There was a thread on r/malementalhealth about a man who was forcefully kissed and groped by a woman in a pool. Before telling his story though, he felt the need to preface it with some pandering to feminism. Possibly out of fear of people not accepting his story if he didn't preemptively signal himself as an "ally". And possibly because he actually believes some of that stuff too.

He went so far as to question if she was justified in assaulting him because of "how women are treated under the patriarchy".

This is where we can see feminist theory enforcing it's own set of rigid gender norms that aren't that different from traditionalist gender norms.

People will argue that feminism is supposed to "help men" and then say "it's not just about female superiority" but in this case the real world application of feminism is just that. Because OP is a man, he has internalized systemic and institutional feminist messaging in society that he's not as important as a woman and should "man up" instead.

1 in 6 men are victims of rape. 1 in 3 are victims of domestic violence, stalking, and sexual harassment. This person's experience is somewhere between these two so he is not alone. And from a scientific / academic standpoint, it contradicts feminist theory, especially modern intersectionalist theory as proposed by people like Bell Hooks. Which claims that men are never raped or abused, except occasionally by other men, or by their parents as children, due to violence being "patriarchal".

These theories don't line up with reality, and they are responsible for enforcing toxic gender norms and beliefs in society. So if we care about equality and helping men, we really ought to be against this stuff. And feminists really ought to try and modify their theories so that they don't inadvertently enforce their own brand of toxic gender norms.