going to do it.

BosPatriot71 · 2022-10-30T00:51:34+00:00

Keep strong, man.

Sweetcheecks4 · 2022-10-30T03:12:49+00:00

If you were contemplating , and are ready then do it . No need to be miserable or depressed. You can only control yourself . I held on for so long because I wanted to stay true to my vows but I learned no matter how much I wanted it I can't control my STEX . I can only control myself and my efforts and it's a two way street. It gets worse before it gets better then it gets great ! Just keep going and do everything with good intentions you can go wrong . I am rooting for you

San_Ra · 2022-10-30T05:42:55+00:00

Its hard. Its a different hard. Im sitting here on the shitter thinking how hard it is but its a hardship that i brought into.

The marriage turned to custard. It got hard. It got painfull. I lost so much of my self my friends you name it. It mentally distroyed me. I didnt buy into that.

Divorce: its hard. Reclaiming myself. My finances. My independence. My kids. Its mentally draining. Theres days i dont want to get out of bed. Its hard but its hard because your building something. Not hard because your being destroyed

Thats my feelings anyway.

akihonj · 2022-10-30T09:09:26+00:00

You're not scared of filing you're scared of the unknown, you're scared to figure out, to have to figure out what comes next.

So let's outline it for you to make it a little less scary.

You're going to hit seriously low lows, like really bad. You're going to have money worries and you're going to wonder what you do next.

You're going to have days that you'll wake up and you'll be super hopeful for the future and days when you're utterly broken.

Eventually that all ends, by then you'll already be established in your new life, you'll find you already have a plan for how your future is going to look and you'll feel the weight of it all lifted and you'll feel lighter and easier.

FunkyTownMascot · 2022-10-30T01:13:44+00:00

What's your situation?

captainchippsixx · 2022-10-30T03:45:27+00:00

Time for battle. You say fuck it and put your armor on and stand your ground.

Americanjello · 2022-10-30T03:50:41+00:00

I’m in it now. It’s not gonna be easy, but like, I’ve come to realize, stuff worth doing or having isn’t easy to do or have. Don’t move out if you have kids.

samk002001 · 2022-10-30T14:56:38+00:00

It’s probably for the best of you and your family! Stay strong and keep your head high, and be careful of false accusations and restraining order, etc. Prepare, prepare, prepare. Wish you the best

Crazy-Championship-4 · 2022-10-30T01:17:16+00:00

You’re the dude whose wife is out partying with no ring?

email68 · 2022-10-30T03:49:32+00:00

Filing removes control. If at all possible try to meditate.

Beamformer · 2022-10-30T04:33:56+00:00

stay strong.

soontobesolo · 2022-11-01T12:25:10+00:00

Good for you. I'm in the process now. It's really awesome reading all about those guys who've been through this and are cheering for us. There is light on the other side brother. Keep moving toward it. Ultimately the only thing you'll regret is that you didn't do this earlier.

Title	going to do it.
Author	Hour-Sky5097
Upvotes	17
Comments	17
Date	October 30, 2022 12:50 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/yh0d87/going_to_do_it/
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