If you aren't a nerd, then this probably wont apply. If you don't know whether or not this applies, then I almost guarantee it will. If you are like me and have the gift/curse of overanalysis, this is for you. If you feel even more socially inept than most, read on. If even talking to a female as a friend is confusing, keep going. Hopefully something below helps you out.

Most nerds strongest trait is their ability to analyze things on a very intricate level. But sometimes this is bad. Overthinking stuff sucks sometimes. Often, it doesn't help when you get around other people. Our logic fails us with people time and time again. Sadly, we naturally tend to back out of certain situations because we can't comfortably analyse the situation. And, although we hate to admit it, we sometimes freeze up when the pressure is on, like a Microsoft blue screen. All this makes socializing, well, suck. If this sounds like you, below are some...affirmations, if you will to help you let go and get your swagger back. (Note: I feel a personal path is required for everyone. Some of this goes against somewhat popular beliefs, but only because my experiences say so. All i know is what's inside my head. Find your own strategy too and contribute.)

1) "I am overthinking this." Admit when you are. If you think you may be, you probably are.

2) "I trust my intuition." Captain Kirk was a better leader than Spock. Spock was more intelligent, but Kirk had intuition. If he didn't trust himself, he would have never been Captain. For another example look no farther than a Jedi. Obi Wan taught Luke that in order to command The Force, he had to trust his instincts. You doing so will not allow you to pull a lightsaber out of a snow pile ten feet away, but it will get you a lot less stress in life and make you feel stronger and more complete. The road to confidence won't always be logically clear-cut. You'll just have to trust your gut sometimes. If you worry about doing the wrong thing, remember your intuition isn't intended to be correct, it's intended to give you a backup when logic fails, which leads to:

3) "I do not know what the answer is, and that's okay." This is HUGE. When you are talking to someone remember you are not quizing yourself. Many times, there is no obvious thing to say or do. This is not an RPG with set paths. In reality, you don't actually know for 100% what anyone else is thinking or feeling, even when they tell you. Consequently you are not going to know if what you just said or did made them like you more or less, and 99% of the time you will never know. There is nothing you can do about it. I know this doesn't sound like an affirmation, but you'll find if you do it you'll feel a lot less pressure and relaxed. This is NOT an invitation to feel helpless or reckless. This is a way of liberating yourself from fear when in a high-pressure situation.

4) "I am not expecting any specific result from this." Similar to number 3, if you remove any expectations, you remove pressure. You'll feel a ton of weight off your shoulders when you have your first comfortable female interaction without feeling any agenda should be met. All of this is hard to do admittedly when you are horny lol, but oddly enough expecting a result is completely counterproductive. Why? I don't know, and that's okay. :-)

5) "I am a nerd, and that's okay." I am a nerd. My favorite TNG character is Data. I know what TNG means. I have an opinion on Visual Basic. I think The Classic Avengers could beat Superman. I watch baseball for the statistics. I think the history of trains is fascinating. I do and say things that many women find unattractive. But I do them because I love them. And if you have passion for a certain hobby or activity, keep it at all costs. This is called integrity, and it's imperative to social confidence moreso than anything else I've encountered. You can cut out other unattractive things you don't really care about, but if you love doing something, do...period.

6) "Get off the computer." Thinking is no substitute for doing. This website can only give you 50% of what you need, which will not complete any mission. I'm not saying you should intentionally place yourself in high-pressure situations (it works for some, though), I just feel like we should make the most of the situations that come our way. But if you avoid social situations because they make you uncomfortable, experiencing that discomfort is imperative to overcoming it. Nobody said it would be easy, but...

7) "This should be fun." This is a learning process, like learning to write music or paint, though. It won't be fun at first when you'll feel limited. But having fun IMO should be the ultimate goal. If you focus on the process rather than the product every interaction has the potential to be a success. Otherwise you rely on someone else to determine your success, which is highly illogical. :-)

Okay. That's all I've got for now. I feel like everyone has to find their own way, so to help others feel free to disagree, agree or elaborate.