In Mark Manson's "Models" he explains one way to attract the women you want is to become a leader in your interests/demographic. Who here has done something along those lines?

-Hello-_-World- · 2022-08-19T19:56:10+00:00

I used to do a lot of bachata dancing back in the day. I got pretty damn good at it. In the classes I took (it was more of a community thing than a commercial school) I'd often go and help the guys who were struggling to keep up, and helped them improve their techniques.

With dance a huge part of me initially joining was to become more comfortable around women, but I did actually enjoy it for what it was, and I really did care about helping these guys get better at it as well.

Getting involved in a photography group is a great idea, but have you considered that there might already be a group for photography catering to the age group you're thinking? You don't have to start a group to be a leader, you can become a leader by getting involved in an existing group, and bringing your knowledge and experience to the table to help beginners you might find there.

What you don't want to do if you join an existing group, is walk in like you think you know everything (I guarantee you don't, and there will probably be more experienced people there who will put you in your place if you do this). Rather, go in and bring what you have to the table and be open to learning new things yourself.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-08-19T22:28:46+00:00

It works. BUT…

But you definitely can’t do it in order to attract women. You need to do it to pursue your passion and to develop more about your interests. That’s how you’ll stand out.

Photography is an amazing art. How to shape the light and to make moments endless by your lenses in an interesting view upon our world. Don’t waste this potential thinking only about attracting women. And I’m summarizing some things that can be applied to other interests too. Nothing personal here.

Anybody can smell a horny miles away, btw.

Start small. Be local. As Manson said in this book: ask your truly intentions.

-Hello-_-World- · 2022-08-19T19:40:47+00:00

The gym, trust me if there is attraction she will have no hesitation pulling her headphones out for a quick exchange, or you can just wait till you see her coming in one day

Connect-Pear-3859 · 2022-08-19T19:06:12+00:00

I found wine tasting interesting.

Jonnyboy1994 · 2022-08-19T22:11:36+00:00

I doubt I know a single person in their late teens/early twenties that’ve even heard of meetup.com. Maybe post on the local public Snapchat story? Idk if anybody watches that shit, I never do lol but can’t think of any other social media that has a location based & public reach like that

HentaiMD · 2022-08-19T23:50:46+00:00

Be careful, there can be power imbalance dynamics involved if you become too much of a leader in said community.

I got unfairly cancelled within my own niche community, so tread very carefully

Troklokhan · 2022-08-19T21:54:49+00:00

I don't think it's a good idea to do this just in order to find girls. You should do it out of passion, and girls will just come naturally.

That being said, I learnt to play guitar and am going to start a band.

kettlebell_workout · 2022-08-19T19:04:05+00:00

Idk. This does not sound right.

You should not become a leader to attract woman, nor you should become one just to be the leader.

Instead do what you like and become so good that other people start listening to you on what you have to say on the subject. And soon enough you will be the leader for that particular demographics.

As for woman, they like man who has mission/passion or just knows where he is going in life. And that is nothing to do with him being a leader or not.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-08-20T02:06:48+00:00

I don’t think this attracts women in that they literally see you leading a group as much as enhance your self efficacy and self esteem

Sandvicheater · 2022-08-20T03:07:57+00:00

I have a different take on Mark Manson's interest/demographic. If you focus solely on one thing then you're a one trick pony. Its better to be jack of all trades then a master of none in the fields that way you seem like a more well rounded guy who is into many different (more importantly areas she's into) categories

2022-08-20T12:08:35+00:00

I’m really into live music and have been to countless concerts and music festivals, and have a very diverse knowledge of music. It’s not everyday or even very often I meet girls super into music, but when I do it makes it super easy to hit it off and plan a date.

dheidjdedidbe · 2022-08-20T14:01:49+00:00

In college I was a climbing instructor at the local climbing gym on campus. I taught most of the climbing classes as well as other outdoor hobby classes.

Worried-Schedule-124 · 2022-08-20T14:18:42+00:00

I’m about to take over the fitness industry in my country. I hope I’ll swim in pussy when i made it lol

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-19T21:25:28+00:00

Start a band. That's what I did. Even the ugliest men turns into a sex symbol the second he straps a guitar on his shoulder.

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-19T19:53:20+00:00

A wannabee fotograph looking to get laid. I wish you good luck.

Many years ago i found a group in LA that rented houses to organize photo parties. Amateur photographs, and professional and amateur models during photo sessions, including naked essays até the rooms. Not sure If It still exists, but the website had a database of models for age, ethnical group and breast size for members to select.

Cant say i have not considered leaving my job and becoming a photograph back them

glitterlungs · 2022-08-20T04:49:04+00:00

Im a boat captain and scuba instructor. It helps.

bojack1011 · 2022-08-20T05:59:31+00:00

I guess i lead a guild in world of warcraft. Does that count?

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