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nuckingFutz · 2011-05-09T16:58:59+00:00

When I was fresh out of college and started my first job, I started engaging in this kind of planning and documentation. I still have my saved to do lists and completed lists, weekly and monthly and annual self-review and goal setting statements. I was "successful" in my career, finances, and by most societal standards.

In the end, I despaired; I'd bound myself up in things I wanted, not things I enjoyed. There is a major difference. Achieving goals does not satisfy you. Really. Pursuing goals might. But rather, doing the hard work of actively experimenting and noticing what you enjoy, and what you can't shut up about, will help you structure your life more than tertiary goals.

Plans and goals are not sufficient to have a fulfilling life. By organizing your life around goals, you remove the opportunity for spontaneity. The majority of new opportunities - things that really changed my life - arose out of simple conversations, chance meetings, spur-of-the-moment decisions, etc.

I wrote a book because a colleague was complaining about the lack of simple documentation on a topic. Yes, writing the book took planning, but had I been so focused on my existing goals, I'd never have set aside the time for it.

I quit my job and traveled the world with a girl. We ended up running a hostel in Thailand for six months. Our plans evolved as we discovered more about what was possible; I'd have never decided to draft a plan for this from the beginning.

Having a plan to "have more serendipitous moments" does not work. However, you can do things to promote them. Get outside your comfort zone and talk to people about things that they are obsessed with, and try it out with them for a while. See where it goes. Experiment, experiment, experiment.

Seduction gives you the tools to have meaningful conversations with strangers. Use that ability to enrich your own life.

asoap · 2011-05-09T17:10:44+00:00

10. Get off reddit.

ehbeeseedee · 2011-05-09T14:20:59+00:00

Seddit, I know many of us are struggling AFCs without the greatest inner game. I know we all have some bad habits that we are trying to break, not only in order to be successful with women but to be successful with life. My friend sent me this short document yesterday to help me budget my goals and become successful. I took a look at it just now and have decided to share it with you. I know that many of us have access to Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy and other therapeutical books that are willing to tackle our problems. I found this one page guide to be really simple to follow and easy to understand as well. Anyways, enjoy.

nesatt · 2011-05-09T18:54:23+00:00

A picture of text?! I know what your primary task is.

nazzo · 2011-05-09T15:33:50+00:00

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batshit_lazy · 2011-05-09T22:53:27+00:00

Success, yes. Enjoyable life, maybe.

I for one like to be able to do whatever I feel like at a certain time, rather than having everything planned. Nothing beats good surprises and positive outcomes of spontaneous moments.

jonnyozero3 · 2011-05-10T01:43:58+00:00

Am I the only one really put off by documents like this? It'd take me longer to try to organize thoughts in this manner than to just do the things I wanted to do.

thbt101 · 2011-05-09T23:43:57+00:00

It basically says to set goals and then work to achieve them. How insightful. This is no more useful than the same stuff you hear from every "motivational speaker." This stuff might be useful if you're just slacking off and are unmotivated, but that's pretty much it.

theubernoob · 2011-05-09T16:42:44+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/jBdJ1.jpg

couple small corrections, otherwise pretty accurate

Sed5 · 2011-05-09T16:50:49+00:00

Reminds me of this,

http://www.reddit.com/r/self/comments/h676o/my_life_is_essentially_falling_apart_rather_than/

looks really cool..thanks for this

Kardlonoc · 2011-05-09T18:33:52+00:00

Here:

http://dontbreakthechain.com/welcome

Personally this is what I fear about seddit the most: Falsely changing lives to such a degree for vapid goals. See if a "Bad habit" brings about happiness should it really be considered a bad habit or really be strive to be change. Having goals is great, having plans is superb but really you should examine what you are changing about yourself and if you are becoming less genuine by doing so. In short don't live a lie like so many end up doing.

2011-05-10T06:26:16+00:00

That's a little too structured for the real world. A much simpler method which has worked in my success is simply follow this

Visualize where you want to be, and work towards that image of you every day. How you get there will change by the day, by the hour, by the week, whenever. Planning for that is a waste of time and will lead to frustration.

As long as you keep that image in your head and work towards it, you are improving yourself and working your way towards that goal.

For instance, if you want to build a guitar you might first need to learn how to work with wood. So you take lessons on wood working, then you find an interest in it. You learn to build some things out of wood and work on your skills in that. Eventually you get comfortable and learn how to work with the electronics. Then you realize you need to learn how to work with paint. Eventually you learn how to build that guitar item by item. But that's just ONE SMALL goal, and that might take a year or two to do it right.

If you have an ideal image of yourself, you might have 10-20 of those small goals in that ideal image of yourself. So you might have 10 to 20 years of work ahead of you.

GET TO WORK AND ENJOY THE RIDE. THIS IS LIFE, LIVE IT AND LOVE IT! Anything less is spitting in the face of a billion years of evolution. You took a billion years to get here. For fuck sake stop complaining about how much "your life sucks" or how "hard it is."

Just start working towards that image of yourself, whatever you want it to be. You literally can't lose doing that.

Lolleroni · 2011-05-10T07:25:19+00:00

This is gold. I'm inspired. I need to prioritize what I need to do so that I can justify wasting my time later.

2011-05-10T07:20:59+00:00

Lol. This document sucks. What a piece of shit. "it is impossible for you to live an authentic life, and therefore be happy, without doing exactly this." Bullshit.You will spend the rest of your life documenting and chasing your 'goals' and achieve nothing. Even getting to your goals will leave you unhappy.

Read that last line again and be observant of those around you who have 'succeeded'. Are they happy?

Here's a new paradigm to consider: You are completely successful and happy at this very instant. You lack absolutely nothing.

I recommend reading 'the power of now' as tolle masterfully explains living in the present (as opposed to the future or the past). It'll change your life in a profound way and put you on the right path.

batshit_lazy · 2011-05-09T17:58:45+00:00

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ZanshinJ · 2011-05-09T16:07:22+00:00

This is amazing. Not just for seduction purposes, but for life in general. I'm implementing this once I get done with schoolwork for today.

royalmarquis · 2011-05-09T19:01:29+00:00

Why is it preferable to do 100% of X amount of things and not 90% of >X amount of things?

royalmarquis · 2011-05-09T19:01:33+00:00

Why is it preferable to do 100% of X amount of things and not 90% of >X amount of things?

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