Do you think a relationship can be the same after a threesome

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rickblaster · 2026-05-20T13:52:00+00:00

lol everyone entertaining this Clickbait

Back2theCouture · 2026-05-20T10:44:48+00:00

Ask him if he wanna do a 3some with you and another guy so he can see how silly his idea is.

Swingers_R_Us · 2026-05-20T10:30:48+00:00

To answer your question, no, not really.This is a major shift in a relationship that needs work, patience and time to figure out.

It can be a positive experience or a negative one and the work and time you put into it will determine if it's a good thing or not.

I would avoid anything to do with friends, they won't be your friend after it ... they will probably feel quite uncomfortable even being asked this and if it did somehow work, it's a little close to home and will lead to baggage.

Communicate with your partner about what both of you are wanting from a threesome, set clear boundaries and stick to them like glue. 3somes do not work if everyone isn't fully onboard with loud, enthusiastic consent.

Do not be pressured into this.

prettyassdolfin · 2026-05-20T14:04:27+00:00

I’ve done it before in a relationship and it did not change anything. You need to be sure you’re actually interested in it as well and not being pressured. If you’re the jealous type, don’t do it. If handled maturely it can be a lot of fun.

Realwoujo · 2026-05-20T10:27:44+00:00

Don't do it. Threesomes like the one you are talking about almost always end up in the girl getting jealous. Are you going to be ok with watching your boyfriend having passionate sex with another woman? The only time threesomes work is if it is 3 people who have no connection to each other.

Flat-Literature7810 · 2026-05-20T10:20:11+00:00

It won't be. Especially if he asked, as a man myself I can attest to the potential state of mind he has, or at least what I assume it's gonna be like. There are 3 likely outcomes it will either break your relationship and make you and your friend feel awkward, or it your friend will join the relationship as a "unicorn" and the 3rd outcome which I see as unlucky is that it will be a 1 time fun event and nothing bad will come from it.

I think the 3rd outcome would be more likely to happen if you asked him, rather then he asked you if he could have one with you and your friend

norwegiandoggo · 2026-05-20T12:05:51+00:00

As someone that has actually had threesomes: It did not have a big effect on the relationship. But it's important to note that both of us wanted to try it. We did it multiple times.

I'm now in a new relationship with someone that doesn't want to try it. And I 100% respect that so we don't try. If I pushed her to try, then it would most likely cause major issues.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-05-20T12:46:15+00:00

I think it can be the same but not the way you described it. I think threesomes work best when both people want it and when it’s a random person. Not a friend.

For MFF threesomes, the gf has to ok it. The gf has to be the one to encourage it for it to work in my opinion.

I once asked my gf for a MFF threesome. We discussed it but she alo said she wanted a MFM threesome and tbh, i was not ok with the latter even if i was being a hypocrite. I could tell she was not ok with mff either but just wanted to make things fair and tbh, the best decision was of us to not do that because knowing who we are, it wouldve never worked out.

For MFF to work, the gf is the prize. The GF is the one the BF and the other girl should be putting their focus on and if you ok it then they can play with each other too. But it’s always making sure you are comfortable.

Tbh, i dont know your BF but as a guy I’ll say he fancies your friend. It’s a win-win for him, he gets to fuck your friend and he gets a MFF. And i promise you this isnt a one time thing in his head. And your friendship with your friend will get destroyed because now you will see the image of your BF fucking her.

dayvanzombie · 2026-05-20T14:39:36+00:00

Love__Train__ · 2026-05-20T13:18:43+00:00

As long as he doesn't kiss the other girl it should be ok

ChicoBrillo · 2026-05-20T14:44:20+00:00

Would you feel jealous if he gave more attention to your friend then you? If he finished with her instead of you? I've never had a threesome but I've heard stories like these where the gf leaves feeling jealous and messed up over it.

If you think you could handle the jealousy or what not, maybe go for it? How would you feel if he started wanting it to be regular thing? Or if your friend and him started having their own thing going on and sexting?

Things to consider because you can't put the lid back on that box once you open it

Zepp_BR · 2026-05-20T14:47:51+00:00

I'm too much of a noob to answer that

Ok-Bluebird1060 · 2026-05-20T15:18:45+00:00

Imo threesome isn't something to be experienced with your partner

Positive_Jury_2166 · 2026-05-20T15:37:05+00:00

My relationship is great but it was less of a casual threesome. My gf and I both dated a woman at the same time. We all went on plenty of two and three person dates prior.

If it's not something you want to do I can't imagine this goes well. If you're not bi, I don't know why it would be appealing to you tbh.

Dreamlancer · 2026-05-20T17:37:20+00:00

There isnt enough information here to give an honest and actually informed answer.

Most guys don't just randomly suggestion a threesome with their girlfriend and their best friend without some pretty obvious hints being dropped.

Have you had 3somes with your friend before?

Have you done 3somes before and told him about it?

Have you told him you've done things with your friend before?

Has your friend suggested you all have a threesome?

Is this something that has ever come up in conversation among the 3 of you.

Trying to give an answer before knowing this is just 'oh yeah it has potential to mess things up./how dare he ask. Ask to sleep with two guys.' sort of responses.

But if frankly any of the above questions have happened then a lot of the advice to curve the conversation is just going to foster resentment or possibly just lead him to cheat.

YoungCaesar · 2026-05-20T20:24:04+00:00

pretty sure this girl is just marketing her OF

georgeofthejungle71 · 2026-05-20T20:48:54+00:00

Maybe?

What I can say is the couples I've done that with have all split up. So...

moetzen · 2026-05-20T20:58:17+00:00

So most men wish for a ffm threesome. But when you ask experienced men in the swinger scene what was better ffm or mmf most are saying mmf was better. Most men just can’t handle two girls at a time

Jack26918 · 2026-05-21T01:22:58+00:00

No, it's too fucked IMO.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-21T12:12:58+00:00

Not in your relationship but it is possible yes

ANewCleanSlate · 2026-05-20T12:50:10+00:00

He'll like you better, since you are a facilitator of his sexual fantasies. Who knows if it will help the relationship... that depends on your maturity levels, your inclinations towards hedonism, your general sexual openness, etc.

Title	Do you think a relationship can be the same after a threesome
Author	SilkyNightingales
Upvotes	11
Comments	28
Date	May 20, 2026 10:11 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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