Do you think someone with autism could play this game?

bannedcanceled · 2024-06-14T21:10:13+00:00

Everyone in this sub is autistic

SecretComments · 2024-06-14T20:59:18+00:00

Yeah man I have ALL the autism lol. I struggle sometimes still but it's really about treating it as a learning experience, something to dive into and understand better. I'm not always in my perfect attitude and vibe but I pull girls from bars and dating apps here and there. Almost always close with sex, many turned into casual or FWB. And I'm not a guy who looks very good by default.

But I wear cool clothes that look good on me. I stand out and own it. I have some success somewhat consistently, enough to know what I'm doing. Well, a couple years ago I didn't at all. I had to learn. Watch many youtube videos from many creators. Read posts here. Find and talk to guys my age in my city who know shit.

The most basic thing is to walk into any room and act like you're Hot Shit. Get a little swagger going. You know how excited you get when you beat a hard boss in a JRPG? Treat entering a bar/club/etc. like that's the boss.

One Winged Angel plays in your head and you're like "fuck yeah LET'S GO BOYS!" It's an aura. A vibe. An effect that covers everything you do. That's why pick-up lines or canned phrases are mostly useless, you gotta manifest the energy first. Not excited? Worried about being disappointed? Fear of rejection? Doesn't matter. There's a challenge to overcome and you're gonna throw yourself at it with glee. And there's more story past the boss, and you wanna see what happens, so you can't just give up forever. You come back. Until it gets easier.

Traditional_Dig_249 · 2024-06-14T18:52:35+00:00

depends on the level of autism - are you able to maintain LTRS or friendships with men and women- this is a really vague question and without being able to analyse your infield its hard to answer the question

BreakTheWallsDown95 · 2024-06-14T18:53:31+00:00

It’s a different path to follow, but being on the spectrum, I don’t see it as impossible.

I would recommend checking if your employer offers therapy and learning how to converse in general.

PUA content can provide useful ideas, but it’s not something I would spend money on.

KingOnixTheThird · 2024-06-14T19:18:33+00:00

As someone with autism, this is my advice.

I don't think that most guys with autism would be successful with meeting women through bars or nightclubs, or through Tinder. In those type of avenues, it's mostly about looks and charm, style over substance. And most men with autism lack the social skills to pull off the charming or suave personality. Even if you could come off as charming or socially suave, you would have to do A LOT of masking which overtime, would be extremely draining.

Most autistic men would be much more successful going after women who are similar to them. For example, if you're a 4/10 neckbeard who never drinks and goes to Super Smash Bros meetups every Tuesday, you probably won't have much in common with an 8/10 sorority girl who's idea of fun is drinking and partying. In fact, she'd probably reject you very quickly.

Go after women who are similar to you in terms of personality and lifestyle and you'll have a much better chance of being successful.

Specialist_Front_432 · 2024-06-14T19:38:25+00:00

I'm autistic. Today I made three successful acquaintances with girls. Yes, there were refusals, a lot. But everyone has them. By the way, the creator of RSD actually has Asperger's syndrom

Maleficent_Sky8774 · 2024-06-14T23:36:06+00:00

More than enough women on the spectrum. Find one.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-06-14T19:56:22+00:00

I'm autistic and I'm a goddamn genius at this.

Make it your special interest and you'll be good at it, too.

AciliBorek · 2024-06-14T20:53:48+00:00

I learned a couple of my dates were autistic later/at the date. It suprises me at the moment, but then i start to get cues or start connecting dots. However depending on the spectrum it can be not a huge negative. Remember this sub is filled with physically and mentally healthy but unsucessful people, so keep it up, learn and meet people, everyone is different and you will find someone.

a_stray_bullet · 2024-06-15T01:33:19+00:00

I only realised I was probably autistic after being a GOAT at this game.

FrankenBeanTheGreat · 2024-06-14T23:08:19+00:00

When you have autism, it's easier to flirt with autistic or neurodivergent women in the same way that it is easier for neurotypical men to flirt with neurotypical women. It's often about the environment you do your approaches. Try finding hobbys that have a high density of neurodivergent people like nerd culture, LARP, DnD etc. A lot of the time neurodivergent people are open to a wide range of experiences provided people are open and honest about intentions early on. Neurodivergent people are less likely to be responsive to the "let's see where this goes" style of approach and will be more open to a clear discussion with "I find you really attractive" and if they reciprocate the sentiment then explain if you are looking for dating or something more casual.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-06-14T19:06:57+00:00

Men with autism do end up in relationships. Usually with women who also have autism. I don't think cold approaching random women here and there will work. Better to go to some kind of event that draws in alternative neurodivergent people. Like comicon. Or various festivals for niche interests. Or use online dating to find people who are more open to dating someone with autism - since that's a small subset of women.

slinnhoff · 2024-06-15T01:45:51+00:00

I play golf with a bunch of R#$&#@

HarmonicFacsimile · 2024-06-15T00:23:08+00:00

Fwiw OP, I think your strategy is great, confidence is hot, and the big boss analogy makes it all a challenge instead of so daunting, plus it keeps the view in mind of more fun to be had after that battle. Good luck!

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-06-14T19:08:04+00:00

Yes. Look at all the wrestlers/ body builders/martial artists that are clearly autistic yet have hot girlfriends. If you can't excel at social cues by no fault of your own; maximize something else within your control.

Ok-Entertainer-1401 · 2024-06-14T18:48:44+00:00

What are your interactions like? Do you just approach at random?

You can make it work, but guys on the spectrum have difficulty reading body language cues. You can train yourself to read them better as a woman's initial reaction to you will tell you everything.

AdSensitive6324 · 2024-06-14T20:50:45+00:00

If you are tall and white then sure. If u are 5’9” and indian prepare to die alone.

Title	Do you think someone with autism could play this game?
Author	davidprado2020
Upvotes	28
Comments	36
Date	June 14, 2024 6:36 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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