I can't keep girls, any advice?

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-07-31T20:26:27+00:00

What do they say when they end it?

What are your interactions with them like during those 6-12 months?

ckfighter2 · 2017-07-31T20:35:58+00:00

I think we would need a bit more information to give a better assessment. In my opinion the simplest way to go about it is to find out from the girls you are seeing what they are looking for. It's ok after the first few dates to voice your intentions and wants (in fact I think women find that very respectable) and to see if these wants align with the person you are with. If she is looking for the same thing, great! If not then at least you know and can now move on to the next girl to see if she is a match.

kylekumar · 2017-07-31T20:56:57+00:00

eat the pussy

soybeanboy27 · 2017-08-01T00:50:26+00:00

Bad sex. Work on it. Give a girl a mean cock that blows her mind and she will be hard to get rid of after 3 years. She has to feel like you always think of her as attractive, sexy regardless of how long you are together. It means you have to be creative and impulsive, surprising her pleasantly, keep it fresh.

natephant · 2017-07-31T20:34:38+00:00

Things don't always work out...

Also, on a more personal philosophy level... I'm all for building a guys arsenal up to help him break that wall down that usually presents itself when first meeting women.

But I am completely against using techniques to continually manipulate a person in to staying with you for an indeterminate amount of time.

If you've broken through the early phases of meeting women (the hardest part)

and you've moved past the initial dating phase (the 2nd hardest part)

You're in the relationship phase... and they are ending at 6 months.... the only way is to find out what courses them to leave and grow as a person.

MadMontux · 2017-07-31T22:59:27+00:00

I have the same problem I've dated 10+ girls this year and none of them have stayed.

I've talked to other wings and they pin pointed that my biggest problem is escalation. I have to agree with them, gotta keep trying and putting yourself out there.

I know what its like...sure you're seeing multiple girls, but I really just wanted that 1 girl to stay so I can stop banging my head against the wall (Frustration in game). Idk in time you'l get better, I agree witht these guys, we need to know more info for us to help you.

sand141 · 2017-08-01T14:53:35+00:00

I am 27, looking for a wife, I am tired of dating around.

I want long term

They probably sense this from you and are opting to leave...you should not go into dating already wanting a wife or long term. These are things you should want over time, maybe the women you're dating are not looking to settle down yet.

Don't force things, let things flow naturally. As you progress into relationship, then you should proceed to decide wheter or not they're worthy of wife or ltr material. Don't that make decisions before then. This and the fear of them leaving is probably making you needy. Besides, you're 27, what's the rush? you're at the peak of your life, no need to rush settling down.

Read the rationale male if you haven't already.

Garthanthoclops · 2017-07-31T22:51:31+00:00

As in you have 6-12 month relationships?

Throwawayanthy · 2017-07-31T23:00:09+00:00

This is my same exact problem

StBlackOps2Cel · 2017-08-01T01:20:19+00:00

What advice did you follow?

ImStuuuuuck · 2017-08-01T08:08:16+00:00

partially, the problem with imitating alpha shit, is people will eventually see the real you. just maybe work on whatever insecurities you might have and try not take these broads problems so personally.

Lancaster19 · 2017-08-01T11:24:39+00:00

Your doing better than me

Baldricks_Turnip · 2017-08-01T12:21:01+00:00

The perspective of a girl who ended a few relationships at this same point: at 6ish months it's 'shit or get off the pot' time. Up until then, I had been trying to decide how much I could overlook his shortcomings or our incompatibilities. If I still felt that way at 6 months, I started feeling like an asshole who was leading him on. He would start dropping hints about the future and if I had managed to steer him away from saying 'I love you' thus far, I felt it wasn't far off. It was just time to end it, for everyone's sake.

So, if this has been the case for you. Why? Have you just been unlucky enough to be with girls that are just not right for you? (and if so, do you need to change the type of girl you go for- are you picking party animals when you prefer a quiet night at home, are you eager to spend the next few years traveling but picking women who want to put down roots?) Or, is there something about yourself that requires work- are you lacking direction in a major area of your life?

moontripper1246 · 2017-07-31T21:20:17+00:00

Fuck better

moontripper1246 · 2017-07-31T23:19:11+00:00

Uhm.....props? Haha ur not op so advice doesn't apply to you.

Yeah good luck finding a chaste hot girl looking to settle under her late 20's this day and age.

Conversely, build more comfort with your girlfriends dude. The reason they get scared and ditch is because they don't feel "special" to you. You have all this value "fuck insanely well" and they're like "why would he stay with me?". You need to give them that super deep connection. Y'know, IF you want that.

itsnotevenwhack · 2017-07-31T22:02:35+00:00

Let's start with the basics. Do you try to force things? that can cause em to wiggle away.

chaosandmayhem · 2017-07-31T22:09:26+00:00

This is an inner game issue, and one that I've struggled with for some time now.

At its core, game (or seduction, however you want to phrase it) has a contradiction: fuck tons of women, but find quality women. The issue is that you have to unite the contradiction and morph yourself into a man of steel and velvet (see the Aubrey Andelin book Man of Steel and Velvet). This is not an easy thing to do, but there are ways to do it. Krauser has some good articles on this kind of thing.

Start here, and try to search his site: https://krauserpua.com/2011/10/25/dark-side/

Lord_Augastus · 2017-08-01T08:14:19+00:00

Women dont want to date endlessly. The relationship has to go somewhere, like marriage. Emotional connection, escalation etc. Uf you want long term you need to know what you are asking here. Long term means moving in together, kids, marriage, joint bank accounts etc. Commitment.

Title	I can't keep girls, any advice?
Author	soybeanboy27
Upvotes	23
Comments	49
Date	July 31, 2017 8:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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