The best advice I was ever told was this:

To be a ‘player’ or a ‘ladies’ man’ is not about sticking out or bringing attention or reputation towards you. A true player always flies under the radar. He is the average guy simply talking to a chick at the bar, or the guy who you hardly took notice of during your night out. A true Player would never call himself a player; he wouldn't like what it represents. Instead he might reply when accused “nah man I’m just having a good time” all the while understanding what you’re on about but not interested in the mentality that comes along with it. A true player would never want to be known as a ‘Player’.

Once I truly understood this to its depths, my whole game plan changed.