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[–]nicolai_1998 85 points86 points87 points 4 years ago (119 children) | Copy Link
That’s great, keep going
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (118 children) | Copy Link
How would you keep going
[–]nicolai_1998 41 points42 points43 points 4 years ago (117 children) | Copy Link
Try to convert the number into a date. Approach more girls
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (114 children) | Copy Link
And I'm sure eventually it'll "just happen"?
[–]nicolai_1998 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (107 children) | Copy Link
It will happen if you are doing things right. «Models» by Mark Manson explains it well
[+]KinxTheTimeStripper -15 points-14 points-13 points 4 years ago (106 children) | Copy Link
If there's a right way to do things, why can't you explain it in much detail?
There's still luck, she can say no for any reason
[–]ItIsICoachCal 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (103 children) | Copy Link
Dude probably doesn't feel like summarizing the book on reddit lol
Bottom line is, yeah there is no way to guarantee success with any particular girl. If that's what you're waiting for, keep waiting.
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (102 children) | Copy Link
I'm putting in the work and nothing is coming from it
[–]ItIsICoachCal 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (101 children) | Copy Link
What specifically have you done? For how long? How often do you meet new people?
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (100 children) | Copy Link
I meet 2 or 3 new people a day when I'm out and about running errands, and I talk to dozens of people when I'm out at clubs and bars. This has been happening for years.
[–]nicolai_1998 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just read the book, it will answer your questions plus some more
[–]TheZimboKing 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There is a surefire way...you buy rope and gag material. Abduct the girl. Tie her up and keep her in your parents' basement. That is the only want she can't ever say no.
Otherwise go read Models and increase your chances of getting a girl noticing you, if ever since your attitude sucks.
[–]NastyMonkeyKing 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
not with that attitude. You've defeated yourself before you even started playing
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What happens when I have a good attitude?
[–]NastyMonkeyKing 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Only one way to find out
[+]KinxTheTimeStripper -7 points-6 points-5 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Well, most of the time it's still rejection. Believe me I had a good attitude in college.
[–]average_hight_midget 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Key word being ‘most’ of the time.
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For me it's every time
[–]fangclan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
After you get a number would you immediately plan a date?
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would personally keep having conversation going with her and bring up something fun you like to do, and then ask if she wants to go with you. That way it’s more organic and less “will you go out on a date with me?” I think after that first harmless meet I then ask for the formal “will you like to go on a date with me to so and so place? That way you affirm that there’s a greater interest in her than just a friend
[–]dametime223 45 points46 points47 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Great man, now don't text her all day everyday for 2 months. Set up a date within 10-20 messages. Don't get to know her over text, do it in person
[–]Charming_Ad_8499 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This texts are just for setting plans up
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[–]Charming_Ad_8499 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ya I agree girls like meme talk
[–]Beginning-Ad-8041 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My first ever lay came from an approach on a college girl in target, well done
[–]fangclan 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
thanks
[–]sh1tsngigs 67 points68 points69 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Once I step foot on that college campus in august it’s over
[–]fangclan 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lmao
[–]lolmaxy 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What was the push pull line?
[–]fangclan 22 points23 points24 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"I'd love to meet you again as long as you're not a psychopath"
[–]ReverseFlashZoom 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good line! I'm stealing it
[–]fangclan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hope it works like a charm!
[–]Spiritual-Job-8128 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice Bro Proud of you 🤙🏼
[–]Charming_Ad_8499 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome man!!! Get it
[–]Lonely_Man22 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome!
[–]Befaltu 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I am proud of you. Was it your first time doing cold approach? Did you stutter while saying your opener?
[–]fangclan 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
lost track of how many I've done I started in February probably around 20 - 30 and thankfully I didn't stutter
[–]Delicatestatesmen 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
good job
[–]meatpopsicle86edya 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I need to do that.
[–]Zhai 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's great to have that rush, isn't it. Soon it will become normal for you, so enjoy my man!
[–]KingLouhichi 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What was your push pull line. Congrats on the approach and the number keep it up king!
[–]fangclan 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]KingLouhichi 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ayy that’s a good one man
[–]Daddyarvo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yesssirrrr this just boosted me thx bro 🤝🏾
no problem!
[–]SamuRonin90 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Great! I don't know even if I do this something will change. I realized it's not only my social skills but how I look. Actually my social skills went bad because of that only. I am balding since I was 18, now it is very bad. Also due to ageing my face has become less smooth and attractive.
[–]Ivancz 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I started balding at 16. Now taking Minoxidil and Dutasteride. Hair is back. Science can do wonders. r/tressless got you.
[–]SamuRonin90 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh I tried that temporarily twice actually which I did not follow through properly and my hair started falling more rapidly. Now I have got no choice I guess, just embrace it and go completely naked head. Because I can't wait fucking months/years to have a head full of hair. Plus finasteride have side effects.
[–]Ivancz 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yep, when on Minoxidil you go through the well-known shedding phase which is temporary. Applying minox everyday can be a pain in the balls, that's why I'm taking oral minox, which is way more effective than topical btw. Also the dermatologist showed me how side effects of finasteride/dutasteride are indeed rare.
Bringing my hair back has done wonders for my self-esteem and game. But it's up to you buddy.
[–]SamuRonin90 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh at the time when I started there was no oral minoxidil at least in my country.
[–]marshall_strud 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sweet. Don’t be too disappointed when she flakes.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A lot of girls will give you their number just so you'll leave them alone. Not trying to discourage you, just saying you're only 30% there, but that's a big jump from 0%. I don't really do cold approach anymore outside of the clubs just because it never works for me.
[–]hahahuhu67 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You did that king
[–]mindofsound 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Now, go dig out her guts, young man! 🧔👍
[–]epimpstyle 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If this method of direct approach works for you continue to do so because there are girls who like this approach but I prefer to use an indirect approach because after five minutes of talking I can tell her that I like her attitude/personality and I'd like to see her again.
It is just my point of view trying to fight the avalanche of videos with direct approaches that are promoted on youtube by different guys (they don't count the number of rejections with a direct approach, they are showing only the good results)
[–]NinoZachetti 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That's a pretty sperg opener, which just goes to show that it's all about just approaching, not the content of your approach.
[–]Codi_Banks 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Its a great opener. The "i know this is random" shows social awareness. The "just thought you were cute" shows confidence and directness. No beating around the bush like when guys try to slither into a conversation by asking directions or for her opinion. Bold, authentic, and socially aware. That is attractive to women, believe it or not.
[–]fangclan 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
thanks! I thought it was soild
[–]Irrelavent1 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Certainly better than, ‘Hey, darlin’, can I buy ya a coupla drinks?’
Couldn’t agree more.
[–]ApprehensiveEnd259 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]fangclan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]dwight282 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
don't wanna be that dude but the number is confirmed real right?
[–]MattPruga 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
doesn't really matter, he got the confidence boost he needed
[–]dwight282 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
it kinda does, if he dials it and it's fake that confidence boost is going to be back at zero.
but let's hope not
[–]MattPruga 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know. My first approach was two girls, one of which gave me her number even though she wasn't interested. I felt so confident, I wanted to approach another set right away. Never approached women until that point and I was about to do 2 approaches in a row because of that boost
good news it is!!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t stop there .. approach another one & get her number too .. this way if this one you just met ghosts you or loses interest in you, you’ll have a back up .. always have a woman at your reach because it beats the idea of being alone & having to start from scratch .. the main factor to having more than one is it increases your chances of getting laid in a major way ..
[–]AutistNerd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Are you attractive?
[–]fangclan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I'd give myself either a 7 maybe an 8 when I approached her
[+]no_not_this -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If you are an actual 8 women will be throwing themselves at you. Go to r/truerateme and see where you stand.
[–]fangclan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
not necessarily as handsome men still get rejected
[–]no_not_this -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You are missing the point. If you are an 8 you would not be making this post.
[–]fangclan -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
why lol?
[–]redditor4206903 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, like, over time. You gonna relize that these cold aproaches are annoying af. And than you start aproaching women at apropriet places.
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