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DarkSun18 · 2022-09-11T06:56:26+00:00

It can be, everyone's allowed to see a high body count as a no go in potential partners.

I'm a woman and I'd rather not date a man with a high body count, it's just personal preference.

yanonotreally · 2022-09-11T06:57:44+00:00

Bro, you do you. Why do you care what other men think? Is this about whether you should consider them a red flag or is it about your insecure need for everyone to collectively agree on considering them a red flag? Is it because you’re jealous of high value men that sleep with hot girls who’s had a lot of sex without feeling inferior about their body counts? High value men simply don’t have inferiority complex.

zapadz · 2022-09-11T06:25:23+00:00

This guy just posted earlier claiming he was dating a girl who slept with over 100 guys. He’s trolling, don’t engage.

Hyphalex · 2022-09-11T11:10:05+00:00

but don't let it distract you from the fact that in 1998, The Undertaker threw Mankind off Hell In A Cell, and plummeted 16 ft through an announcer’s table.

TheRealestBiz · 2022-09-11T06:29:36+00:00

Because the older you get in a world where people don’t get married until their thirties, the more ridiculous you realize the societal standard is. It’s a social standard designed for a world where twenty years old was the average marriage age.

Souporsam12 · 2022-09-11T06:22:25+00:00

Whats your body count?

It’s the pot calling the kettle black if you have a high body count but expect women to always have low body counts.

SunNumerous3052 · 2022-09-11T10:26:07+00:00

There OP, I fixed it for you:

Why do people say a guys body count isn't a red flag for an LTR?

I find it really astounding some women don't consider it a red flag. I'm trying to improve my game and to me I think it's a major red flag for the following reasons

1- It shows their attitude towards sex (sex is a casual thing, not meaningful)

2- It is a reflection of their decision making ( casual sex is risky for men and women due to higher chance of STDs)

3- You are more likely to be judged and compared to previous partners (past partners could have bigger boobs/ass)

4- Past women will be messaging him for hook ups in the future

5,6,7 same as OP (they are not limited to women so idk how he used them as an arguement against women who engage in casual sex)

I find it really crazy how women don't seem bothered or care if their guy or the guy they are trying to get in an LTR with has banged 500+ girls?

What is the logic behind it?

gucciwillis · 2022-09-11T12:15:53+00:00

I don’t care as long as i’m better than the rest

great_account · 2022-09-11T12:52:46+00:00

The real core here is you're insecure and have a problem with female agency. Don't date women with high body counts if they make you feel like that. They often are the most fun in bed and the least judgemental.

theKnightWatchman44 · 2022-09-11T12:14:52+00:00

I know a girl that's like a 3/10 with a body count of about 35 and she's only 24. This is just the state of dating in the West in 2022 where ANY girl has a whole queue of options, regardless of how butters she is.

Nono_06 · 2022-09-11T11:02:37+00:00

Hmmm so some people have a different set of values than you and you are upset

Are you American ? Cause you are making an awful lot of decisions for people that are not you in your post

If my partner was unapologetically into sex before meeting me good for her, I’m benefitting from all her experience and sex is amazing

MayhemReignsTV · 2022-09-11T11:14:11+00:00

1-why are you making assumptions about people?

2-WTF! Are you a devout Catholic or something? It has absolutely nothing to do with their decision making. And there are many steps that women can take to stay safe. Some of the smartest women I know in the business world have a triple digit body count. Don’t ask me where I got that information 😂 but you need to chill on the being judgmental. Women will pick up on that whether they have had one or 100 bodies.

3-do you not think you’re better than the previous partners? She is choosing to be with you after all of those partners. Obviously, she finds something interesting. Until you let your insecurities show. And that’s exactly what this whole item is. Your insecurity. Get a grip on that.

4-goddamn you are insecure and you judge people without even knowing them. You are assuming she’s a slut just because she has a past. And there goes your insecurity again. Do you know what? She would probably be better off hooking up with somebody who’s not judging her in this fashion.

5-Jesus Christ here comes the judgment and stereotypes again.

6-there you go lumping people into a group again just because of what is said about them. It would be a terrible thing if you actually judged somebody as an individual, wouldn’t it?

7-chemicals are important and when a body makes a certain chemical response to any stimulation, future response is more regulated, even within the brain. But her experience should negate any of this. The difference in response in men is even more drastic and I don’t see myself having any issues here.

I find it crazy how judgmental and insecure you’re being towards people. You really need to work on that before you start judging other people. Just saying 😉

MayhemReignsTV · 2022-09-11T06:30:30+00:00

a lot of men are so thirsty, they forget to care about red flags. Then they rationalise these things away.
Western culture pushes that kind of behaviour atm. You have to go against the grain to stand against it. Many people are not capable of doing that.
All you said is imho true, but still just a tendency. Their are women with low body counts that are not relationship-ready and LTRs with higher body count women that work out. Some women will just convince men, that they are worth the risk.

2022-09-11T07:52:07+00:00

It kinda is, because it shows that the girl has big need for changing partners frequently. Also, her mental and biology may be distorted by getting intimate with so many partners. Still, some guys may just want to have sex with her so badly that they ignore such aspects, also they may just give her a chance as she may seemingly have changed her approach towards relationships. I think you should pay attention if she has inclinations for easy lying and deceiving, if you want to deal with hyperactive sexually girl.

cryptovist · 2022-09-11T10:54:41+00:00

Bc they are insane or desperate

Bkri84 · 2022-09-11T12:14:10+00:00

Who is asking what someone’s body count is? I am a 38M and have never asked. Why ask something that doesn’t matter?

Jay-Ames · 2022-09-11T08:07:52+00:00

I say it doesn't need to be a red flag. Dated girls with seriously high body counts and they were great. Dates girl that were virgins or very little experienced and they were not good. The problem is that because they were sexually curious they were easier to get them to cheat. So i have been cheated on or i cheated with the inexperienced girls.

So i say how she is with you now is much more in important than anything else.

klippklar · 2022-09-11T11:16:43+00:00

I think you're intimidated by sexually experienced women because they have comparison and you try to backwards rationalize your anxiety to suck in bed.

By your logic sleeping with girls will devalue them, so when a girl sleeps with you casually she's a hoe basically. Toxic mindset that won't get you far.

Edit: Oh yeah, you literally wrote it in point 3. Haven't even seen it. I rest my case.

DonaldyPutin · 2022-09-11T09:18:23+00:00

Coz they are still unplugged.

Difficult_Ad_8299 · 2022-09-11T11:56:47+00:00

Can we define high body count? 1000+? 100+? 10+? 1+?

Tbh It’s a matter of competition, jealousy and ego. Because most girls can basically have sex at the clap of their fingers whilst most men can’t.

The answer is: if that’s a red flag for you, then it is. If it’s not, then it is not.

Erbium-Oxide · 2022-09-11T12:01:02+00:00

I disagree with 2. Sex is more fucking risky for men nowadays.

Intelligence-Is-Sexy · 2022-09-11T11:50:37+00:00

CaptainSaveBPD · 2022-09-11T12:22:05+00:00

cuz like 97 percent of them get it handed to them on a silver platter, so we can't blame them for doing it, i would if i could lol

CaptainSaveBPD · 2022-09-11T06:02:04+00:00

why am I downvoted?

ZEUSAJ · 2022-09-11T10:35:39+00:00

Hey man, can you share the reddit where you are seeing men not caring about women having higher body count?

CowgirlBebop575 · 2022-09-11T12:24:23+00:00

Honestly, I don't really care unless I consider the number to be ridiculous.

With the studies, correlation doesn't equal causation.

nomoiman · 2022-09-11T10:45:57+00:00

I think it depends, some people might be okay with it, some won't be. If this is a deal breaker for you that's fine.

Snadadap · 2022-09-11T11:22:10+00:00

Different morals and value systems

1) sex has as much or as little value as you assign to it. You could have sex with two people and one means way more

2) no bearing on decision making. Sex is a natural part of human life. Yes she can become pregnant but contraception exists. It also takes two to tango, if a man has sex with 10 women and get all 10 pregnant, does that not say anything about his decision making?

3) I'm secure enough to not care and not compare myself to her previous. I'd prefer she has some sexual history so that she knows what she likes and doesn't like

4) I trust my future gf to not entertain past guys

5, 6 and 7) do you have a link to some studies proving this?

I'm not a teenager, I have a past and any woman I deal with will too. As long as she hasn't slept with my friends or family, I don't need to know who she's had sex with

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