How do I turn a platonic conversation into a flirty one?

cormacru999 · 2022-07-27T00:34:26+00:00

Men here often seem to think that there's an equation or a plan that you can design to become more flirtatious. But that's not how it works. Flirtation is like adding a little flavor to the otherwise casual conversation & generally it comes naturally because you're doing it back & forth. What one woman finds flirtatious, another woman may not. The first woman I ever dated/slept with/married, we talked about our families, about her crazy mom & controlling dad, while I talked about the insanity of my childhood. We flirted without a single flirt that you might think of as flirting & it all came down to the 2 of us just enjoying the conversation, & slowly connecting. If you find that your conversation is going nowhere, then you're probably not making a connection. There is no single flirty vibe, there are no special word to make a conversation flirty, its about the connection & when you make it, the flirtation just becomes part of it.

dump_fool · 2022-07-26T22:29:52+00:00

You can turn everything she says into something sexual, or you say something sexual - with the tone of your voice or with the words you say you can convey sexuality. I cannot give you examples as everything comes from within, based on the moment.

Successful_Teach366 · 2022-07-27T02:13:11+00:00

Be prepared to lose this connection and shoot your shot. Easier that way. No expectations brudduh

Silent-Recipe-3600 · 2022-07-27T00:30:34+00:00

It’s all about your body language and the way you look at her along with your mannerisms. Also don’t be afraid to talk about yourself and your ideas talk about something you’re passionate about. Just the way you talk and move can turn a platonic conversation into a flirty conversation. Focus on deep eye contact.

TheRealRiverOtter · 2022-07-27T00:12:19+00:00

Randomly ask her if she wants to make out. 90% of the time it works 100% of the time

tnpersona · 2022-07-27T00:08:40+00:00

Compliment her. Open-ended questions are for interviews. Make it more personal by telling her nice things and just going with the flow. Make sure it's genuine though. People can generally tell if you're BSing them. I wouldn't get sexual either especially not right away.

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-07-26T22:46:10+00:00

Hey, great question!

I would reccomend using dr david snyder's cpi model

So first, define your outcome, what do you want to happen? What is the best possibility? Write it down beforehand

Second step, just control your state, and start feeling flirty and playful before hand and see where the talk goes

Remember: before we can feel pleasure and flirtatious, we must first feel safe, relaxed and then feel curious, playful, so start with that and see where it goes.

If that doesn't work, move on! Open more sets, meet new people, just make new friends. Even warren buffet gets 99 no's before 1 yes

If you would like to learn more, send me a message! It is an honor and a privilege to be of service.

Stay grateful, Romantic_Adventurer.

Nefertiti2021 · 2022-07-27T03:03:14+00:00

First step_ never made a platonic conversation

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-07-27T03:54:30+00:00

A date is usually a direction when you go from you (talking about her/asking her) and I (you tell stories about yourself) to us so the both of you together. If you follow this the conversations gonna be impossible to be platonic. Also if you like something about her that you like besides her looks, mention it like I like your vibe, I like your sense of humor etc if you don't like something about her let her know, reward her for the traits that you want her to have so you let her know what type of girlfriend she has to be. You can also play with flirting and teasing, playfully make fun of her if she did or said something silly, hold eye contact, and so forth. If you just apply these its a much better chance that you gonna have 2nd dates or a gf so Goodluck

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-07-27T04:40:49+00:00

There’s a very good chance that it will be easier to make it flirty when you have your beach date. That is a fantastic setting for romance. I would recommend easing up on the texting since you already have something planned. Unless she initiates, but if I had to guess its mostly you initiating. As men we have a tendency to want to apply MORE effort to get better results as the works in just about everything else in life. With women it does not. Less can be more.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-07-27T02:03:25+00:00

you can literally talk about sex anytime you want if you had an actual date.

The_Dufe · 2022-07-26T23:27:56+00:00

Keep subtly and randomly throwing up in the “I’ll eat your pussy” sign language sign during the conversation without any explanation - you know, the 2 fingers up to mouth then the tongue stuck between it, flapping it around 😂😂…No I’m joking, that can’t be good advice haha

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-26T22:26:29+00:00

After the beach it's customary to shower off any sand, this would be a great time to shower together. That should be in your play book.

Titty_Slicer_5000 · 2022-07-27T00:31:38+00:00

You need to build sexual tension. Here is a good video on it.

Relevant-Spinach294 · 2022-07-27T04:57:10+00:00

Playful my friend, be playful

anou142 · 2022-07-27T06:14:21+00:00

Stir tension then hold the tension while being playful ( not serious ) …. U can start by holding strong eye contact.

Domin8u315 · 2022-07-27T06:50:54+00:00

You flirt

Alternative-Many-722 · 2022-07-27T07:43:42+00:00

Just give the girl/ boy a compliment, talk about your past then tell a story about a previous relationship (if you don’t have one, make up a story or steal someone else’s the moral high ground doesn’t matter) and that will prompt her to tell you a similar story trying to relate to you. If she doesn’t that could be a bad sign

Hi_From_London · 2022-07-27T07:56:28+00:00

Flirting is the art of escalation with plausible deniability.

In the early stages just make her laugh. Misunderstand in silly ways. Exaggerate. If things work, you'll develop riffs and themes. Intrigue her with your fascinating lifestyle.

Do not "lunge". Ie, go from zero to 60 in three seconds. Build up slowly.

Justin3263 · 2022-07-27T08:24:16+00:00

Just let things be and stop trying to rush everything. Just chill with her as friends and build a connection. You just need to chill and relax with things. Stop Rushing man!

Title	How do I turn a platonic conversation into a flirty one?
Author	ucadguk
Upvotes	42
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Date	July 26, 2022 10:13 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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