should skinny fat guy try getting a partner or he should prioritise getting in shape first

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-06-14T18:04:12+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

LunarNinja_ · 2024-06-14T14:41:29+00:00

Do both.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-06-14T14:55:36+00:00

I mean, you can continue to work on your social skills and work on getting in shape at the same time, you’re overthinking it

yeahyeahitsmeshhh · 2024-06-14T15:30:44+00:00

Do both. You also need to practice your charisma, logistics etc.

aiwendil_brown · 2024-06-14T15:14:28+00:00

I am “skinny fat” and I just started a serious relationship with a babe as of 4 months ago. More fat than skinny now.

MJC136 · 2024-06-14T14:35:41+00:00

Lol, you already know the answer.

LiquidLenin · 2024-06-14T16:52:11+00:00

I’m similar and I’m working on me. Always go for yourself first. If it’s an issue for you, it will be an issue for any partner

NedRyerson350 · 2024-06-14T17:11:14+00:00

Can I hijack this thread and ask the same question but as an actually fat guy? ( about 190lbs 5'7 ) Been hitting the gym etc and am down a lot from my peak but waiting till I lose a lot more.

Acrobatic-Parsley893 · 2024-06-14T17:38:10+00:00

Having no partner is a decent motivator to get in shape, yeah, go to the gym first

gim_san · 2024-06-14T15:15:29+00:00

What stops you from doing both?

copperbrow · 2024-06-14T16:51:25+00:00

Nah, man. Forget about getting a partner until you are perfect in every way. You must be richer than Jeff Bezos, look better than Brad Pitt, able to lift at least a thousand pounds, and then, after a decade or so of therapy, you could entertain a thought about getting to know someone.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-06-14T15:41:13+00:00

How fat is your version of skinny fat?

ExpensiveGrave · 2024-06-14T16:20:01+00:00

Go on a cut, do some weight lifting during, eat lots of protein, and lose the fat. Just be skinny until the winter and then bulk up. You don’t want to have any kind of fat during the summer.

devolve79 · 2024-06-14T16:39:59+00:00

Both my brother

vitoriobt7 · 2024-06-14T17:15:20+00:00

Do the gym for yourself. Also having a car and or playing the guitar will do wonders for your pp

AndyThePig · 2024-06-14T17:32:00+00:00

Skinny fat? It's a mix of all things, but I'd also prioritize hygiene and grooming as a priority in the sort term. Work on the fitness (you can't rush that), and absolutely make some effort to attracting/finding partners and stay open to possibilities in the mean time.

I was amazed at how differently I was treated by dropping just 25 lbs. I think you'll find the better you look, the more it opens doors. It SHOULDNT be that way, but the lizard brain is still making the first opinions.

PM_Teeny_Titties · 2024-06-14T17:41:18+00:00

Just work on yourself

Sandvicheater · 2024-06-14T17:54:27+00:00

We all have human needs both emotional and physical.

That being said during my Oprah Fat phase, I've been known to ONS cute but still considered pretty fat like they would be a club/bar 5.5 at best.

I of course never told a soul and that shit is going with me to the grave.

PeanutAnnual6119 · 2024-06-14T16:17:31+00:00

Bro it's literally the beginning of summer....get the fuck out of your house and go meet people. While also working out during the week and getting in shape. Once you start to see even some small gains in the gym that will give you way more confidence in yourself which will in turn help your game with women. You don't need to be in ridiculous shape to start talking to girls.

lolothe2nd · 2024-06-14T15:50:17+00:00

Social skills and hight are more important than being fit.. im fit, abit mascular.. and lonley as hell lol

Silly_Randy · 2024-06-14T15:31:16+00:00

Do both.

Nature2Love · 2024-06-14T15:40:11+00:00

Mate, I was classed as obese a few years ago. I lost 100lbs+ and I'm still soft in places and my body isn't ideal, but I still approach, date, along with going to the gym regularly. No reason you have to prioritise one over the other. Go out, approach, date, socialise, meet new people, gain new skills, take up new hobbies, go to the gym, travel. You can do it all. The world's your oyster and life is too short.

AlphabeticalMedical · 2024-06-14T16:42:47+00:00

Looks like you need to fix your mindset and limiting beliefs first.

PrinceDestin · 2024-06-14T16:50:19+00:00

However you feel, I know lots of bad bitches that like fat niggas, one size doesn’t fit all for women, but I mean if you want to look your best get your ass in the gym

Dcm210 · 2024-06-14T17:37:48+00:00

Find a partner who can work out with you and help you get into shape.

Title	should skinny fat guy try getting a partner or he should prioritise getting in shape first
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Date	June 14, 2024 2:27 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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