How do I respond to shit tests and insults?

JohnZoffman · 2020-12-31T18:26:16+00:00

If a girl says you are to ugly for me, then fuck her.

Thats not a test, thats her being a bitch

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2020-12-31T17:06:34+00:00

How a about Fractionation:push pull - Ie - ‘I find your lack of social grace so endearing.’

The idea is to show 1) her thoughts don’t really impact your mood. Your reality and mood are far too strong for any thing she can say or think to change 2) quick wit but in a way that rid both positive abs negative at the same time. If all positive you some across as weak simp willing to take a beating for female attention. All negative then you are just but hurt and have demonstrated her thoughts and word control your inner reality. Something to experiment with.

eyesopen1111 · 2020-12-31T19:42:17+00:00

Everything she says IS a test (or should be treated as one), and you fail by getting offended by whatever the girl says. If you pass her test--and basic Game knowledge will teach you how--you will actually make the girl highly attracted to you. (basic Game)

Next thing you know, you’ll intentionally force girls to test you by playing extra cocky so she tries to cut you down, and then you’ll turn her on by passing her tests (intermediate Game). It’s like outwitting a girl at this core level. It is called "banter" in some Game schools. It makes pussies wet and causes her to respect you for keeping your cool and outsmarting her (demonstrating intelligence, social poise, sense of humor, status, preselection, etc.)

Winning the banter/testing/frame contest and then adding in a back-turn/pull back will get the girl chasing you. (advanced Game) So in a matter of minutes you can go from her testing you to her chasing you.

Guys without Game can’t do this, so they give up way too early, write on this forum how they never get laid, and imagine that they should be lifting weights or working on their inner Game to improve results. Meanwhile, PUAs are actually looking for girls like this as easy marks and fucking chicks left and right.

This is why the top 10% of guys are getting WAY more action.

kalz44 · 2020-12-31T18:48:29+00:00

I’m not dealing with that kind of behavior. There are plenty girls who won’t do that.

the_f3l1x · 2020-12-31T19:15:10+00:00

Dude... Just say yeah and move on. If she's interested, she'll come back with proper manners

MakeSail · 2020-12-31T21:11:34+00:00

Shit tests are banter and insults are disrespect.

I will comment on shit tests, or just tests of character (fortitude, intelligence, etc.).

So what do I say when she says X?

Scripting (preparing before hand) can be valuable if you are not skilled at conversation. However, scripting is not a long term strategy.

Why?

What you do in conversation with an interested woman depends on who she is (personality, needs) and what you want (sex, relationship, friendship, advice, etc.).

There is a reason she is talking to you, there is a reason why she is testing you. It is based on her needs and how you may satisfy them.

The key concept in banter with a woman is to understand you can guide the conversation where ever you want it to go with no ill effects. You are under no obligation to answer questions or respond to statements. Ignore them in part or in whole. Respond if it is an advantage.

So what do I do?

Take control and guide the conversation based on who she is and what she wants (needs). The exchange is dynamic and communication is mostly nonverbal (an unfortunate fact).

Many men have problems in communicating nonverbally (empathetic listening, projecting traits like confidence). But this comes with practice and emotional maturity. So get comfortable in basic conversation technique (words) first.

Example: Q: "Aren't you older than me?"

A: Redirect. "You seem like a very passionate person to me, what do you do for fun?"

The redirection should be based on how the relationship should progress based on what you know about her at that moment. But, as you talk ,you will learn more about her and use this to adjust accordingly. If you have strong empathy skills, you will know a great deal about what she wants without using words.

If she is really connecting, you can redirect to take her on an emotional ride. Guide the conversation where you want it to go. Women what excitement, fun and being close to a man who can satisfy her needs. Stand and deliver.

oscarony · 2021-01-01T00:51:38+00:00

If she says that then you have to disrespect her back, playfully

Woman do that as a test of your dominance

For ex: If she says ‘I’m too hot for you’ I’d literally laugh at her and say ‘No you ain’t... which one of these lames been gassing you up?’

aiquoc · 2021-01-01T02:00:56+00:00

"Yep it's true. Wanna have sex?"

teehitis · 2020-12-31T16:31:35+00:00

Laugh, agree with them or just completly ignore them.

ProCatMasseuse · 2020-12-31T19:29:39+00:00

1)"Oh really? Who told you that?"

2) I mean this one is really not even a test and can actually Segway into a fun conversation. "Yeah, probably old enough to be your daddy"

3) Move on. Why would you want to talk to someone who's first reaction is to call you ugly? Maybe when you're a pimp you can turn that around and play with it but right now you're still learning what women like, respond to, and want. Dont put up with that. Have standards for yourself. Otherwise you'll be the doormat for the dude she ends up fucking.

If you're focusing on having fun with the conversation than shit tests will be passed naturally Because the actual tests are boring topics.

kettlebell_workout · 2020-12-31T18:24:34+00:00

She: "I am too hot for you"

You: "You are right. Let me call an ambulance". - say jokingly that you are worried that she has a huge temperature. You can even do kino, by putting a hand on her forehead.

She: "Aren't you older than me"

You: "Why do you ask? Are you interested in me?" - say like you honestly think that she is interested

She: "You are too ugly for me"

You: "I am flattered. But I am not interested in you THAT way" - say like you sincerely are confused, and when you say the word "THAT" make a little bit a disgust facial expression. She says this not because she is mean person, but because of her "bitch shield", you are just another guy hitting on her in a very bad/obvious way, so you need to disqualify yourself.

mariokart890 · 2020-12-31T21:16:12+00:00

Learn to respect yourself enough to walk away from people like this. Keep ya head up king 👑

weird_watercress · 2021-01-10T15:38:49+00:00

Just agree with them.

letsgetrandy · 2020-12-31T23:46:37+00:00

"I am too hot for you"

"Or maybe you're just not used to someone as COOL as me."

"Aren't you older than me?"

"Yes, but I promise not to hold it against you."

"You are too ugly for me."

"Hold on a second, I need to respond to this message from work." Pause for a beat and play with your phone, ignoring her. "Sorry, what were you saying now?"

earsurgery9 · 2021-01-01T11:40:06+00:00

if she thinks you're ugly, that's not a 'test' - it's a rejection.

Move on and find the girls who are attracted to you. And then game THEM girls

fictitious-name · 2021-01-01T17:31:19+00:00

Ouch I have never been told “im too hot for you” and I am not a good looking guy

Radicalmattitude1 · 2021-01-01T18:30:33+00:00

Don’t play into her frame, you’re the prize, she has to impress you. Your frame should be something like “aww you’re actually trying to make fun of me, that’s cute.”

If a girl called me ugly out at the bar I would probably start joking around and flirting with her friends and make her feel so left out that she try’s to get my attention back. Then when she tries to get back in on the conversation, ignore her at first, then tease her about being a trouble maker, and then finally allow her to win your approval back so she can be part of the fun vibes again.

When you give her a hoop to jump through, she will become more invested in the interaction and it will setup the relationship dynamic properly - where you are slightly less invested than she is and you decide what kind of behaviour you will tolerate from her.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-01-01T21:26:38+00:00

1) ignore, keep going like nothing was said.

2) agree and amplify, make that shit seem trivial and silly aka unimportant to you. It's all in good fun anyways. You have Amused Mastery. She is nothing more than some random bitch you wanna have "fun" with.

3) pressure flip, put that bitch on the spot, watch her sweat...then crack

Or she'll reveal her hand.

Aloredia · 2021-01-02T15:18:48+00:00

Do NOT apply push pull. It may work in the short term and get her attention, but do you really want someone who makes everything harder for everyone around her, except herself? If she's not testing, they're rude. If they are testing, it's inconsiderate and selfish. When you get shit tested, just leave.

The best response for these kind of tests is "You're not hot enough to be this rude. I'd rather spend my time on someone nice. Goodbye."

Marilla1957 · 2021-01-02T17:13:16+00:00

If a person tells you they're to hot for you, respond by saying, "No, you're cold as ice inside!" then turn, and walk away. Always be prepared for that negative response, and reflect it back onto the person then walk away. Often, the person will come after you, and strike up a conversation!

Title	How do I respond to shit tests and insults?
Author	timei5ticking
Upvotes	23
Comments	38
Date	December 31, 2020 4:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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