Should I end the relationship?

axiscontra · 2023-11-30T07:45:39+00:00

Its up to you tbh, but the grass is greenest where you water it.

tryntofeelgood · 2023-11-30T08:27:51+00:00

On the flip side, you have a girl that you seem to enjoy, and seems to love you very much. You could just as easily look back in 2/3/5 years and regret giving up a good relationship simply bc you were getting attention from other women and wanted to fuck them. Like another commenter said, the grass is greener where you water it.

We’re programmed to fuck, you’ll always want to bang hot chicks. Relationship or not. Just depends what’s more important to you in the long run

Semperlnvictus · 2023-11-30T12:15:41+00:00

A women‘s loyalty gets tested when her man has nothing, a man‘s when he has everything. You currently feel like you have everything. First of all congratulations on your current success, well done brother. Like someone here already stated, the grass looks always greener at the other side, but it’s greenest where you water it. You seem to have a good girlfriend that’s not only physically attractive to you but who also loves you a lot. I’m being honest with you, throwing that away is something you might or might not regret in the future. Even though you have not set your eyes on marriage yet, which is completely fine btw, you maybe will in the future. Could you imagine marrying her in 3-5 years or is it something you just can’t imagine with THIS specific person? IMO meaningless hook up sex becomes a waste of time at a certain age.

DearSail7885 · 2023-11-30T08:20:07+00:00

Marriage is not related to hot body cause hot body won't be hot after few years so make sure u understand each other if u wanna think about marriage

Used_Hovercraft9634 · 2023-11-30T09:45:45+00:00

I'll tell you my story. Had a really good connection with a girl for the first time back in 2018 and being with her made me feel quite complete and self assured. This led to me getting attention from a LOT of women. And obviously over time I started allowing their advances. So in short I've now been with a lot of different women and that original relationship doesn't really exist anymore. And while it's all good fun I've found that at this point I'm addicted to attention from women and also always looking for a new girl, and it doesn't help that I succeed a lot because I don't think I can ever settle down again just because of how much fun it is. And at times I wish to be with just one but don't really trust them and will always have other women at the back of my mind. If what you have now means a lot I suggest just stick with it otherwise you might dig yourself a hole like me. I just can't quite find myself completely caring for one girl because I get distracted by others.

Amazing_Egg · 2023-11-30T13:25:21+00:00

Trust us, I tried hook up culture, is not worth it, I did it because I believe it was the only way to have attention from women and was the best way to create a rel with them.

I regret it every second of it, I am actually glad that you wrote here, so you can have a chance to learn and make things right.

You will feel 1000% better forming a relationship with a great women (someone who commits and respects you) you will have better experiences!!

Phenom_Mv3 · 2023-11-30T09:18:56+00:00

You’ll regret that move years down the line.

rossquincy007 · 2023-11-30T08:17:45+00:00

Basically you want to fuck other chicks aka be non monogamous but too scared to tell her because she told you she wants marriage, so then you’re asking us random strangers on the internet permission to end it. Am I right?

PiperBigBell · 2023-11-30T15:22:28+00:00

One thing I learned is that she'll inevitably leave you for playing games. She has a structure for the future. You don't. If you don't provide leadership skills and tell her what's going to happen and when or at least ballpark it, she'll stray and get pissed.

But that's her fault for dating a man who is not intentional about his life. Also your excuse for wanting to leave her is shitty and full of massive projection brother. "(Due to her cheating or any other reason)". No my guy, you want to cheat and assume she will because you're the one with the options, or so you think.

You don't know what you want and your ego is fragile. You likely felt undesired and unwanted all this time and your new confidence is only exposing what was always inside you. A man who needs womens sex and validation to feel good. Not knocking human nature . . It's what it is. People with options naturally discard people and devalue them.

So until you know who you are and what you want, leave this girl alone and figure out slowly how both fragile and futile the desires of your ego really are. We all know you're gonna smash everything anyway.

earthwalker7 · 2023-11-30T08:20:30+00:00

Prob not a great idea to F your coworker, if you value your career that is. Dunno what your industry is tho so DYOR.

Leonhart93 · 2023-11-30T14:08:42+00:00

Why? Has the "success" gone to your head? Sex might not be hard to come by going forward, but good non-problematic relationships are RARE these days. Do not rush to end something good OR find problems where there might be none.

And you will definitely have more sex in a relationship with someone that desires you, rather than a random ho from time to time.

Allthingsconsidered- · 2023-11-30T11:29:07+00:00

You seem to be in a great, stable relationship (although all you mentioned about your girl was her physique…). But you want to chase the attention other women are giving you. That’s ok, but why did you get into a serious relationship to begin with if that’s what you wanted? All you’re feeling is FOMO.

penny_can · 2023-11-30T15:11:19+00:00

There are a number of factors for you to consider:

If you don't see her as a wife, it's probably best that you start slowly moving in the direction of ending it, stringing her along forever is just being mean to her. So is cheating on her.

Ending a relationship with a known quantity just to play around dramatically increases your chances of sticking your dick in crazy. I have seen the results of sticking your dick in crazy. It's not pretty.

Your stated ability to attract women's attention is to some degree a result of you having a girlfriend.

Your ability to attract women, if you maintain what you have achieved so far, will only increase as you age.

There will alway be things you will have wished you did or did not do looking back. It is just as likely that you will regret ending it with her years down the road as there is not ending it. You can what-if yourself to death about nearly anything.

While it is probably true that women cannot love men entirely the way men wish they would, it is possible to get to a point a man can live with.

Don't fuck the co-worker.

midoriringo · 2023-11-30T16:37:58+00:00

Strongly suggest nurturing the relationship that you have. Throwing it away for hook ups will likely lead to major regret. As said elsewhere here, grass is greenest where you water it. It sounds like you have a good thing going here, don’t fuck it up.

thetonybvd · 2023-11-30T08:56:04+00:00

Unwanted dread game is crazy but personally i wouldn't break up with a girl who want me for real. Hooking up with girls will be a loss of time

Looks like you want to be unloyal or cheating, you should break up and let her find a guy she can settle down seriously with.

Amazing_Egg · 2023-11-30T12:13:29+00:00

Damn and y’all call women hypergamous? You’re doing the same thing. Even tho I don’t think you should marry or be in a relationship with someone you don’t want, I think it’s stupid to leave them because other people are staring at you flirtatiously, or because you think your coworker want to bang.

Tousen71 · 2023-11-30T14:37:35+00:00

You don’t need to get married tomorrow but if you’ve got a good girl, that’s more important than a random hole. Trust me. You can go out and fuck 100 bitches and after awhile you realize it’s just a novel experience (sexually) but ultimately meaningless in the post-nut clarity.

Give your relationship another year or so and see if you get bored. If not, you got a keeper.

Don_Draper27 · 2023-11-30T17:10:42+00:00

It’s normal to be unsure of a LTR as a guy. Biologically, men want to spread their seed to as many women as possible. So it is unnatural for a man to be 100% content being monogamous.

The marriage thing is a cop out. I know because I broke up with an LTR of 5 years for the same reason. You can have “the talk” and give the ultimatum, and if she does leave you because marriage is a deal breaker, then there you go. Do the villain arc thing and hit the gym harder.

Again, like someone else said. Grass is greener. Every guy here can agree that being single after a breakup is super highs and lows. You’ll miss the shit out of your ex when you get ghosted by a hottie after a first date that went nowhere, and you’ll feel on top of the world when you f-close on the first date.

Ideally, just consider things logically. Does your LTR provide value to your life? Does she do your grocery shopping for you? Does she walk your dog for you? Does she fulfill you sexually?

bambam12367 · 2023-11-30T13:38:02+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRvVSoJ6/ ..look at this

Sir_Distic · 2023-11-30T15:40:29+00:00

Sit her down and explain to her that you're not going to get married. Not to her, not to anyone. Let her know that if she wants to end things and find someone who will get married then she's free to do that.

But don't string her along, don't cheat on her and don't fuck your coworker. She can claim sexual harassment and then you're out of a job or worse.

jsauce2013 · 2023-12-01T03:02:02+00:00

Option 1: hang on to the reliable booty even tho you’re bored with it. (This always ends badly for a red pilled guy). Option 2: let her go and choose variety over reliability. You do what you want, but in my experience, no pussy becomes better than reliable pussy 10 times out of 10. We are hard wired to crave variety. And this craving will be there for as long as you have a sex drive. Don’t torture yourself by eating the same plate of food for every meal for years on end. Get out there and taste some different food. Good luck.

FagDecapitator69420 · 2023-12-10T16:05:35+00:00

WAKE UP BRO , NO ONE IS STARING AT YOU , NO ONE IS LOOKING AT YOU BESIDES THAT POOR GIRL GOD KNOWS WHY , YOUR CO WORKER MIGHT FIRE YOU AT BEST. THE ONLY REASON YOU REJECTED SEX WAS BECAUSE OF YOUR CONFIDENCE ISSUES AND THAT THEY WERE GONNA LAUGH AT YOUR MINUSCULE PENIS. YOU'RE PROBABLY VEGAN AS WELL , GO RUB YOURSELF AGAINST THE GRASS OXYGEN THIEF

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DearSail7885 · 2023-11-30T16:25:26+00:00

I cannot see us getting married like she expects us to.

Then what's the point of continuing this relationship? You're wasting each other's time.

Encrypted587 · 2023-11-30T17:18:36+00:00

Ditch her she is trying to control you, go out and have fun

Tek_Analyst · 2023-11-30T14:40:22+00:00

What makes you feel you don’t see a LTR with this girl OP?

Or are you strictly talking about marriage?

2023-11-30T19:38:39+00:00

I'd get married. Go find some marriage pre counseling checklists from David Gottman, I think.

TRPSenpai · 2023-11-30T19:59:40+00:00

If you're on great terms with her, why not just get her interested in threesomes?

I dropped a relationship 6 years ago that would have resulted in marriage, and I had some of the most fun in my life with all sorts of beautiful women. I recently got dumped, and I look upon that relationship alot more fondly now, and do wonder how things would have turned out if I stuck through it. Definitely some lingering regret.

You also have factor in the fact that: your girlfriend... thus preselection is what's driving alot of women's attraction to you. Let's say you break up with her, but then your hot co-worker doesn't want to fuck you after all... and was just a tease. You lost a sure thing, and natural pre-selection of dating a hot chick for a chance.

Wolfgang985 · 2023-12-01T04:42:29+00:00

She’s great, hot body, works out, really good to me.

She's a keeper.

I cannot see us getting married like she expects us to.

Why?

I’m also at a point in my life where the attention from women is insane.

Yeah, that's what happens when you're not a loser and have a beautiful woman at your side. Other women want to take her place.

I’m also 99% sure ny co-worker wants to fuck me too.

You're probably right, but pass on her. Banging coworkers typically leads to weird shit. Also, you already have a rockstar of a woman.

Sounds like you're thinking with your dick instead of your brain.

miamiric3 · 2023-12-01T13:58:55+00:00

Depending on how old you are, you should date until you’re 37% of your lifespan done. Then marry the first person you meet better than everyone in that 37%.

I’ll just leave this here… https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/02/16/when-to-stop-dating-and-settle-down-according-to-math/

OJ_Did_It_1743 · 2023-12-01T17:35:15+00:00

No old man lays dying in his deathbed wishing he had f**ked more chicks. He looks back at what he’s accomplished and the legacy he’s left the world.

I would explore within yourself why you’re choosing to remain in a relationship that you don’t see yourself in long-term. Is there something involving closeness you’re avoiding? Are there some red flags your brain is overlooking but your body is screaming about?

Ok_Management4634 · 2023-12-02T03:01:56+00:00

It seems like you've already made up your mind that you want to move on and play the field, you just want us to give you approval? If you are worried about looking back and considering this relationship "wasted time", haven't you already made up your mind? If you really enjoyed spending time with her, you wouldn't have this "Fear of missing out" attitude.

I really can't give you advice on what to do.

Edit: never get married , no matter how great the woman seems.. That means "I don't see marrying this woman" is really not a valid reason to break up, because you should not be looking for a woman to get married too. Marriage is a horrible deal for men. It destroys men's lives.

Majestic-Strength557 · 2023-12-02T04:33:23+00:00

Only thing I can say, is I've been there. Dope girlfriend, feeling alright, lots of attention. But women are fucked up. I've never received the same level of attention as a single man, as I have from women that knew I was in a relationship while I was. It's like a sick game for them. They view getting you to fuck them as some sort of sadistic victory.

5leepy__ · 2023-12-17T02:32:47+00:00

Never let go of a winning horse, open-door policy.

swimmingatlakecresva · 2024-01-02T09:48:39+00:00

sometimes in the casino of life is knowing when to cash in your chips rather than thinking you can win it all and lose everything.....

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Title	Should I end the relationship?
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Date	November 30, 2023 7:35 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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