Keep getting turned down by girls I dig, but get with girls I don't care about. Don't know if its a matter of looks or terrible game (pic in main body)

norwegiandoggo · 2022-04-02T08:19:08+00:00

Your idea is: It's about my looks or it's about my game.

This is a false distinction. Everything matters. Your looks AND your game.

There's nothing inherently wrong with your looks though. I think that's just an insecurity

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-02T12:13:19+00:00

The fact that you asked already shows your poor self esteem. No, there is nothing wrong with your looks, you are looking good.

The problem is you change your attitude with the girls you like, you go from being a challenge, to being a chaser with the girls you like. You want to be liked by the girls you like whereas with the ones you don’t like you don’t care, and that “i don’t care” attitude is what makes you more attractive. As soon as you start caring, you lose your charm.

So you need to not give a fuck about the girls you like, thinking badly of you, you should not try to impress them at all, you should not try to earn their validation or approval…

You need to be willing to piss girls you like off for fun, you need to be willing to provoke them for fun, and to be silly with them… You must not try to justify yourself, or try to win her over.

Dearly_beloved_1078 · 2022-04-02T13:25:40+00:00

I do the same thing where I fully lose any ounce of cool if I like the girl. I can be cool as a cucumber if I'm not feeling it and that is usually successful. But if I actually like her? Forget about it.

Meaningless_Ninja · 2022-04-02T13:46:18+00:00

You don't need to be insecure about your looks, tbh you are good looking and u should focus on other things like confidence, assertiveness and other which you have to find out yourself.

Never take opinions of others seriously, most of the time they even don't know what going on with others life and they just want to look smarter or just want to feel good.

I'm also trying to improve Myself, we are in this together bro. Hope we will both get a nice a Girlfriend.

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-04-02T13:36:08+00:00

Check out my looks 101 post bro.

Right now, hair, fashion and physique aren’t doing you many favours.

Can you overcome it with more “game”?

Yeh sure.

But you want all the cards in your favour right? Not just one or two.

foot_of_pride · 2022-04-02T14:12:05+00:00

I think the girl is attractive, but you really shouldn't care about others opinion on that. If I saw you two as a couple I wouldn't think twice about any "mismatch ".

ScaryScientist613 · 2022-04-02T15:07:03+00:00

Your face is perfectly fine. I would even say more above average than average.

But you need bulk a little more that would help tons.

Besides that, just by your body posture I can tell you ooze with little confidence. Your posture, how you speak and etc plays a big factor on attractiveness.

merchant_of_mirrors · 2022-04-02T20:36:57+00:00

You're coming off as needy to the girls you like but not towards the ones you don't because you're not invested. Treat the the ones you're into like the other ones and you'll have better results

blkwzrd_lite · 2022-04-03T02:31:28+00:00

This problem resonates with me. I’m a handsome guy, people tell me that. But I’m not attracting the girls that I want, only ones I dont want. That did have to do with my self esteem and how I carry myself and my unwillingness to talk to cute girls. My confidence is increasing though

Sorry for making this about me, but just letting you know it’s a common issue

Calamity__Bane · 2022-04-02T10:29:51+00:00

It’s not looks, so the issue is probably some combination of game and not targeting the right people. Don’t think in terms of leagues.

universalvoid87 · 2022-04-02T14:39:40+00:00

You don’t have a high L, but you’re higher than the girl in the pic . Getting laid nowadays in some countries is hard, from cold approach even guys with better looks than you get rejected the majority of times

yoitsappy · 2022-04-02T18:02:30+00:00

You look good. Try fade with quiff type hairstyle. You should keep a beard

Quirky_Tale_9739 · 2022-04-03T07:50:38+00:00

It’s a matter of terrible game and also your self talk to yourself. Pm me if you want me to help you on a deeper level. I’ll help you for free.

Hugin93 · 2022-04-02T08:46:55+00:00

I would say from the looks you are above the girl in the picture. I think your main problem is self esteem. Focus on improving your game

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-04-02T17:44:07+00:00

It’s the looks.

I’m not saying you ugly.

But hot girls want hot guys.

angrypuppy35 · 2022-04-02T10:55:10+00:00

Your looks are not the problem. I’d say the girl is below you in league. She’s not attractive.

Edit: op don’t ask for peoples honest opinions if you’re going to downvote when you don’t like the answer

GripIsEverything · 2022-04-02T18:28:58+00:00

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BangaiiWatchman · 2022-04-03T02:08:09+00:00

I think you look good

igotthechinesevirus · 2022-04-03T04:03:00+00:00

You’re not bad looking. But remember that they always date up(hipergamy) and with the ego boost they get from Instagram and tinder, and 1 night stands With super hot dudes some girls are seeing themselves as waaaaay hotter than they really are.

Besides game and looks there’s also money or success.

MissionAd399 · 2022-04-03T04:37:41+00:00

Grow out your beard man, no homo I think you’d instantly become more attractive

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-03T05:42:26+00:00

Unless you’re a millionaire with looks, you’re at a distinct disadvantage being a male. Women just have too many options in the dating world. One of life’s harsh realities (and there’s many) is you don’t get the girl you want, you get the girl that wants you. Unfortunately, that might be someone that looks completely different then what you’re attracted to. Generally, we all settle for a lot less then what we wanted.

Sup3rHD · 2022-04-03T09:32:32+00:00

Man wtf the girl in the pic is a 4 lol
She is ugly in my opinion.

Go to the gym for You, lift some weight and dont think about this bullshit.

CraftyAd5327 · 2022-04-03T13:52:00+00:00

The girl out there smiling and your vibe is get me out of here

Honestly, self esteem sucks. You're not naturally bad looking actually decent or at least better than many but there's still upgrades to be made. E.g fashion sense, physique.

Stop caring about leagues or whatever. Superficial bullshit for me. It's either yes or no for me. The more you rank yourself towards other people is where it gets grimly

peachespointofview · 2022-04-03T15:26:06+00:00

They probably view you as an Old creep. The gray hairs are a give away. And the girl in the picture looks like a teenager. You’re not in her social setting.

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