How to understand women's attraction?

DaygameCode · 2025-02-23T19:25:18+00:00

Ok to help you understand where your problem lies, Let’s say that you are talking to a woman and you start making assumptions about her to keep the conversation going such us:

“_You look like you like to draw on your spare time_”

and the woman says

“i don’t like it when guys make assumptions about me, so stop assuming things about me and ask me normal questions instead”.

What do you do? You stop assuming things about her and start asking her normal questions right? Well that’s the problem that kills a woman’s interest.

Let’s see if you understand why that’s a problem.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-24T13:25:48+00:00

It's very obvious; it all revolves around being comfortable and relaxed in the situation.

(Or being comfortable and relaxed in an adjacent situation in which we would reasonably assume you'd be able to handle her also, up until the point she interacts with you [she can be attracted to your potential when she doesn't know you yet])

Simply, if you're tense around the girl - it's over. If you're tense in your pictures - the girl doesn't need to interact with you to find out whether you'll 'be fun', it's already over. If you're tense stood still and overwhelmed by the environment - the girl doesn't have to talk to you to know you'll be tense and awkward with her too.

There's a lot of conflicting information because noone knows what they're talking about and can't explain it succinctly. Things do and don't matter subjectively based on your perspective and whether *specific thing* will make you tense and insecure. It's a game of 'telephone'. Why shouldn't you need validation for example? Because you shouldn't need external reassurance and permission to feel comfortable, you are obviously in control of whether you are relaxed or not; if not, whether you're relaxed is random and so is your results.

I look at the comments up there and understand where you're coming from, it's heavy-handed and cryptic. Does it matter if you 'stop making assumptions'? No, who cares? Obviously, what does matter is if that 'conflict' makes you seize up, become uncomfortable, become tense, stifled, use your energy to squeeze your muscles tight and you no longer have that energy for enthusiasm and 'fun'. If you start projecting uncomfortable energy, it's over - it's not 'fun', it doesn't feel good, no 'value' is there. That much should be obvious and you should be aware of how you're presenting yourself.

Are you 'fun' or are you not? You are tense, or you express yourself charismatically; you can't do both. When we see that you're enthusiastic, it shows you aren't tense, insecure, etc. it demonstrates status. Doing that, being comfortable in unfamiliar situatoins, around strangers, is another topic but to 'understand attraction' as you've asked, it's very obvious and stands out when you can or can't comfortably handle the situation. When a guy is freely expressive and showing he's unstifled, he's demonstrating self-esteem and status because 'technically', you have to be the 'alpha' in the environment to do so.

ShortNButMyDTall · 2025-02-23T20:42:22+00:00

Focus on yourself. Be the best version of yourself. Women usually like to leech and monkey branch off the success of men.

Good luck.

KaleidoscopeInner421 · 2025-02-23T19:02:25+00:00

That’s because women don’t put that much emphasis physical appearance.

They are programmed to be attracted to men that prove they can protect and provide. Thats why women tend to favor men who are older (usually more resources)

Being physically attractive helps but there’s numerous other qualities that usually are more important to them. They have to be choosy since they run the risk of pregnancy and protecting/nurturing offspring. If they relied solely on a man’s looks they run the risk of a man who can’t provide and put them in danger

Pedro_Moona · 2025-02-23T19:23:26+00:00

You might lack status.

VisionsOfVisions · 2025-02-24T02:30:39+00:00

How are you at making friends? How are you at holding conversations? How are you at social events/situations?

If you become adept at making friends, having great conversations, and have a flourishing social life, you will inevitably start attracting women that you are interested in.

vladiVP · 2025-02-23T23:09:37+00:00

See, asking questions like that is the reason you struggle

prictorian · 2025-02-23T18:58:27+00:00

Look for Dan Bacon on YouTube, he talks a lot about confidence and the difference between male and female attraction.

mabden · 2025-02-24T04:04:24+00:00

Look it up, Attraction is not a choice. Desire can not be negotiated.

tonyferguson2021 · 2025-02-23T22:38:06+00:00

do you think art is meant to be ‘understood?’

Understanding can kill the mystery and makes limitations in your own mind (Which is normal for the masculine brain.)

The feminine is not there to be understood.

HotWheelsUpMyAss · 2025-02-24T11:36:27+00:00

It seems you have put all your emphasis on looks. Women aren't wired the same way men are. If a dude is hot but doesn't know himself inside and out, it'll kill their attractiveness.

Makakka2002 · 2025-02-27T03:47:14+00:00

If warrior type build muscle if Hunter type get fucking lean. Me Hunter @13% bf These 13% are like b tits for women

JackSquirts · 2025-02-24T02:17:11+00:00

Get a cat.

JackSquirts · 2025-02-24T02:18:59+00:00

Get a cat.

Maxx_Darkglare · 2025-02-24T02:04:03+00:00

You just do or you don’t. I understand women attraction. I look really good so I know they’re sure as hell attracted to me. I’m the ultimate prize

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-02-24T02:24:42+00:00

Read my post on how attraction works. Thats a detailed list of what women find attractive.

Title	How to understand women's attraction?
Author	icxcnika1
Upvotes	57
Comments	40
Date	February 23, 2025 6:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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