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Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-01-05T15:14:39+00:00

There's been a couple of times where I caught feelings and they reversed that shit on me... simp, I know

Don't talk like that. Feelings and relationships are great. Despite all the macho talk, sex is really a small part of what this community is about. Most graduates will go on to use their newfound abilities to choose healthy, high-quality relationships and that is a perfectly wonderful outcome.

Just make sure you don't hitch your wagon to someone who has different interests and lifestyle goals. That's where guys get themselves in trouble. Long-term compatibility is hard.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-05T10:34:49+00:00

There are two paths that I've had success with.

Transition the FWB into a more involved open-relationship.
Enjoy the FWB as long as it lasts. It helps to have a few FWB flings on rotation. So when one leaves, it's not a big issue.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-05T18:22:00+00:00

Have you tried being honest with them?

SnooCrickets5565 · 2022-01-05T15:52:42+00:00

My issue is after I enter them a few times

"Enter them" hahaha wtf

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-01-05T10:03:23+00:00

Keep a roster. Never put your eggs in one basket. You don’t have to advertise your lifestyle but don’t deny it. She can either be a part of your world or leave. No hard feelings.
Don’t act like her boyfriend. Sleep overs. Holding hands. Cute shit. Dont. Keep it sexual. Go to bars if you must. Picnic dates and feeding ducks. No.
Be upfront about your intentions. It’s ok to say you want casual only. That can mean a lot of things. Tell her you like her too and you’re happy to keep seeing her, you love how she fucks you, but you aren’t looking for monogamy and that’s not going to change. Again, she can take it or leave it. A lot of the time she’ll take it if you’re high value enough. Many girls are lonely as fuck and an exciting relationship is better than dating and meeting schmuk after schmuk.

It’s your lifestyle your choice. It’s a great lifestyle if you can pull it off.

This is not even close to an exhaustive list, but a good start none the less.

SpecialistDrag3600 · 2022-01-05T11:33:08+00:00

Be upfront from the start. You can still have fun, go to bars, have fun dates but just be upfront about not wanting anything serious. Keeping it black in white leaves little room for grey area. Also think about your why, if you just want to have fun, tell her that.

Raagul_ARJUNAN · 2022-01-05T10:22:34+00:00

Keep it simple, your energy speaks before you so don't get too personal. Dirty talk wherever possible and relevant. Make her comfortable on her first date and start intimate talks and moves from second date onwards. Make her to feel being in relationship is tiring and not useful, but sex is mutually good. And everything happens on how conversation goes.

-Kast- · 2022-01-06T00:58:26+00:00

You're asking this question because you're not a fuckboy. You're likely a decent-value guy and the girls you're attracting are coming to you because they see the possibility of a relationship with you. The fact that your relationships implode when they want to get (more) serious means that you're misleading them early on when you meet/match with them and that is resulting in your current dilemma.

The reason women are coming to you now is because you * seem * like you want a relationship, because you seem to be boyfriend material. They're not coming to you for sex, rather they're giving you sex because they're hoping to trade it for monogamy.

The fix? Be upfront with them that you want sex and only sex, just be prepared for rejection until you find the balance to being physical without the prospect of committment. In general, the women that want dedicated relationships dont want fuckboys and vice-versa. Be prepared to lose the type of woman you're currently attracting if you go down this road.

The other half of this coin is that once you step out into the open as a fuckboy, your value changes. People looking for commitment are looking for a holistic package, not just physical appearance and sexual experience. Once you admit that you're a fuckboy, you are now competing with other guys primarily based on those two aspects alone. If you're not that great-looking physically or don't have an attractive sexual vibe, you're going to fail pretty hard.

Just trying to keep it realistic for you.

ChicoBrillo · 2022-01-05T19:50:21+00:00

Let them know from the get go you aren’t looking for anything serious. I always have that on my tinder profile.

There’s no fool-proof way to stop people from catching feelings, but being straight forward with your intentions is a good start

o0valerierose0o · 2022-01-05T21:47:25+00:00

Are you really inquiring how to enhance your skill in being a manwhore.

I guess being open and honest might not work in this scenario.. but it could?

jjboy91 · 2022-01-05T22:20:19+00:00

As you have the luxury to fuck so many girls why do you even bother. Like just move to the next one if you can't be honest with them regarding your intentions

Shadow__Account · 2022-01-06T16:36:21+00:00

Be honest and upfront, don't be a manipulative bitch that lies to have sex with women.

zexwyomom · 2022-01-05T13:35:35+00:00

Just be a greek god. Im attractive, but not attractive as to be considered as a fuck buddy (yes I have self diagnosed myself). Every girl I dated (they were smoking hot tho) treated me as relationship material. I have male model acquaintances and they tell me different story. That’s why I gave up fully.

froze_gold · 2022-01-05T18:12:21+00:00

You don't. She'll eventually branch swing if there's no commitment.

Just happened to me for the 10th time. Thought shed ask for commitment after acting like she wanted it, but just didn't and removed herself instead after a couple shit testy texts

Backheelfields · 2022-01-05T17:52:06+00:00

You have to show interest but not too much, validation and attention is a womans currency

2022-01-05T20:34:39+00:00

True mansluts don’t need them for more than a few nights. If you’re not interested let me go. Do them a favor.

2022-01-07T03:50:17+00:00

If you just want casual and after awhile they want serious, then it’s time to break it off. Even if the sex is good. Because you won’t use them.

There’s plenty of other girls. So if you want something casual be ready to keep each girl for only 1-10 weeks ish.

Initial-Performer987 · 2022-01-07T13:10:55+00:00

Honestly money. Women don’t care about sex or personality. Just the big bucks.

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-01-05T20:01:48+00:00

For the couple girls I am seeing, I told them after the second sex that I still wanted to see other girls, but wanted to see them still, and wasn’t trying to replace them.

Andy of Kill Your inner loser has a nice article about retention: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-5/

Also . It’s normal to have feelings for girls you fuck. Not really a simp for that.

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