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UnifiedField9000 · 2022-10-13T23:21:27+00:00

Watch Seinfeld. It may or may not be that funny to you, but the off the wall observations they make in the show in their conversations tend to be funny to most girls when you make the same observations in conversations. Your observations about societal trends, your pet peeves about people. Like “ it really annoys me how…” Done wrong it can feel and come across as negative and complaining, but if you keep to trivial topics it’s usually funny. For example I was talking to a girl the other day how I hate ads that try to sell an ordinary thing as an extraordinary thing. There was a Pizza Hut ad I’d seen on YouTube that said “finally a pizza that’s designed to be delivered hot and fresh”… What so all your other pizzas weren’t? This in itself isn’t hugely funny, especially not when you’re just reading it on reddit. But my annoyance about it made it funny to her. It does help if you are genuinely annoyed by the things you’re talking about, and not just acting for a joke. Also watch standup comedy to improve your timing and humour generally.

The other thing to do is to come up with a list of interesting things you do about yourself and write them down (only you’ll see it). Things like your hobbies, your interests, unusual or exciting experiences you’ve had. Then reframe each one into a “bait” sentence that can be dropped into conversation. The key is it has to be a bit vague so she feels the need to ask you more about it. For example, I used to be a tv cameraman, and I would say “I was out shooting the other day and” but not elaborate on what I meant by shooting. So she has to ask to find out. Or if you do jiujitsu or something you could stretch your shoulders a little and say “I hurt myself rolling last night” and she’ll likely ask what you mean by “rolling”.

The key is to get her asking questions about you, rather than you interviewing her. That way she will feel way more invested in the conversation and you won’t seem like every other dude who just “asks her about herself”

GhostoftheGame · 2022-10-13T20:46:47+00:00

Lower the Bar: the hotter the girl, the higher the bar men set for themselves for things to talk about. Picture her like someone who's less attractive - what would you say to them?
Ask Them About Themselves: People love talking about themselves, so ask open ended questions. This will both give you more time to think about what to say while they're talking, as well as content to further chat about.
Live a Fun and Interesting Life: This was the #1 thing that changed the way I could communicate with all people, men and women. When you can talk about things you've done, or relate to things girls tell you ("I loved Tokyo too - what was your favorite place?") it's truly game changing. It doesn't necessarily need to be traveling, just whatever you're interested in. Even if it's just getting out of the house that's better than nothing ("You'll never believe what I saw today - I saw a homeless person try to steal a car" or something haha)

Fate-in-haze · 2022-10-13T20:07:19+00:00

Look for a course called Conversation Escalation: make small talk sexy by Bobby Rio.

zapadz · 2022-10-13T20:08:01+00:00

Here are videos on improving conversation with women

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKAvQYCKhhM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhR3VSMHo2w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2CTy504FSA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEKapNRvRY4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxOih6GwSXI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYXS7lCWgsg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kb5Q3sSdtpo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bttXdkGxeDM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wESfjbfaNyA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85jQpsxhMCc

delabole · 2022-10-14T06:17:35+00:00

Always talk to everyone. Men, women, old, young, hot, ugly, gay, whatever. I mean like baristas, checkout people in supermarkets, bartenders. That will make it easier when you want to talk to a girl you are interested in. If you want a place to start, talk to guys in sports bars. They will not "reject" you. You can always talk about the game (as in baseball, not Neill Strauss's book). Next up, go to any bar and sit at the bar and talk to the bartender or the person (male or female) sitting next to you. It is not weird to talk to a bartender or another person sitting next to you (unless they are a couple, but they usually don't sit at the bar). Take it from there.

digitalhomad · 2022-10-14T01:22:59+00:00

Talk and care about people in a genuine way, not a creepy way. If the reason you want to be better at conversation is so you can date and have sex, most people can pick up on that.

Start out being genuine, carrying, and empathetic. No need to have a 30 minute deep conversation, but a light conversation, try to remember what went well, and what didnt.

If you can easily have a conversation with anyone, then it is much easier to have a conversation you are attracted to.

The people who are best at this, can have a conversation with anyone.

Tips on good conversation pieces. Learning where pauses are in the conversation to start talking. Leaning how to interrupt someone but not be weird about it. How to turn a phrase and which one's do well. Eye contact. And at the end of the day, learn the conversation isnt going anywhere and know when to bail.

CryptographerDue7488 · 2022-10-14T00:30:25+00:00

1.Ask a question (ever been bunji jumping?) 2.let her speak 3 relate with your own experience of said question( oh yeah, I remember I was going to go once..but I chickened out...I'm way too scared of heights lol I rather mountain climb or somthing..something where my feet are actually on the ground) show something about yourself...courage,vulnerability, or insight 4.follow up with a another question... Always remembering little detail of what she said and throwing it and commenting it back at her

Rinse repeat. That's convo.....and obviously have fun with it....tell her about herself if your able to pick up on certain things

Seems hard but it can only be perfected thru actually doing it

Get a text buddy even of its not sexual...you can train your brain to respond and texting gives you time to think instead of on the spot

Good luck

pikecat · 2022-10-14T02:58:36+00:00

You need to be in the moment and not trying to think of what to say. When you think to yourself, you're failing.

I managed to do this, go from not knowing what to say to saying all of the right things before I knew what I was saying. The bonus to this is that you then focus on the person and feeling of the situation, and when you see this, you better know what to say to this particular person.

I did it by talking to as many people, that I didn't know already, as often as possible. In the beginning it seems hard, but then it becomes fun and you get really good at it.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-13T20:11:54+00:00

try listening more. people fucking love talking about themselves. here's a god damn guide with very simple instructions on how you can basically never run out of things today.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Active_listening

Professional-Chain20 · 2022-10-13T23:45:25+00:00

Charisma on command YouTube channel is a good resource for becoming overall more charismatic otherwise for improving your game Casey Zander. He’s young but he’s a G

OpenHeight6562 · 2022-10-13T20:08:48+00:00

do you have examples of what he says that you can copy? Are you ever able to stand close to him when he's hitting on a girl?

Bdog5k · 2022-10-14T04:13:17+00:00

Stop reading seduction books and do thinks that are ACTUALLY interesting. Your conversation lacks substance because you do.

Be present. You don’t HAVE to be a comedian entertaining the person.

If they are actually engaging and like you, it’s more lax and actually easier to be Mr funny man.

Green_Guitar · 2022-10-14T11:55:01+00:00

Read how to win friends and Influence people
Watch Charisma on Command on YouTube
Go out and interact with people. Practice makes perfect.

ghrinz · 2022-10-13T20:22:40+00:00

Stop trying bro. Be in the present, and say what’s in the mind. Observe how the other person react and slowly you’ll start picking up cues.

dbpersona · 2022-10-14T01:36:05+00:00

Just be yourself lord jesus. I make dumbass jokes to women and they laugh. I am also just nice and make it clear I want to get to know them. Women don’t usually want you to view them as an object.

Dangerous_Guitar_213 · 2022-10-15T00:06:01+00:00

If you want tobe funny watch a lot of cartoons and steal their jokes. Trust me they are funny in real life too.

You are as dumb as a rock!

Metamorphis igneous or sedimentary?

adamworth33 · 2022-10-14T01:28:53+00:00

Do cool stuff. If you lack the means, then knowing cool stuff shows you’re interested in things. Or just ask more engaging questions than average people but do it non chalant

fuckinpiss · 2022-10-14T02:31:27+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/BrosDatingAdvice/comments/xplvb6/conversational_threading_the_basics_of_building/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

ari_mauricio_9808 · 2022-10-14T05:29:41+00:00

Make sure you make more questions that the other person makes to you, then you gonna end as a good listener and you can get a really good feedback from the one you're meeting, so you can realize if you really want to keep going whit that woman or man and you can asking about anything since what you think about the weather till more personal questions, that could be work.

Gaydame · 2022-10-14T14:06:50+00:00

Ask question (about her) Tease the answer
Also, turn questions into statements, especially cold reading.

Instead of "where are you from?"

"I'm guessing you're from New York, because you have a hard shell but you're really friendly in person." The great thing about cold reads is it doesn't matter if they're right or wrong.

Listen. Actually listen.

Every sentence she says will have several conversation braches.

I swear most of these "I don't have anything to say" is because dudes don't listen because they're planning their next sentence!

cave79 · 2022-10-14T16:13:33+00:00

Ask the right questions you won't have to speak women love to talk. Just laugh and nod.

Beginning-Ad-8041 · 2022-10-14T18:06:18+00:00

YouTube Avery Hayden free association, most people on here are going to tell you to some platitude like be interesting, or watch hundreds of hours of comedy specials but learning to free associate is what you really want to do

Craigw1972 · 2022-10-14T18:54:29+00:00

Listening

Damagedyouthhh · 2022-10-14T19:30:12+00:00

I am female and I love small talk, so maybe I’ll be able to help! The best way to maintain a conversation is finding points of relation with someone. As soon as you find something you’re both passionate about, the conversation just flows. The best way to do this is to ask her a few questions, I like to ask, what do you do in your free time? What things are you passionate about? What is an awesome memory you can share? Or something you have wanted to tell someone but haven’t had the chance to?

Getting started can be a bit stilted, maybe she will struggle finding an answer at first. In that case, you share something about yourself. Whatever she shares, even if it’s something you know nothing about, this is your chance to learn! Say she’s super fascinated by biology, but it was your worst subject in school. Say that! Soon enough, points of relation come up, for instance, she says she loves a good night out bowling with her friends. Oh, you love bowling too! What’s the best game you’ve ever had? Conversation is an ebb and flow in which two people are sharing things about themselves. As soon as something strikes you as interesting, or even if you have no idea what she’s talking about, this is your chance to hear those things. There’s nothing I love more than hearing someone talk about something they love. Their eyes just light up, and they’re able to share something maybe they havent had someone to share it with before. I once had an hour long conversation with my friend about physics, and I know nothing about physics! It was one of the best conversations ever.

Think of a conversation as something that builds, and once you have these points of relation, you can keep building and start talking about other random things. Just say whatever comes to mind if you have to, like maybe comment on the environment of the room, or even the weather, and ask what weather she prefers. It’s really mundane at first, but if someone is interested, it just happens! Good luck :)

Also I realize this is the seduction sub now hahah, but to be more seductive, just make sure to throw in some compliments when she says she is good at something but not too much, you’ll come off as trying too hard if you’re too nice.

Wazzock_PP · 2022-10-15T01:13:13+00:00

Read the book thinkertoys

IndependentDry8210 · 2022-10-16T14:49:01+00:00

Consider that the problem is sometimes the listener..

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