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2022-08-28T14:08:28+00:00

If you got stood up, your next step was to introduce your self to 5 other women prospects at the bar that night and to move on!

Weary_Horse5749 · 2022-08-28T05:44:06+00:00

It’s a game buddy, some day you will win

RProgrammerMan · 2022-08-28T10:23:28+00:00

I think immature women think men don’t have feelings since we aren’t expressive as them. I think these are women that should be rejected.

DLtheGreat808 · 2022-08-28T08:45:48+00:00

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yiggaman · 2022-08-28T04:45:04+00:00

My only advice would be to stop acting like a bitch. You gotta learn to say there's somebody out there for me. Fuck that bitch that stood you up. Go get another one. There's a fat chick right now that's dying to eat dinner with you. Go get her and stop crying

Crunch-Potato · 2022-08-28T07:19:24+00:00

Wow the comments got wild on this one, seems you really struck a nerve with people lacking empathy.

MrBlack__ · 2022-08-28T13:39:02+00:00

I dated this woman who was a STERN feminist, had NO remorse, empathy, sympathy or consideration of mens feelings, she would joke about how her ex ended up in a mental hospital after dating her after he had a break down. And after dating her I understood how a man with less experience with women could be destroyed by her…

But this woman was a teacher… a SEN teacher, so that’s a teacher who specialises in kids with autism, ADHD etc

With her kids she’s the most patient, caring, understanding person you could ever meet, and she loves dogs too… she litterally picks up shit from the kids and the dogs with a smile on her face… but if a man were to ask her to hold he’s jacket or something… I’m sure she’d refuse haha

I once said how come you don’t apply your patience you have with your kids, with me? She looked at me like I insulted her whole blood line.

2022-08-28T12:53:50+00:00

Being stood up says significantly more about them than you. Its Their loss, and honestly they saved you time if they couldn't even be bothered to cancel on you.

Seriously if they couldn't tell you ahead of time they don't want to go out, then that person isn't well adjusted enough or mature enough to be worth your time.

2022-08-28T14:07:17+00:00

Prequalify your dates better up front to assess how flakey they are in advance.

But in the end - getting stood up tells you that person is of low quality and low interest anyways and they just saved you a ton of time for future wasted dates. Move on and don’t ever agree to date or go out with that person again. They are trash

Churroking69 · 2022-08-28T13:05:55+00:00

I appreciate some of you guys being positive and supportive. I'm still on this journey of trying to get better at this stuff. I think I had approached like 15 women this week, and I was starting to feel jaded.

I don't think I'm out of shape or bad looking like someone in the comments said. In fact, when I look in the mirror, I like the way I look. It just feels like I have to be this emotionless sociopath in order for me keep my sanity.

Gold-Ad-2488 · 2022-08-28T12:11:02+00:00

Next time call/message to be sure she's still coming. Called a girl before meetup this year and she was just waking up/didn't even remember.

2022-08-28T13:00:42+00:00

When it comes to mating selection, everyone is highly selfish. I don't give a shit about women I'm not attracted to either and I am a vegan, highly progressive, helped the homeless etc. Literally, if I see a fat girl on tinder, I would swipe left without thinking about it.

PackageCommercial304 · 2022-08-28T14:16:04+00:00

Lots of guys here calling you names and trying to figure out what you did wrong 😂. Hilarious. It’s time we accept that MOST women treat us like little toys about us do something about it.

My flake rate is about 50% since I mostly do online so here’s what I do:

Always have alternate activities set up with friends or even alone.
Stack dates 2hrs apart if you’re seeing multiple girls.
1-2 hours before send something like “just got off work, see you at 8!”. I don’t leave my house until I get a response.
Start doing FaceTime calls beforehand (10-15min) to get a sense of how she feels about you and vise versa. You can sense flake % this way

It’s crazy I talk to my friends in Eastern Europe (Latvia, Romania) and girls almost never flake, let alone stand you up. And when they do they make sure to prove to you it’s for a legitimate reason. It’s crazy what we have to deal with man but it is what it is

2022-08-28T08:34:32+00:00

I believe it's rather their emotional reaction to some touching thing/event. In my opinion men seem to be stronger empaths.

That's just how this game works, thing is we were bullshited by parents and society that it's about true love, feelings and connection, while it is mostly just about straightforward sexual attraction game with winning and losing. Don't worry too much about it and go next. And don't engage your emotions too early.

ShinzoBinzo · 2022-08-28T04:32:23+00:00

empathetic but not sympathetic

warbloggled · 2022-08-28T05:56:57+00:00

You’re right, there is no sympathy for the average male.

Then again, if you’re an average male and you need sympathy, that immediately puts you at below average.

FirmestChicken · 2022-08-28T14:52:55+00:00

Why does every post on this subreddit sound like a 16 year old wrote it

VNF420 · 2022-08-28T16:00:03+00:00

That's because that's what you're suppised to be. A man acting logically, not being driven by your emotions like a child.

step3of3 · 2022-08-28T04:03:58+00:00

Move on not worth it. Just get a little cooler and stop thinking your some desirable whatever. You're not. No one owes you anything. Life gets complicated. Man the fuck up instead of pretending to think women just want you to

python834 · 2022-08-28T03:44:46+00:00

This is some incel shit.

Next time ask women out IRL

ShinzoBinzo · 2022-08-28T03:48:51+00:00

In all my years, i have never been stood up. Ive had people cancel/flake but give me a heads up before I show up like a dumbass. This is over 100 + dates.

I’m not saying it wouldnt upset me or surprise me if it happened. It would, but like I also wouldnt act like its some pattern I need to judge women over. It’s about that individual only and nothing else.

And to be fair, if I saw this as your date, I’d flake too. You sound like a twat and not attractive.

RightTrack44 · 2022-08-28T09:14:51+00:00

A lot of generalisations and anger/frustration in these comments.

The majority of women aren’t vegan, the majority of women aren’t outspoken environmentalists and the majority of women are nice people.

Get off the internet and interact with people

antonthecad · 2022-08-28T14:58:54+00:00

In order to have women in your life, she needs to get something from you whether that's tingles, money, status, experiences etc. The cold hard fact is that if you're a loser, women can smell it.

The_Wisest · 2022-08-28T10:38:26+00:00

Sounds like you got a defeatist mindset. In this game, it’s all about numbers

texaspete3 · 2022-08-28T13:41:27+00:00

Don't take things so personally. Understand that life is not easy for a woman , and that taking the easy way out, or protecting oneself is an option that is easy to latch onto at all times.

propyl21 · 2022-08-28T08:38:29+00:00

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Aggressive_Soil_5134 · 2022-08-28T10:10:17+00:00

There's kids dying in Yemen because of starvation and your crying about some hoe not showing up

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-28T14:31:38+00:00

Blame the left for how bad they act

Worried-Schedule-124 · 2022-08-28T06:56:44+00:00

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Domin8u315 · 2022-08-28T12:36:27+00:00

So was your plan to just get some or to actually have a relationship? What was her plan? Maybe something just felt off though yes she should’ve told you.

2022-08-28T13:49:51+00:00

This thread is hilarious to read thank y’all so much!

grzechoo177 · 2022-08-28T13:58:30+00:00

‘Don’t engage your emotions too early’ well i know what you mean by that, but to be honest i don’t think you can control these things just like that. I was the type to be very emotional inside, yet never showing it. I swear my heart was getting torn apart time after time, i’m not only saying about relationship things, like basically in all the aspects of life. At some point i was too fuckin broken, and worked hard to just shut down the emotions, they were too overwhelming. And i’m stuck in this state ever since, feeling numb, literally not even caring if i get to live another day or if i die in a minute. Everything turned grey, there are no goods and bads, no highs and downs, i’m just empty. Can’t feel shit. You gotta be careful with those things, but i would give everything just to feel anything again. So yea, be careful with those things, there might not be a way back.

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