How to stop being perceived as husband material?

caesarfecit · 2024-06-06T16:04:46+00:00

Be emotionally unavailable. That's how. Make them have to try and figure you out, rather than giving away the store, so to speak.

Also lead the interaction.

kiknalex · 2024-06-06T16:08:23+00:00

You are hurt by their opinions, a "fuckboy" is never hurt by women's opinions about him.

Spiritual-Smoke-9498 · 2024-06-06T19:26:43+00:00

Girls are stupid.

They see you have great qualities and they wanna take it slow and give you less sex. Like that makes me want to be your boyfriend………..

If you wanna be a fuckboi, just gotta act like one, be flirty, fun, easy going, lead quick, make moves; they gonna give you more sex than the husband material

Would not recommend but you do you. Also don’t listen to that emotional unavailable bullshit, and when asked be super honest, like Im here for sex either you, it aint going anywhere else just letting you know, at least you give the girl a chance to throw you off, because not all girls are into being a cum and dump

But one day you’ll see that that life sucks, feels lonely, somethings lacking.. and it’s a lot of efforts. You gotta go out there, make moves, sometimes come home empty handed… like having a girlfriend being the meta is there for a reason, love & stability and consistency and easier sex are really hard to beat the lets sat greater palette of beautiful pussy and exquisite personality and hot fun

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-06-06T17:37:43+00:00

Instead of talking about each other; talk about absolute nonsense. I must've been talking to a Dunkin girl for 5 minutes this morning about letting a family of Canadian geese cross the road with that Halifax hood swagger. Perhaps a bland subject and questionable delivery...but she initiated physical touch immediately, I probably could get her if I wasn't taken.

Don't give away too much about yourself, also don't show too much desire to get to know her. You can use anything else on earth as conversation material even if it makes no sense...as long as u don't show desire for connection.

This automatically demonstrates capacity for detachment while remaining present and social. In a girls mind you staying detached means "he must have other women, he must be a safe bet".

TourAlternative364 · 2024-06-06T19:25:20+00:00

Just say it back to them. "I am sure you are wife material for someone."

Wink, smile, grin leave.

SaaSWriters · 2024-06-06T19:45:49+00:00

It’s because you don’t go out to approach women. You don’t tell women what you want from them. You keep interacting with women who are not attracted to you. And you listen to their nonsense.

Change those things and you will have what you want.

cheeka12 · 2024-06-07T07:48:29+00:00

You probably need to work on your flirting game little more / work on building some tension with girls.

My advice is don’t change who you are or what you naturally do, just work out what your weaknesses are are and improve them. Imo better to be perceived as husband material and secretly be a fuckboy than being perceived as a fuckboy being a fuckboy.

Also number #1 rule always improve yourself first girls come later. Keep your mind and body in good condition and you will be sweet.

cemj86 · 2024-06-07T01:28:16+00:00

Jesus Christ...

The best way to not be misunderstood is to not be indirect about your intentions.

Let these women know EXACTLY what it is that you want from them off jump.

It's called the truth, either they rock with you or they don't and when they don't, accept it and be willing to walk away.

If you want to hook up, tell them If you want to build up to a bf/gf tell them

Start strong and direct If these girls say you see my husband material automatically, they're not sexually into you, but you could easily turn around by coming back with something witty like

"let's practice our honeymoon tonight at 8, to see if I'm really husband material."

Something like that to introduce that fboy energy.

Dont carry on getting to know you conversations instead always direct the conversation to flirty or hooking up. And if it's too forward for her then drop it and movie on, respectfully.

appolonysian · 2024-06-06T17:58:02+00:00

I’m trying to get to the same place as you, and am not yet there but have made some progress. Some things you can do: - work out (you don’t need to be a body builder, but they like muscles even when they say they don’t) - ration your conversation: say hi and bye and make eye contact and all that so they know you’re not scared to talk to them, but don’t be initiating or needlessly prolonging conversations. Keep the subject matter light and not about you, if they ask you stuff, give vague answers and only really say as much as necessary to answer. - have a semi sarcastic tone every now and then, and purposefully misinterpret their answers for humorous effect. - be more involved with other things.

The balance you wanna hit is to show that you’re not avoiding them but also not focused on them. By not being won over too easily (and over sharing as is common), you set yourself apart. The ones who like you will try and figure you out, which is exactly when you can set up a date.

Seductive_allure3000 · 2024-06-06T23:50:04+00:00

Honestly the best thing you can do is come off as a fuck boy.

drdavidbanner20 · 2024-06-07T01:33:03+00:00

Dial back the bf vibes, dial up the sexy vibes.

Instead of displaying the typical qualities that a "husband" might have - nice, compliant, good education/job, etc - shift the focus onto her and lead the interaciton towards the bedroom. Be mysterious. Be challenging. Invite her home.

It's unlikely that a woman will view you as bf/husband material if you have a cheap date - coffee, drinks, etc - where you talk about her: her hobbies, hopes and dreams, sexual prefrences, etc, and then shortly after have sex with her.

The irony is, if you like her, it doesn't disqualify you from a relationship either. You just continue seeing her and sleeping with her until you two decide to take it up a notch. And if you don't want to date her, well, you just solidified the fuckboi title.

Ur_X · 2024-06-06T23:14:13+00:00

When I hear husband material I immediately think about someone who shows himself as somone that’s protective and a provider, the safe bet that they want after they jump on all the bad boys

PrinceDestin · 2024-06-06T20:01:08+00:00

Nothing is wrong with being perceived as husband material the problem is guys don’t know how to turn the woman on so they get placed into the “husband material” your talking about

Kroddy1134 · 2024-06-07T04:07:34+00:00

This! All the girls I attract want something serious and I have to have integrity and tell them that I’m not looking for anything serious 😅 All the naughty ones are not interested

Historical_Thanks892 · 2024-06-06T16:00:55+00:00

Start working out to get some confidence/sex appeal and then it’s trial and error till you’re good with women

Worried-One2399 · 2024-06-06T16:17:33+00:00

Treat it like a business transaction. Dry, don’t react… just do and tell her she needs to leave bcz u have 2 do xyz. Separate emotions & logic. I struggle myself STILL.

But it’s a work in progress…

22 u have time to work up your confidence and build up your self esteem. But u have to follow through.

Action > Inaction

Get denied, thrown in the gutter… become irresistible to it. That’s when u kno & can say “alright she said no, but I know all I need is 1 yes.”

Soon you’ll find yourself getting 1,2,3… 7,8,9 yeses and u won’t kno wat 2 do w/ yourself (still not here myself like I said, but it’s a work in progress)

PeanutAnnual6119 · 2024-06-06T15:58:01+00:00

You say in class....how old are you? High school?

Pitchblack-mid5707 · 2024-06-07T01:13:57+00:00

Whaaaaat….. I didn’t know being told that you’re a husband material is never a compliment

BLOATED_Meat_Stick · 2024-06-06T18:10:28+00:00

OP — why do you interpret a girl calling you husband material as getting stuck in the friend zone? That’s not what girls say to men they want to friend zone lol.

Title	How to stop being perceived as husband material?
Author	icxcnika1
Upvotes	135
Comments	62
Date	June 6, 2024 3:49 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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