My Tinder Opener

tramplemestilsken · 2016-01-25T16:03:05+00:00

I like feeling them out over messaging/text first. It's only about 20 messages before, "We should continue this conversation over a drink. Free tomorrow night?"

You don't need anything leading up to it, just ask it in the middle of the convo if you feel it's going well. That's just me though. If I wanted to put minimal effort and just wanted to bang, I think I like your approach.

recursoinominado · 2016-01-25T15:44:51+00:00

I actually liked this approach, it will cut out any flakers, girls that are there only to get attention or followers on Instagram. You will save an enormous amount of time. Will try.

TheRealYellowClaw · 2016-01-25T16:39:35+00:00

You're talking about demographics and that made me think. Tinder in the USA is more of a hookup app than in the country where I live.

I tried this kind of directness on Tinder before and so far every single girl said I'm going too fast for them.

X-espia · 2016-01-25T16:37:01+00:00

Step 4. Deny you know anything about Reddit or step 1-3.

Step 5. Find her GW pics.

Step 6. Profit.. I think

chadgarage · 2016-01-26T01:16:55+00:00

Got any screencaps of this actually working?

mmmzesty · 2016-01-25T19:35:29+00:00

My first message was "um Elise" and she responded with "yes" then this: http://m.imgur.com/bMzI7Kc Honesty works best on tinder, rather than stuff like "Netflix and chill?" If a girl wants to Netflix and chill, she will tell you.

epic_pig · 2016-01-25T23:39:14+00:00

There are no steps to success on Tinder; only rules - 2 of them.

xzak · 2016-01-25T14:37:58+00:00

Yea im sick of all the pointless chit chat waiting for hours for a reply. Hell im still waiting for this girl to respond to my invitation for a drink since last tuesday, doubt she will reply at all at this point.

Im gonna start doing that, but it seems girls are scared to just meet some guy from tinder.

notafishtoday · 2016-01-25T21:18:27+00:00

Love the name thing. It's the easiest way to get started. Just name and exclamation mark.

My follow up question is "how was your day?", I use this to find the conversationalists and weed out the bad ones.

In Melbourne I went on a ton of tinder dates. Had multiple girls going at the same time. It's not to brag but show mindset. I started like you, pushing for the first date, but it was expensive and took time. Slowly I began to talk longer online to get a feel if she was going to be a fun date.

Now I'm living in rural Japan. I'm talking to girls on tinder but the vibe is different. The nearest major city is 50 kms away. For this cost I want a connection before investing any more. Here it's an English study tool for Japanese girls.

peacemakerzzz · 2016-01-25T16:10:02+00:00

Well said, OP. Upvoted.

championchilli · 2016-01-25T15:19:27+00:00

I've been doing just the first name followed by exclamations, works a charm!!!

Tattered · 2016-01-25T16:39:45+00:00

Tindrs great but I could never find a good opener other than making some comment on their interests that just ends up being vapid conversation

blondedre3000 · 2016-01-26T03:04:43+00:00

I feel like this would be way better if you posted some examples. That said there's one huge mistake here: you're not qualifying them. It's great for setting up tons of dates, but you can get burned out doing that pretty quick. I'd much rather pick and choose the best matches that I know won't annoy the fuck out of me or make me wish I was doing anything else.

Anaron · 2016-01-25T14:56:06+00:00

It's good to be direct but that's too direct. I find it helps to build comfort with a short conversation first before taking things off Tinder. In my experience, it's better to plan things after getting her number.

darkvinc · 2016-01-25T15:10:51+00:00

Honestly guys if you think that tinder has anything else to do but your looks you are wrong and mistaken , Tinder is about looks and looks only , sure you'll have a good interaction once in a while but mind that the only reason you 2 are talking is that she said yes to this question in her head : Would I fuck him? ( please remember that girls on tinder have constant validation so they think their SMV is Way Higher than it really is )

If you get a match you're pretty much in her panties if you're not totally terrible ...

evilgenivs · 2016-01-25T16:54:36+00:00

Good for you bro. I always was very direct and I hate texting, no bullshit, cut the crap let's get to it. But I've had 0 Tinder "dates". This won't work for everyone.

abhigeek · 2016-01-25T19:12:45+00:00

So you can approach anyone in real life? Tell me how to approach a stranger(female). I can't think of any topic to talk. And I think out of blue will be awkward. Help me out.

moyno85 · 2016-01-26T03:21:34+00:00

ITT: Talk to women then ask them out.

JWPapi · 2016-01-26T09:01:01+00:00

I am one of these guys who is great at approaching and escalating and all the real life stuff. I love it. My problem has always been texting and anything remote. I'm not awful but I am just meh. Enter tinder.

same for me haha

MissDRock · 2016-01-26T09:02:37+00:00

Why would you ask her name? It's clearly listed right there. If someone asked me that, I wouldn't respond.

col998 · 2016-01-26T15:44:15+00:00

Just tried it on JSwipe. Worked. 1/1

You're a gentleman and a scholar sir. A true warrior-poet.

ZincMan · 2016-01-28T04:32:48+00:00

This is great. When she agrees to meet up how do you prevent flaking for the actual date? I feel the same, I'm much better in person, it's just hard to get girls not to flake on tinder

22inmyshoes · 2016-01-25T18:08:30+00:00

Hahahah

Ejwy · 2016-01-25T18:25:57+00:00

Title	My Tinder Opener
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	453
Comments	91
Date	January 25, 2016 2:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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