First dates should always be on a weekday or Sunday?

catchthecum · 2025-09-11T15:56:19+00:00

No, this is awful advice, it doesn’t matter AT ALL. Stop worrying about stupid little things like this.

Pzseller · 2025-09-11T15:58:49+00:00

I start my day at 4 AM and go until 7 PM on weekdays. You think I have the energy to go out after that???

JackSquirts · 2025-09-11T17:00:37+00:00

Shit like this is just silly. Maybe it makes a difference 1% of the time, but it really depends on the girl. Some might be turned off that you're so busy.

xm320 · 2025-09-11T15:23:32+00:00

Well, get any dates first. Weekends are much easier to agree for the first date as many do work or study on week days. But as soon as she starts to play "busy" or extend the distance, then yes, keep her for week day dinners. And focus on rest, hobbies, friends, and clubs over the week ends.

More dates you get, over time, it get easier to read girls, like an open book. They are so predictable. They watch the same youtube channels. And you can spot genually intrested right away. She is always available and always on time.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-09-11T15:53:38+00:00

Counterpoint: The date should be whenever the fuck you feel like having the date. We are not NPCS or robots programmed to do things in the way that some author or anyone says. We do things when we have time, when we feel like it, and if somebody doesn't align with your schedule so be it.

- His reason is that women should not have the impression that you have nothing to do on these two nights other than having coffee with them.

I have a different frame which is that first dates are about inviting her to things that i will do with or without her,so that she takes a peak on my usual lifestyle. Hence the woman never thinks i have nothing going on in any day of the week because im just inviting her to things i do even if she doesn't want to go.

I go to a concert? Then i invite her, if she wants to join cool, if not ill still go to the concert and meet people there.

I go to a latin dance venue? Then i invite her to join me to the venue, if she doesn't join ill still be there and she will know it.

Hence, i don't do specific things for her where if she cancels then my plans get ruined and i sit at thome doing nothing. My life activities are not dependent on her being part of. So if invite her to coffee is beause i will have coffee with or without her and i will communicate that so she knows that my plans don't depend on her.

"I'm going to startbucks this friday afternoon, and i'll be working on my computer on a project i have, but it would be cool if you showed up and we could grab a coffee"

My life always has a center, it keeps going with or without her. Hence she never feels like she can ruin my plans and never feels like i don't have any plans on friday's or saturdays or anything because i already told her im doing something without her, and that she is free to join.

Visualize_ · 2025-09-11T17:18:46+00:00

Thursday is my optimal day because for a lot of people weekends are sacred or it's harder for them to commit on weekends. But ultimately it doesn't really matter, if they have some level of interest, if you suggest a weekend but they don't want to do it, they will suggest a better day that works for them

Matter_Still · 2025-09-11T18:48:42+00:00

Glover is wrong.

First dates should be when it is best for both individuals without worrying about perception. ("Common sense is instinct; enough of it is genius"--George Bernard Shaw)

vesieco · 2025-09-11T16:03:39+00:00

Personally I've always preferred weekdays, but it doesn't really matter that much overall

MoneyPop8800 · 2025-09-11T17:26:31+00:00

Doesn’t matter. What’s more important is setting the expectation of the date ahead of time. I know that a lot of girls won’t, and you don’t know what to expect till you show up, but in my opinion I would just move on from those girls. If they’re not willing to talk a bit before the first date, it doesn’t make sense to invest a couple hours (and money) just to find out she’s not the right fit. Also, keep in mind if you’re only after sex, most of these type of girls will talk sex via texting before the first date

liftingnstuff · 2025-09-12T01:44:01+00:00

His reason isn't totally wrong, but also isn't capturing the full picture. Are you enough to pull her away from other potentially safer Friday/Saturday plans? By picking Friday/Saturday night you take away one of the two best night game nights.

PrinceDestin · 2025-09-12T03:30:05+00:00

It should be when you are both free

sefan78 · 2025-09-12T04:44:49+00:00

I’ve been on dates pretty much every day of the week lol. But weekends are usually easier for people so most dates end up being on weekends

Sonicmantis · 2025-09-11T15:55:47+00:00

Weekdays always felt better. Wednesday night is a totally different vibe than Friday night

Comprehensive-War-34 · 2025-09-11T19:37:59+00:00

This is my strategy. I work on the weekends so the weekdays are the only days that I can line up my dates. I’ve been on 2 dates so far this week. One on Monday evening and another one Tuesday evening. I plan on going out to a lounge tonight to cold approach some women.

itotron · 2025-09-12T16:12:42+00:00

This advice makes a lot of sense actually. What if you go on the date and realize you don't like the girl that much? This leaves Friday and Saturday to look for someone else.

Also, just because you have 1 date doesn't mean you shouldn't be looking for dates with other girls.

I'm actually liking this advice the more and more I think about it.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-09-11T15:48:48+00:00

I can see the argument for both.

I think weekend nights are just easier to keep it open for if it goes well. But i do get the sense that she may be busy and it gives the impression you arent. Id say first secure the date and then dont avoid a date because a book says too, every person is different just book it for a day that both you guys are free. Honestly the way i see it the sooner the better because you dont want to give them time to lose interest.

So if it's wednesday and a girl said "im free firday night or monday night" im doing friday night if im free as well. Why leave it to monday and then she goes out wit hthe girls friday or saturday night and meets soemone else.

Title	First dates should always be on a weekday or Sunday?
Author	bareunnamu
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Comments	35
Date	September 11, 2025 3:11 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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