M(21) here. Been lurking around here reading for a couple weeks, decided I was tired of not getting laid and I was going to take action. I would say I am good looking but I am shy and often feel uncomfortable approaching girls. My mindset for meeting girls is that im not looking for a relationship right now but instead FWB/ casual sex.

Scenario: Pre gamed at my place with my roommate, decided after a few beers to go to a party at a friend’s house. Show up, it’s a total sausage fest with one HB8 (age 18) and about ten guys. I figured my chances would be low due to competition and the fact she probably came with someone else, but knew I had nothing to lose. I saw an opportunity when the two guys she was having a conversation with in the kitchen started arguing between each other about motorcycles.

I had not met this girl before so I approached her and opened with “Hey, who are you?” In my mind I was focused on portraying confidence and maintaining eye contact. We made introductions and she was very talkative which made it easy for me to keep the conversation flowing. I isolated her by asking if she wanted to sit down. She agreed and we kept talking, mostly me asking questions about her. I could feel her being more comfortable towards me and starting to open up more with her answers. While she was talking I focusing on eye contact and smiling seductively. I was also trying to make her laugh and teasing her a bit. I casually told her I thought she was cute and asked if she was seeing anyone. She smiled and told me she wasn’t which was pretty much a green light for me to continue. We kept talking for a few minutes until I had to use the bathroom so I told her I would talk to her later. At this point I knew she liked me but it was still early in the night (probably 10:00pm). Decided to regroup with my friends and proceeded to do some heavy drinking/ smoke a couple joints.

Eventually at midnight we decided to go to the bar and someone is going to drive us there in a truck. Bunch of people hop in the box but I notice the girl go in the backseat so I follow. Sat next to her and started talking to her again, rubbed her leg a bit and put my arm around her. She didn’t really respond to my physicality that much in terms of whether she liked it or not which kind of had me second-guessing myself a bit. I’m fairly drunk/stoned at this point as well for the record so maybe I just missed those signals. Anyhow we get to the bar and it turns out after I went in she didn’t have her fake I.D. She ended up getting a ride home with the guy who drove us there. I was rattled I didn’t get her number earlier but the night was still young and I was going to try again with another girl.

Turns out about an hour later she sends a text to my buddy whose at the bar with me saying “Tell your cute friend he is more than welcome to come back to the house later”. He pretty much yelled it out at the bar so we all had a good laugh about it. I knew at this point I was in 100% and all I had to focus on was not getting too drunk. For the rest of the night I just had a good time with my friends. Eventually last call comes so one friend and me walk back to the house. We finally get back and the girl is lying on the couch watching super troopers. I don’t say a word and sit down next to her following up with placing my arm around her. Sat and watched for a few minutes then she said she was tired so I took her upstairs.

Closing was the hardest part of the entire encounter for me. Get her in bed and proceed to start making out with her. After a few minutes she told me she wasn’t going to have sex with me because she just met me. It didn’t really make sense; I thought that is what she wanted. I thought she might have been playing hard to get so I called her bluff and said, “Okay, but just so you know tonight is your only chance with me”. I lied back down and thirty seconds later she was on top of me. Not going to go into details but I did the deed.

Afterwards she told me to put my number into her phone so I did. Woke up in the morning and asked her how her night was and if she had fun. She said yes and then I told her I had to go. I left, got breakfast with friends, and then went home. I texted her and told her I had a good time with her last night. As I mentioned earlier, I am not looking for a relationship but instead a FWB/ casual sex friend. Decided to be straightforward and texted her “Anyhow you seemed pretty cool if you want to hook up again I’d be down”. I kind of had trouble trying to convey that and probably could of said something better but I knew I had to establish what type of relationship I was interested in to her. Turns out she was on the same page as me and she is interested in hooking up again.

Im pretty happy with how I did, it was 9 months since I last got laid and my first night out practicing things I’ve learned on Seddit. Have to say reading field reports really helped me gain confidence and composure. Hope you guys enjoy this and can hopefully get something from it.