Hi Ladies,

I've had an epiphany. Men who rush for sex, know that's all they have to offer. They know they aren't worth getting to know. They know, they can't keep up the "nice guy" act beyond a few dates. These men are masking their inferiority as men, and rushing for the "gold" (aka sex), before you can figure them out. They know, you will eventually ghost them, when you realize how little they truly have to offer!

Basically, men who rush for sex are scam artists. They presume they'll be found out soon enough and have to get their loot quickly. Just like a bank robber who wants to be in and out within 5 minutes, because he knows the cops are on the way. He has no time for pleasantries and chatting with the bank teller or the other patrons. Being friendly or personable isn't his focus. He has to move quickly, or else it was all for nothing.

How is this a fresh take? Well, let's examine their opposite: the HVM.

Being an HVM is HARD AF. Think about it...

It means:

  • being responsible,
  • respectable/respectful,
  • well-groomed,
  • well educated/cultured,
  • having social grace,
  • having impulse control/being patient,
  • being moral/ethical.

Not to forget, being financially stable and a contributing member of society.

How many men do you really know who can pull all of this off??? I'll wait...

While that sounds hopeless, it isn't. But it does put in sharp focus, that HVMs are a rarity and exceptional human beings.

Now back to men who rush for sex. They know they can't rise up to that level as a man. They can't afford (literally) to play the "long game" (marriage, kids, actual responsibilities). So they settle themselves into ONS material. Deep down these guys are full of disdain for themselves. That's why they project outwards after ONS and resort to ghosting and preying on the next unsuspecting victim. They have to keep a full roster of "plates". New women, who don't know how little worth these guys truly have. Couple that with the fact that most men have become complacent from easy/cheap dopamine sources: video games, porn, social media, gambling (aka stonks/crypto)...they're no longer incentivized by society to go the "extra mile".

And if you have the misfortune of getting one of these ONS types of guys into a full-fledged relationship...you WILL realize how little they have to offer in terms of basic conversation, companionship, romance, and partnership. They haven't cultivated these skills.

So the worst of them resort to flawed ideologies like trp and manosphere crap. They're looking for a "manual" of sorts, to get them to the "prize" (sex), BEFORE a woman can figure out how weak, lame, uninspired, and unimpressive they really are!

So to reiterate: Men who rush for sex, says very little about the woman. It says the most about the man and how he views himself. He is counting on YOU ghosting him eventually (sooner, rather than later), and simply pulls the trigger first (in a petty attempt to spare his ego from the fallout of actually being called out).

Anyway, that's my fresh take on this.

Please let me know in the comments, your take!