Did my first approach today

TheModernLoki · 2018-01-21T05:20:33+00:00

She probably walked away because she thought it was the start of a sales pitch or something.

Good start

Boddicker06 · 2018-01-21T04:55:34+00:00

Awesome! Good for you. Keep doing it and try to come in more naturally by saying, hi or something before immediately asking about her profession. You’ve had natural conversations, all you want to do is have one with a female stranger. It can be that easy if you allow it to be.

From-Paris-with-Love · 2018-01-21T10:51:16+00:00

She walked away 'cos that sounded like the beginning of a porn script.

DatingForTheOne · 2018-01-21T05:13:58+00:00

To improve your odds do the following.

Don't go it alone! Women are naturally worried about 1 guy or a group of guys, 2 is the perfect number so find a friend a girl or guy to wing for you
Practice the rule of 3. Your first 3 approaches are throw away approaches, do this quickly and then on your 4th nail your script
Practice the 3 second rule. Woman have invisible radars that detect Average Frustrated Chumps better known as AFC's in the PUA world. These guys are the ones that have no self-confidence and stare at them and wait for her to smile at them etc. Don't be that guy! You need to look at the girl for not longer than 3 seconds preferable 0 seconds and you have your friend look at them for you. Just go and make up a creative opener, something like "Did you see that fight outside? Two chicks were fighting in the street over the same dude! They had each others hair and ones tit popped out!"

Make them laugh and be a good person and also be grateful while you're doing it, you're alive and on your way to conquering your fears, bravo!

jester070993 · 2018-01-21T05:49:54+00:00

Good job, keep it going. I did my first approach the other day. Yesterday I wanted to approach these 2 girls at a car and psyched myself out.

Khan_Tusion69 · 2018-01-21T05:26:49+00:00

Nice man, why the hell did she walk away lol

donttouchmykicks · 2018-01-21T07:17:18+00:00

Nice job bruv. Google 'assumption stack' and try one out on your next approach. Popular one is making an assumption about where she's from based on her clothes or looks. When you deliver the line, never break eye contact, and keep a slightly judgmental tone that does not go up at the end (you are qualifying her with a statement). You'll never get a girl walking away like that again.

heathcliff93 · 2018-01-22T01:12:48+00:00

Good job, next time just be bold, ask whatever you want without the "I know this is a little random but" part.

igromanru · 2018-01-21T21:01:22+00:00

You don't have to fuck yourself and start talking to women from 0 to 100.

Do your homework:

Read a book like "The Game" by Neil Strauss.
If you have troubles like this to approach, you have to start from beginning and don’t fuck yourself by trying to talk to a woman from 0 to 100. There are technics that will help you to improve yourself over time. Like the Don Juan Bootcamp, read it and start at least with first 3 weeks.
Learn Openings, a simple “Hi” is never wrong. However, you will learn this part from 1. and 2. Anyway.

Good luck friend.

danielson1987 · 2018-01-21T08:24:59+00:00

Im glad youre glad. Now adjust and carry on. You don’t need to say it’s weird coz that will confirm a belief that its weird.

The_Succatron · 2018-01-21T09:36:28+00:00

next time try the "let me guess....your from/you are____" opener. Or ask her if she knows any good restaurants or coffee shops, or th train station, etc. and have her show you because "you get lost easily", and then within that time attempt to make the moves.

bugxter · 2018-01-21T16:05:10+00:00

Awsome diud.

That's a bit of a weird opening question tho...

xiannnnnn · 2018-01-21T18:07:04+00:00

I think you’d have a better response if you positioned the approach at the check out line or looking for something in a nearby area (just examples, ie. if you’re in a grocery store or a general store) - where you’re conveniently standing next to the individual for an extended period. When you’re walking up to that area, initiate eye contact, say hello or hey with a smile or smirk on your face and just ask how their day is going. Go about placing your item on the belt or looking for something in the area.

That’s still considered an approach and it’s seems to be more fluid, authentic and just a genuine inquiry. From there it’ll probably remove any potential defenses and you can initiate further conversation with something witty if the interaction permits.

Once you start getting comfortable with that fluid exchange and it comes more naturally and confidentially, you’ll start seeing how simple it can be to talk to strangers. Then you can start doing it in areas where it’s more acceptable to escalate, kino, etc.

Congratulations on the approach. It’s great and exciting.

But in my personal opinion, it’s a bit odd and strange just walking up randomly to a woman in an area that’s isn’t necessarily conducive and asking what she does for work. I’m not saying it was wrong or to make you feel bad. Just perspective.

I think the goal in seduction is for it to be a natural, fluid and genuine exchange. When it becomes more natural and fluid, more opportunities present themselves. Further, it almost seems or feels like second nature, and it proves you’re confident enough in your self to talk to whomever you desire.

Good luck on your next encounter.

JYandeau · 2018-01-21T18:40:44+00:00

Good for you, making the move is the hardest part, it’ll get better every time you try, but please, never open with something like that again lmao

benjibenjichasin · 2018-01-21T21:57:37+00:00

Amazing man. It is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness - Seneca

circlhat · 2018-01-21T22:07:33+00:00

Very good job, and your attitude is in the right place, next time try to formula more of a plan and be more honest with yourself and her, if you are to nervous to think on your feet than use some PUA scripts, these are just basic ice breakers.

jenkinsonfire · 2018-01-22T00:23:22+00:00

Good job! She could have at least uttered a word

ToasterIntheBath13 · 2018-01-28T06:10:12+00:00

Nice but I would start off w something different maybe more casual

leksho123 · 2018-01-28T16:21:26+00:00

Well done bro, you took action. Now that you got the first one out the way...it will only be upwards from here. I suggest you be more natural and just be like hey, i'm .... and be honest you find her attractive.

Maikowski2 · 2018-01-21T12:58:23+00:00

Lol that's not an approach. It was more like creepy encounter. You should escalate immediately and go for the f-close.

Title	Did my first approach today
Author	ToasterIntheBath13
Upvotes	211
Comments	46
Date	January 21, 2018 3:27 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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