What do you do that empowers you after all the rejections/negative comments/etc?

lil_trappy_boi · 2025-02-28T02:36:44+00:00

Crackin a cold one w the boys

Simple_Fun9268 · 2025-02-28T03:24:58+00:00

You can't get girls w/o rejection. It's just part of the process.

therealwoujo · 2025-02-28T02:23:45+00:00

I have done this so long that I know that the fun of the successes outweighs the pain of the rejections by far. But you have to learn from the rejections to get to that point.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-02-28T04:20:00+00:00

It can be discouraging yes. See my post on how to manage your difficult emotions infield. The mentality of "as long you went to practice what you were supposed to practice, you can sleep happy at night." also helps.

4scentsin1day · 2025-02-28T02:39:24+00:00

Next.

Keep moving don’t stop. Use it as motivation to try harder

everydayguy_ · 2025-02-28T10:15:00+00:00

Stop going out with getting numbers/laid as your primary objective. The enjoyment of your night will be entirely outcome dependant. Just go out to enjoy the nightlife.

I would even go as far as to stop getting your numbers up as your primary objective in life.

Focus on making yourself feeling happy and healthy. That in turn will help you with your sense of value. Detach your self worth from women. It is challenging to do so as we are bombarded with Pitbull music videos signalling the notion that if you aren’t laying up with 20 supermodels you must be a loser.

Focus on building internal true self esteem/confidence. Do things that make you feel happy and learn skills that make you feel like a valuable man in the world. When you have enough evidence to support the claim that you are indeed a competent and attractive man you won’t give 10 fucks if women like you or not. Which makes them like you.

Quartrez · 2025-02-28T07:06:43+00:00

Go at it again.

I spent far too much time when I was younger rejecting myself and never approaching because I was convinced women were not attracted to me.

So if I get rejected, I brush it off and I go again. Because once in a while, a girl will say yes. And it is very much worth it.

Also when you get to a certain age, you realize you don't have the luxury of wasting time dwelling on such things. The most efficient thing to do to get what you want is to move on and go at it again.

Maple_Mercury_Men · 2025-02-28T04:53:20+00:00

You literally need to tell yourself: “The virtue of others is directly proportional to their interest in and attraction to me”. It sounds psycho, but then you end up only giving a shit, about the stuff that go your way, and ignore the rest.

Jironasaurus · 2025-02-28T12:01:13+00:00

I talk to my mentor. The power of having one is he always provides a different perspective and it helps reframe how I see things at times. He also provides very useful ways for me to move forward and do better.

So at the very least, find yourself a good support network in real life. They will help shield you against the rejections. Ideally, it should be a small community of like-minded friends. Don't go at this alone. You'll drown under the weight in the long term.

Frequent_Limit337 · 2025-03-01T15:32:05+00:00

Here's the thing right... if you truly value yourself, you shouldn't have to renew your self-worth. If you receive negative comments that make you question your self-worth, the simple solution is to recognize it's an alien voice and not truly what you think about yourself. If you you get rejected, instead of having the mindset "oh, I'm so lucky she's giving me the time of day", you have to think that she's lucky that your giving HER the time of day. If she rejects you then she is foolish, respectively, because that's how high your self-worth is. You can still love yourself more and have empathy for others.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-03-02T18:49:13+00:00

Over time you just suck it up and realize it's part of life. Think from the woman's perspective as well. If you get hit on all the time, you would probably be annoyed too. I know someone who is a popular online influencer and he used to love the flattery but now goes out of his way to avoid crowds. People don't want to be bothered all the time. And attractive women get bothered a whole lot. Respect that. If they reject you, don't take it personally.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2025-02-28T02:50:37+00:00

Jesus christ guys, get a pair. Just live your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Life is full of rejection. Focus on becoming a best version of yourself and things will come together

Dwerg1 · 2025-02-28T04:08:30+00:00

I killed my ego. I saw through the illusion that being rejected by someone who doesn't even fucking know me says anything at all about me, it doesn't. So what is there to feel bad about when you stop thinking you're so damn important? Nothing really, unless you've got negative self-talk, but quitting won't get rid of that anyways.

CoachSlyDating · 2025-02-28T05:53:00+00:00

There is no such thing as a rejection only a lack of chemistry. She had poor taste.

The people that “reject” me cease to exist after that moment. They can either be a part of my life or they can continue being NPC wallflowers in my movie. Their opinion means zero.

Read the 6 pillars of self esteem by nathaniel branden.

Cheers,

Coach Sly

pindarico · 2025-02-28T14:17:28+00:00

It is said that Thomas Edison failed 10000 times before making the lightbulb. Keep grinding! Also, you are not at your best everyday! Maybe your energy was not on point! Forget about it! Enjoy the ride! Sometimes rejections are also funny? Maybe you have a good story!

Amaran345 · 2025-02-28T15:01:40+00:00

I've found that lifting weights helps, it releases a bit of testosterone that helps to recover emotional regulation after an overload of rejections and negative responses.

Having secure friends helps a lot too, reliable and dependable people that sort of "restore faith in humanity", they are like a golden reference of how a healthy person should be, they listen and can offer support

nikeAir_mids · 2025-03-01T10:28:27+00:00

I'm not outcome dependent and don't see rejection as bad. Sure, if someone constantly fails then the one needs to re-evaluate his strategies.

But walking up and saying hi to girls is a succes on its own. And negative comments only came from incels who are afraid to approach

Glacier_Sama · 2025-03-01T13:00:16+00:00

Improve yourself. Each time, you will get better, until you become the best

Sherman140824 · 2025-03-04T11:13:30+00:00

Nature is the medicin

shitacct · 2025-02-28T04:48:59+00:00

Fart in a crowded elevator.

Title	What do you do that empowers you after all the rejections/negative comments/etc?
Author	darkronin_95
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Date	February 28, 2025 2:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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