye contact

Your face isn’t relaxed

Etc etc

(By the way. I would argue that for us men, sometimes conveying feminine energy every now and then is GREAT. However, it only works if you already have a perceived dominant persona. It serves as good contrast. Same with being visibly anxious. But this is for another post)

So do you really think she’s going to be attracted to you?

Sure on your resume your might be considered confident, but women are attracted to that MASCULINE ENERGY. That bad ass way of carrying yourself. So she still might not feel shit for you

This is probably why some low life’s get more girls than you even though you have your life together and real goals.

What I mean by masculine energy:

strong eye contact

relaxed eyes. Not too small like you’re tired/faded. Or not too big cause this is feminine.

low voice and consistent tonality

don’t have monotone energy. (You might be a natural low energy person but being monotone is a subtle way of saying, “I’m scared of expressing myself”)

don’t apologize too much.

Don’t wait, initiate.

Once you decide to take action, go in all the way. Don’t be hesitant

Relaxed face and eyebrows

Initiating flirty smiles

Great at handling and de-escalating potentially violent confrontation

Strong handshake

Etc etc (basically stuff that conveys “I’m the leader, don’t fuck with me, I know what I want, and deserve what I want”)

I just wanted to clarify that although confidence and dominance are associated, they are not the same thing. And it’s that dominant type of confidence that turn women on. It’s the perfect contrast to their feminine energy.

(P.S: My list is far from complete. Feel free to add to it )