how many dates do you guys personally usually wait until sex?

Wittywildcard · 2022-06-27T20:30:51+00:00

What if they just want to wait because they don’t want to shag every guy on the first date. What if they simply don’t want to be humped then dumped? There are countless reasons why besides they don’t want to have sex on the first date other than not being sexually attracted.

You went down such a slippery slope 😂😂

Edit: fixed typos

Expert-Ad-8363 · 2022-06-27T20:50:19+00:00

Three dates max. This is usually how it goes for any confident self respecting guy

Poet_Plastic · 2022-06-27T22:56:53+00:00

I won’t talk to a woman unless we’ve already had sex

notarealpersondw · 2022-06-27T23:01:27+00:00

I can ageee with what you say. For me my limit is she has to NOT fuck me unless it’s the third date because I don’t want to be on a relationship with somebody easy. My current gf of 5 years we had sex on the 3rd or 4th time we met at my house. Idk if it’s a foolproof plan but in conjunction with other personal things she told me it proved she was a modest girl. And it stood the test of time.

Anyway how do you fuck girls on the first date OP? I’ve only managed to do that with girls I meet in clubs but that’s not the same as a date tbh lol.

JXphile4 · 2022-06-28T00:02:42+00:00

I don’t go on dates. I meet them at the bar for drinks, spit game for a couple of hours, and then take them to my car and use my backseat or go to a hotel.

No dates. Dates are for potential partners. If you’re not taking them seriously for a relationship, you’ll have to reveal your intentions on the date and that can lead to unpredictable shit. If you immediately meet at a bar for drinks, she knows it’s not a a real date and it’s just to meet, see if you bond, and if you do you’ll at least get a make-out sesh and a bj.

If you’re looking for a relationship, if you two bond well on the first date you should be at least making out and getting oral. Sex on the first date shows she’s genuinely into you.

starameski · 2022-06-28T01:07:04+00:00

This is gold, and I agree 100%! If I don’t smash a girl by the third date, i feel used and likes complete simp. I give it a pass on the first date, if there was a kiss, and second date there was some action, like handjob or something like that. Otherwise 3rd date and we are not fucking.

listAmbitions · 2022-06-27T20:36:42+00:00

First is a bit easy for me at least. I don't think she is a much of a catch really if so easy. Women are stronger with withholding and should be comfy of losing you. But second is fine. 3rd max.

Nefertiti2021 · 2022-06-28T00:02:39+00:00

VanillaCider2021 · 2022-06-28T00:15:58+00:00

I do not put a number on it. Sometimes it is 1 date, sometimes it is 3. Rarely past 3.

I have friends like you that only want sex from first dates. However, they usually are not as picky as I am. I feel like if you want to date in the 8+ range only then it would be difficult to expect sex from them consistently on the first date.

I can say for certain that in my city, Miami, the really hot 8+ will rarely sleep with you on the first date. Especially more upscale women, and there are a lot of them here.

If I drop down to 7 range then sex is much easier.

Just a my take.

BrummieAMN19 · 2022-06-28T00:45:52+00:00

I absolutely agree with this, best post I've seen in a while on here. I follow the same mindset and reasoning and your view on this also gets solidified when girls break rules for you on the first date but make other men wait and jump through hoops. I've never understood men who dislike girls who don't make them wait at all.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-28T00:48:41+00:00

When I did OLD I followed this play, but IRL is a little different and I usually give it 2-3 dates

SuperiorTroy · 2022-06-27T20:25:58+00:00

0, why wait? If you got it like that most likely you're shagging on the first "date"anyways

Zentrophy · 2022-06-27T22:00:05+00:00

I won't take a woman out on a date unless I have already had sex with her. A date is something that two people who are romantically involved do, and is usually defined by a man treating a partner to a pleasent experience that is planned, usually a week or so in advance. There are expectations and pressure when asking a female you aren't having sex with out on a date, because as men, our libido generally means that, if given the chance, we will hook up with a woman that we "asked out" immediately, if given the chance, and so the entire date almost takes on a dinner/fun night for sex with me, transactiony feel.

This is not ideal for either party. I ask women to do fun things that are free spontaneously, followed by movies at my place and a couple of drinks from my own personal stash if they want. This let's us be friends first based on our enjoyment of eachother's company, then lovers, based upon our physical attraction to one another, and then, later, romantic partners if we feel further drawn to eachother for a period of time.

Just the way I feel comfortable doing it.

Objective-Wait-5431 · 2022-06-27T23:14:59+00:00

We have to assume we already had sex, then before the date have sex, then five minutes into the date leave to go have sex. That's usually how it goes for me.

BugConsumer · 2022-06-28T00:43:33+00:00

A few months into a relationship or more, preferably 3-8 months. Relationships, dating and all of that aren’t just about sexual things to me; it’s an opportunity to deeply and personally connect and bond with someone. A lot of people say that sex is the best feeling one could have (which may and is true for some), but for me: I’d much rather lay down with someone and talk. The times I’ve had a deep personal conversation with someone free of judgement and any other thing outside of our two souls binding together is beyond heavenly to me. I get no sexual satisfaction out of it either, just being able to connect with someone who likes me in any which way or have them feel comfortable enough to share things with me as well is the thing that makes me most happy in life. Platonic love and romance are the best!

SuggestionHonest7989 · 2022-06-27T20:42:31+00:00

I wait till first 15 minutes.

DontTakePeopleSrsly · 2022-06-27T23:33:28+00:00

Honestly a girl that bangs on the first date is never getting past casual dating. It shows low standards & low impulse control. I want to see that she wants to, but fight the urge for a few dates.

pearlsongold · 2022-06-28T00:05:10+00:00

There’s more to a relationship that sex. Obviously sexual compatibility is important but getting to know someone, what their values are, if your personalities intertwine nicely etc are all equally important and difficult to establish in just a few dates. As a woman, I don’t have sex on the first date, and I know many high quality woman don’t either. It’s way too easy in our culture today, especially with hook up culture in full stride for guys to pretend like they want a relationship but ghost after having sex. That happening again and again can have a mental toll on someone.

I would suggest you reconsider this requirement, and just try to genuinely get to know these woman. Who knows maybe the ones that you’re saying goodbye to are actually a really good match for you but you lost them due to this silly requirement.

It’s different for woman than it is for men. There’s a lot of double standards and your way of thinking is being ignorant towards that and the experience that woman have when it comes to dating.

TemperatureAlert2370 · 2022-06-28T00:36:40+00:00

I won’t sleep with just anyone, so I won’t be having Sex on a first date. That doesn’t mean I don’t WANT to, just that I try and show a little self control and get to know that person first. If I’m not interesting in having Sex with that guy he isn’t getting a second date. I don’t have a set number of dates for when Sex should happen. With my current boyfriend it was the 5th date.

ImAGhostOooooooo · 2022-06-28T01:42:01+00:00

It depends on the chemistry I have with the guym there is no right or wrong time

Title	how many dates do you guys personally usually wait until sex?
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Date	June 27, 2022 8:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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