Simple Question: PORN

TheSicilianDude · 2019-04-04T17:06:32+00:00

I’m trying to do a porn free 2019 (so far so good). I have read up on the effects of porn on the brain and, while I don’t think it’s “settled” yet, it doesn’t look good.

Since giving it up, I’ve noticed I find girls way sexier and I’m not comparing them to porn stars anymore. It also helps seeing them more as actual humans and not sex objects.

I also HATE the post-nut, clearing history feeling. I always think about how I could have spent that time doing something more productive like actually meeting real girls. And the thought of watching videos of other dudes getting laid kills my confidence. I’m capable of meeting someone real and getting laid myself, I don’t need to be doing that shit.

Long story short, I think porn made me weaker.

No judgment of guys who watch it. Just my 2c.

WhiteningMcClean · 2019-04-04T18:54:00+00:00

Watching porn has two main effects: one good and one bad. Which one ends up overriding the other depends on the individual and their situation.

Porn doesn't necessarily negatively affect your ABILITY to get girls. It does, however, affect your MOTIVATION. Getting laid takes work. Choking the chicken provides you with an easy, failure-proof way to relieve sexual urges when they come about. It's not as satisfying, but it's quick, free, easy, and requires little skill.

However, there is a such thing as TOO much motivation. Few things turn a woman off like desperation, which is a state you may find yourself in if you have no other outlet for your horn-doggery. The more it seems like you're actively trying to get laid, the less likely it is to happen. It's an unfortunate paradox, and why porn can be helpful to some.

So basically, it comes down to which is the bigger issue: not sacking up and approaching women, or coming across as too desperate and reactive when you do.

zwishstickz · 2019-04-04T18:31:45+00:00

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PianoOwl · 2019-04-04T16:47:05+00:00

Curious to hear people’s answers too.

stronkpk · 2019-04-05T00:54:47+00:00

Actually if I dont wank enough I tend to fuck up fast and bad with girls since in my mind there's only "I want to fuck this girl so bad"

doinkesque · 2019-04-04T19:25:24+00:00

For me most of the sex that I’ve had (I’ve only had short-term flings and one-night stands) wasn’t that great and it took me forever to realize that porn and over-masturbation was probably the issue. It kills sensitivity and more so motivation to even meet women. I go out rarely but when I do I see girls checking me out and I don’t feel like even interacting with them due to this addiction that I can’t shake.

AndroidProject · 2019-04-04T19:22:12+00:00

I think it depends on the person. I am watching porn almost every day and it did not affect my game or anything related to that in any way. I am always horny and find a lot of girls sexy. I read about the effects it has on your brain but for me at least, it does not matter at all.

FBS998 · 2019-04-04T21:04:52+00:00

Wow... I actually havent watched porn in a while... I read it now and imatine hahaha and lemme tell you it feels much better

IntoxicatedOrange · 2019-04-05T00:10:20+00:00

I don't think so. I quit watching porn cold turkey at the beginning of 2019 and it hasn't made any discernible difference yet. I'm going to keep avoiding it though because I think it's just a sad existence to use it.

Its_A_Nice_Day · 2019-04-05T22:19:18+00:00

whenever I cut out porn, I pull way more girls and connect with people way more.

In fact, when I'm watching porn all the time, I have low success and almost zero initiative.

so personally I hardly watch it anymore, as it weakens my social drive, drive to approach/call girls, likeliness to follow up etc.

Make much better eye contact, better body language, more intimate personal connection without it. Shit, many times when I'm porn bingeing I just turn into a bitch ass hermit like I'm a scared middle schooler again.

Fuck porn.

run_fast-eat_ass · 2019-04-04T20:03:55+00:00

Personally, I started to limit my porn use as much as I could because it was low-key causing me some erectile dysfunction. Plus, if I don't wank or wank less, I tend to be more driven during sex or sexual situations. If I were you, limit your use to as little as you can; it will probably make it easier to talk to girls because the sexual tension within you might make you more confident.

Dilpil01 · 2019-04-05T01:44:39+00:00

I don't think it's inherently bad in small doses during dry spells. However it can effectively sedate you libido and it reduces your hunger to go get a girl. In this way it is bad, because you need that hunger as motivation to make things happen.

gtrman571 · 2019-04-05T02:45:08+00:00

It boggles my mind that this is still a debate - Literally nothing good will come from indulging in it...

f9RfsR · 2019-04-05T07:48:23+00:00

as soon as i stop watching porn/masturbate i'm hungry. less in a " i am so desperate" but more in a " i got to talk to this girl". and this hunger makes me in a non-creepy way to just get what i want.

it helps being more "alpha"

urmyheartBeatStopR · 2019-04-05T11:39:20+00:00

Do you think watching porn effects your ability to get girls?

No. I've seen my friend that watch TONS of fucking porn and he can get girls and dates. Dude can spot porn star and sprout out porn names like nobody business.

I have a buddy who NEVER watched porn until college and rarely at all and he got shit lucks with girls. They both do pua. One of them RSD and the other some old ass company that went bankrupt.

Maybe it's just two data points but there were porn way back then just with different medium/form. Humanity haven't die off yet.

I don't claim to be a doctor or expert. But I think it's just one of those informational age bullshit cult thinking. Like #cleaneat where the chick almost killed herself and had to switch from veganism to eating fish. Or antivaxxer.

zincSF · 2019-04-05T18:17:25+00:00

No.

It may however dramatically affect your level of desire to "get girls", or more pragmatically cause you to put in far less or no effort. A dog that's just eaten a big meal (even if it was low in nutrition!) don't hunt.

Your "ability to get girls" is your skill and your value. Your desire to get girls is orthogonal to your skill and value. Being sexually satisfied almost certainly reduces short term desire. And your actions...well, you may have very high desire, but your inner weasel often still blocks you from executing.

Everyone's different. Try no porn for a week and no popping your nut; did it make you go out and do the gaming work or not? Only you can figure out how it impacts you.

likeAboss008 · 2019-04-04T22:01:06+00:00

No its propaganda in disguise. Wake up.

tizokoko · 2019-04-05T14:16:53+00:00

Tbh when i quit pmo, i felt genuinely attracted to girls in general Putting them on pedestal or not has nothing to do with pmo When you quit pmo , you’ll encounter with some placebos but in both cases its win -win

mseand · 2019-04-04T22:55:14+00:00

Nope, I watch porn and I'm prolly the most advanced in this thread.

Title	Simple Question: PORN
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Date	April 4, 2019 4:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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No its propaganda in disguise. Wake up.