How can I navigate intimacy with a woman while being transparent about not wanting exclusivity or commitment, without causing her to feel misled or upset?

TheNattyJew · 2024-08-10T02:57:16+00:00

Don't do boyfriend behaviors. Don't take her on dates. Don't take her to dinner. Don't be texting her all the time and don't be super responsive to her texts. Those are things that boyfriends do and if you do them you will confuse her and she will be rightly mad if you are not exclusive after doing those things.

Mexcol · 2024-08-09T23:48:44+00:00

Avoid giving her mixed signals or avoid activities that are seen as couple activities.

State your goals if she asks, there's a way to go about it tho.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-08-10T00:34:33+00:00

Casual sex is a liability. Stuff that you bring to the table is the asset. If liabilities are > assets you dont get to play. So either improve your assets or reduce your liabilities

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-08-10T00:09:47+00:00

Don’t make it more complicated than it is. If you wanna be transparent or tell them upfront, then tell them upfront.

Tell them you are being honest so it will save both of your time hence it’s also meant to protect her emotionally.

If they still feel your “casual relationship” goal offends them, then it’s their problem on how they view themselves, not yours.

jjboy91 · 2024-08-09T23:57:49+00:00

Don't set up romantic dates

Rain-And-Coffee · 2024-08-10T00:11:11+00:00

Treat her like a friend, with added benefits.

Also be upfront about wanting something casual.

No-Specialist7322 · 2024-08-10T01:23:01+00:00

Try Feeld dating app, people are more upfront about wanting NSA or not

GymBroTRT · 2024-08-10T01:54:26+00:00

Go listen to Johnny Soporno’s Seductive Reasoning 101.

Several_Ad_8363 · 2024-08-10T07:07:05+00:00

Of course they will say you're an f-boy. The question is, do they still want to come around?

If you're not an f-boy who's "manipulating" her, then she has to start applying labels to herself, and the female-specific versions of f-boy are not nice because life is sexist. So let them do it how they want. You probably just aren't projecting the confidence to own this. I have a girl who is religious and often calls me a bad boy as she is taking off her Christian cross before bed. Bad boys are what they want anyway.

After they storm out due to lack of commitment, wait a week (adjust up or down depending on how much of a freak she is), then booty call them, e.g., dinner at your place. If they come over, then the taboo is broken, and they will keep coming when you invite them for dinner (same pretext so they know what it is) until they find someone who wants to be exclusive.

To your main point, you can't guarantee you won't catch feelings for any of these girls, so as long as you don't make promises of exclusivity you can't keep, you're not doing anything wrong. If they try to force it, go mature and worldly with something like: relationships are something that develop naturally rather than something you have delivered to order. Say you enjoy spending time with them, and we'll see what develops naturally. If they storm out, refer to the previous paragraph.

Sandvicheater · 2024-08-10T08:05:26+00:00

Don't go on multiple dates and fuck couple of times only to break it to her that this only casual and nothing serious because not only you wasted your own time, you wasted hers as well and nobody is happy in that scenario.

From day 1 on the 1st date you lay it out plainly that this is gonna be casual and strictly casual. If she says no thanks, you pay for the drinks or dinner then you part ways then you find a new girl to seduce.

McPigg · 2024-08-10T23:13:05+00:00

You likely do boyfriend behaviours, usually this shit doesnt even need discussion, they can get that your a fuckboy by your behaviour.

Do you do any romantic type shit, do you take like 5 dates to pull, do you text/phone with her for hours, do you talk about love-childhood-future-dreams-hopes-insecurities (like deep emotional "opening up" topics), do you go on like candlelight dinner dates, do you walk around hand holding, do you cuddle much before/after sex or anything like that?

slowupwardclimb · 2024-08-10T00:25:47+00:00

Be honest. Express the fun you want to share, and find people who are interested.

ste_axe · 2024-08-10T01:06:25+00:00

If you don’t want to be committed, don’t make long term commitments

Title	How can I navigate intimacy with a woman while being transparent about not wanting exclusivity or commitment, without causing her to feel misled or upset?
Author	7inchesonastik
Upvotes	9
Comments	77
Date	August 9, 2024 11:41 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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