Is there a middle ground between the Simp and the Recluse?

xinor100 · 2022-08-31T13:13:57+00:00

Ì think that for extroverts that enjoy it, socializing is a hobby, for people that dont its a skill. In the moments that count (whether for dating or your career or anything else) you should be able to be charming, confident, assume leadership etc whatever, you know the drivel. In any other situation, just do what feels natural to you.

I would probably fall into the standing in the corner category if I went to parties in the first place. Genuinely just sat in the corner and started studying or reading over a glass of whiskey instead of partying on quite a few occasions.

Yerebeets · 2022-08-31T13:11:32+00:00

Being introveterted doesn’t make you a simp. If you are introverted, try being a “mysterious, silent guy” rather than “weird, silent guy”. The difference between those two is your presence. Be dressed nicely and mind your business, but do it in a confident way. Speak firmly when you interact with someone or when somebody asks you something, etc.

Liberaler · 2022-08-31T13:23:03+00:00

You have to differentiate. There are two aspects personality and social skills.

An introvert can improve his social skills and learn to deal with parties, groups of people, clubs, bars etc. He can overcome all his social limitations, but one thing he can't change - the core of his personality. He will always expirience the world differently compared to people, who are not introverts, because his inner world will always be very dominant.

In the end he will realise, that large social gatherings with their superficiality are just not his thing, even if he is now able to integrate in that environment. Therefore he will decide to mostly focus on other means of socialising, smaller groups of selected people and one-on-one meetings.

Initial-Laugh1442 · 2022-08-31T21:25:42+00:00

Stop being an introvert

atomant88 · 2022-09-01T04:11:01+00:00

youre overthinking this too much. and youre overthinking things which dont even matter.

do you understand game? thats all that matters. fundamentals. once you understand game; go and make approaches. fine tune your approach from there. personality doesnt matter. confidence matters. knowing who you are and being honest matters.

but for game the MAIN thing is just knowing the process. approach, signal intent, build intimacy, escalate with consent. thats it.

appolonysian · 2022-08-31T13:54:35+00:00

Simp and recluse are not different poles on a spectrum. However, if you find yourself to be a true recluse and not wanting/needing any human contact, you may be on THE spectrum (joke).

Seriously though, I get what you’re saying and of course there’s a middle ground between being a simp and a “normal person” in social interactions. Just don’t give women frivolous compliments or side with them in debates/arguments if you don’t truly believe in what their side is. Essentially, give them only as much validation as they’ve earned.

Puzzled_Nail_1962 · 2022-08-31T16:48:35+00:00

You just have to change your environment to something that fits your personality. At the club, the loud, sociable extrovert is king. If you don't want to be that, that's fine, but club game probably isn't the most effective for you then.

In a way you are right, if you try to do things just to please others, not because you want to, that comes off as cheesy and a bit desperate. Think about it like this: If you were the perfect collected, serious, mysterious guy, would you play the clown at a party? No you wouldn't.

rjones416 · 2022-09-02T04:50:27+00:00

you dont need to be the class clown to get chicks. just be somewhere in the middle.

Title	Is there a middle ground between the Simp and the Recluse?
Author	StatisticianAnnual13
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	August 31, 2022 12:57 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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