This is a very valid point.

West-Cook · 2020-08-07T19:03:56+00:00

For the younger ladies here, even if he’s 15, you should still walk away from red flags. He might be capable of changing, but he won’t change if he isn’t given a reason to.

QueenRizla · 2020-08-07T18:41:57+00:00

As Judge Judy says: He won't change, he's Cooked

Xlunas · 2020-08-07T19:10:40+00:00

A red flag is a red flag. I don't care if he's young; raising him is not my responsibility.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-08-07T20:33:29+00:00

This is so true. But I would argue that you could even go younger than that. The only reason I would give someone the benefit of the doubt is when you're both very young and inexperienced and eliminate the behavior early and easily.

My first big love was 19 when I met him and I just turned 18. He displayed some red flags, as I did at the time. The red flags came from us being very young and inexperienced. We talked about it and constructively solved the issues right in the beginning and no red flag was dropped in that relationship ever again.

If a 19 year old frat boy knows how emotional intelligence works, a grown ass men should know it too. It's not about 'being developed', it's about character.

throwaway23004345 · 2020-08-07T17:26:10+00:00

After 25 they are trash too, don’t worry

warinmymind94 · 2020-08-07T20:02:40+00:00

If he's an adult and he's leaving his socks all over the floor, leaving dirty dishes, hangs his towels or outfit over a door, leaves his trash lay around, doesn't put his laundry in the hamper, and cant/won't cook for himself... he's not gonna change or get better.

Be careful of lvm pretending to be high value. Some will fool you even with vetting. Always pay attention to how they keep their place. I had one fake having a clean nice apartment the first time. When he was asleep check his fridge or pantry to see if is actual food and groceries, or just condiments and fast food trash. Check his shower when you're in the bathroom see if its actually dirty or if he uses actual soaps rather than just 3 in 1 or bar soap.

These signs are all red flags he is low value. You aren't his mom and literal pigs are cleaner.

gscoutj · 2020-08-07T18:24:03+00:00

Agree! But it’s 27 for men :) 25 for women.

oh_botha · 2020-08-08T04:33:08+00:00

Just walk away from red flags regardless of age or gender.

Edit: I’ve stayed too long with both AFAB and AMAB folks that were both older and younger. Red flags are red flags.

Title	This is a very valid point.
Author	breadandbunny
Upvotes	1542
Comments	28
Date	August 7, 2020 4:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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