Does the after party ploy really work?

Orange_Codex · 2026-02-06T22:12:51+00:00

Brother, either have an after-party or ask for a shag.

I'm going to be banned from so many subs for commenting here, but you have all got to start being open about your intentions.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-02-06T22:48:05+00:00

I don't like to use the phrase "after party" or "after bar". It can confuse the girl into thinking you just wanna keep drinking and partying instead of having sex.

I prefer to use things like "I'd love to show you my house" or " I'd love to show you the view of my room".

Or suggest showing her your collection of so and so thing. Or if you play an instrument hint at playing her a song on it. Say "I'd love to play you a song on my (insert instrument here)

They key is to be subtle

I've had women drop subtle hints like "oh I'll walk you home" that's code for "let's walk back to your place and have sex".

She should be picking up on the hints you're putting out.

BurnItDownSR · 2026-02-07T00:31:43+00:00

Does the after party ploy really work?

As long as it's not the only thing you're doing.

the whole time he's talking it really seems like he's saying nothing.

This is why certain guys struggle with women. They're constantly looking to be rational and substantial, women don't mind having conversations that are more relational and emotional or in other words just "vibing."

You should spend some time with actual women, not even in a dating sense, just to hear how they talk to each other when they're just shooting the shit.

Zenis · 2026-02-07T02:17:15+00:00

Don’t fucking lie to get a potential partner back to your place. What the actual fuck. Its wrong, its threatening, it’s dangerous for both of you, and it wouldn’t even work even of the above points weren’t true

MyUsername0_0 · 2026-02-10T04:23:38+00:00

I never say after party I just say "we're going back to my place to keep drinking" what's so hard about that? A lot of you get no results because you lack common sense and lack action.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-07T03:00:22+00:00

Nigha still watching RSD retard videos and is wondering why he ain’t getting laid.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2026-02-07T18:23:16+00:00

The after party thing was WAY overplayed in the 2010s because of RSD. You'd go to the bar and overhear five guys like "Oh yeah I've got an afterparty!!!" lol.

It doesn't need to be an afterparty. I'd argue it's been so overplayed that you shouldn't do it at all.

BUT it's not optimal to straight-up "ask for a shag" as the other commenter said, unless the girl is one of those woke "sex positive" types. All other girls, even if they desperately want to sleep with you, will very rarely agree to just "coming home for a shag".

Listen very carefully:

The purpose of the afterparty thing is to give the girl PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY.

In other words, so she doesn't look or feel like a slut.

Something that, when she's telling her friends later about it, she can say you both went home for, and then "one thing led to another."

Girls will rarely admit to being ravenously horny around you before you sleep with her. That's only in porn.

But the point is, most guys can't get creative about the plausible deniability they're using. OR, they are just so retarded that they don't know the reason they're inviting her to an afterparty at all, they just saw it in a video and believe that copying what the pickup artist on YOUTUBE said will get them laid.

Competitive_Dare4939 · 2026-02-07T21:17:45+00:00

just ask for what u want, if you want to fuck her tell her you want her to come over, doing after parties can get expensive u need to host multiple people with alcohol and food and your house will get dirty, not worth the headache its more for social circle game and the odds of u getting cock blocked will be high unless u have a really big place its hard to isolate the girl to fuck if all her friends are there

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-02-08T07:05:53+00:00

Yes I’ve used after party as a line countless times. Rarely do girl actually think you have one

TrixoftheTrade · 2026-02-06T21:53:46+00:00

I’ve never done the whole “afterparty” gimmick. If I hit it off with someone, I make it a point to establish one-on-one rapport, separate from the original place.

If it’s a club, I just suggest we go someone after for a cocktail/coffee to wind down or a bite to eat. It also shifts the energy away from a club/party environment to something more intimate.

Doesn’t need to be fancy, and don’t overthink it.

Just something like, “Hey this club is great and all, but I can barely hear myself think, let alone you talk. There’s a more casual bar / late-night coffee shop / dessert spot (take your pick) a few blocks away. Shall we move this somewhere else for a bit?”

jackthehat6 · 2026-02-06T22:09:37+00:00

he talks sense at around the 7min mark (e.g guys wasting time on girls who simply aren't attracted and never will be, Approach, see if she's interested or not. If she's not, move on. If she is, game on!)

as for the whole 'after party' question. It's more of a trick that PUA's would use in infields so that they could claim a 'pull'. Scammer likes john anthony done this all the time

Title	Does the after party ploy really work?
Author	SuitOfWolves
Upvotes	3
Comments	24
Date	February 6, 2026 7:32 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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