Creating sexual tension

Banana_Slut · 2015-01-27T09:13:38+00:00

Slow. The. Fuck. Down when you speak to her. Not like invalid level slurp, but just enough pause to create tension with eye contact. Keep eye contact with her for extended period of time and then release it. Its called "Push/Pull" or Pressure on/Pressure off. What you don't want to do is murder her with your eyes. That is creepy.

MetalPUA · 2015-01-27T05:33:09+00:00

One way to create sexual tension is with push/pull method. Basically, you send mixed messages and create uncertainty so that she's not quite sure just how you feel about her. For example: you playfully tease her about her hair. Your words alone may sound like you're insulting her, but your vocal tone and body language indicate that you're flirting with her. Fans of the Mystery Method refer to this as "negging."

In Models, Mark Manson suggests vulnerability (complete openness and honesty) as a way of creating sexual tension. If you're out and see a beautiful woman, you walk up to her and say "Hi, I think that you're beautiful and I wanted to meet you." Nice guys hate the idea of doing this because they think it's creepy, and guys with false confidence hate the idea of doing this because they think that complimenting the girl too early causes them to lose their power. It's basically an all-or-nothing gamble, high risk for high reward. She may reject you outright (perhaps even harshly), but if she doesn't reject you outright then you've instantly created a huge amount of sexual tension.

_Brimstone · 2015-01-27T09:25:46+00:00

Push/pull has been covered so I'll give you some other facets to work with.

Your physical escalation may have seemed stilted because it's not primarily a way of creating attraction. It's how you make them comfortable with your touch. The other part is to show that you are not afraid of touching them, and are so sexually interested that you can't take your hands off of them. That's the only attraction it builds, other than the end-game stuff. You probably started too late. Touch should be natural, since it's all about comfort. It's why touch should be initiated as quickly as possible, but not aggressively. At coffee, there shouldn't have been any physical barriers between you, such as a table. (Physical barriers act as emotional barriers!) Don't dance around the subject. You're here not as friends, and physical escalation makes your intentions clear.

As previously stated, see the DiCarlo escalation ladder.

If things are feeling really friend-ey, then you still might be able to save things.

At a natural break in conversation, where things are going well but aren't as carnally charged as you think would be ideal, stop talking and stare deep into her eyes. She'll get confused and likely uncomfortable. (This is that "sexual tension" with which we meet our ends.) When she finally asks what's up, you tell her that you're looking at her. Now you're going to be swimming in sexual tension.

Study body language. Look at her lips; when she notices you doing so she'll think about yours and think about kissing you.

wakenbake7 · 2015-01-27T16:19:09+00:00

hold on to your crotch as you stare into her eyes, she will know exactly what message you are trying to convey so if she accepts she will grab her crotch and look back, if not you look at the waitress while you do so, it will cause her to get jealous and she will eventually grab her own crotch

metroddity · 2015-01-27T14:19:47+00:00

Don't take my advice, but what I used to do is assess the current status of my dick, if it was shrinked up and shriveled, it was because I was nervous, so I'd consciously try to get half a chubby and that would get me in a sexual seductive mood where I would start talking about naughty things and start teasing her.

It was borderline pervy, but playful and non creepy. It didn't work all the time, but it made me feel powerful employing the power of my dick. Of course this depends on the chick, and environment, because if you're in a club and you recently met the chick, it works much better than at Starbucks on the 2nd date.

If you feel attracted to her, you should touch her respectfully, and convey that attraction, otherwise, she'll think that you're scared of her.

smoochie100 · 2015-01-27T12:31:42+00:00

It's difficult if it does not arise naturally. Talking about sexual topics can set the right mood. I got it on once with a girl because we talked how there is no good colloquial word for vagina. Talk a little bit about a funny sexual encounter or something like that, but only tease.

Compliment her, tell her you think she is hot, pretend to be a little bit in awe when you see her because she is stunning.

Eye contact helps, sitting close to each other and slight contact of the legs can help. Touch is for sure important, but not too aggressive and the lady has to like it. For some it's too close, others love it. Try it out and look for the reaction.

But in the end, you can't force it. If there is no chemistry, there is no chemistry.

Cerdo_borracho · 2015-01-27T05:29:54+00:00

I recomend you reading de DiCarlo's escalation ladder.It is good.

brocklanders3791 · 2015-01-27T07:43:57+00:00

yeah brother, if it feels forced then it is and she knows it too. you can make chemistry yourself, but you have to work on it. learn humor. talk and flirt with every woman you meet good looking AND ugly, so that your game is top notch when it gets down to the nitty gritty.

itsmevichet · 2015-01-27T15:03:44+00:00

You're not asking how to increase sexual tension. You're asking how to increase attraction.

Kino. Eye contact. Flirting. Increasing intimacy through conversation. Escalation in general.

Increase a girl's attraction to you, and any time you are not having sex, sexual tension increases automatically.

dragondead9 · 2015-01-27T18:44:25+00:00

You do the one thing you never do with friends. Stop, stare, squint, and look sexy, sailor.

Willydrag · 2015-01-27T16:16:59+00:00

Maybe you two aren't that compatible?

polarpack · 2015-01-27T18:02:38+00:00

I am pretty good at that. Real good actually. I make-out on every first date that I have. And yes, I do end up banging them, at least on the 2nd or 3rd if not 1st date. Don't do coffee. Do alcohol the first dates. Look into her eyes when talking. Sometimes give her seductive eyes (just picture that you are doing something sexual to her, and the smile you make is what you want to show her). Definitely compliment them, try to make excuses to touch i.e. commenting on the clothes they are wearing, and touch the fabric. If she says something funny, laugh loud, and hug her because she was cute. Keep your arm around her, say something like, 'wow you are really funny. and cute.' then kiss her cheek. Once you start getting turned on, she will too. Then try to escalate to her lips.

You said it feels like friends. It is because you are acting like a friend. It can certainly start that way, but you must must escalate. Take the lead. Make bold moves. Even if you have coffee, put your hands on her hand. Fondle her fingers with yours. Be sexy. Be handsy. Girls love men with strong hands all over them.

foomfoomfoom · 2015-01-27T15:06:38+00:00

Make the possibility of sex available. If you go on a day time coffee date, you'll make it very hard to bang her after the date. People fuck at night time. Take girls out at night time. People meet their friends for coffee. We meet people we want to have sex with over beer. You want someone to be less inhibited when you physically escalate. Not more caffeinated. In fact, I think asking a girl out for 1st date coffee subcommunicates that you're scared to make a move.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2015-01-27T16:01:36+00:00

I find that sexual tension naturally occurs when I find them attractive and I want to fuck them.

If my goal is date/fuck them, then sexual chemistry is there. If my goal is to not be awkward or not be nervous, then that's all that's gonna happen. I'm gonna try to not be awkward. That's it. Get it?

Kino ain't necessarily gonna create sexual tension if you're not trying to fuck them or date them. Doing kino for the sake of doing kino is pointless.

Title	Creating sexual tension
Author	tdurden90
Upvotes	153
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Date	January 27, 2015 4:44 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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